Parent messaged me to complain about DH

This. I'm sure most have seen one.

Yuck. Sounds like you’re well suited.
I just don’t think joking about your kid buying Razzle is funny and I also have a sense of himour. Maybe just a bit more developed.

I guess some of the mums on here would have told their daughters (and dd’s friend) if the wifi wasn’t working to go get themselves some magazines with dick pics in them? Yes, or more likely no?

It’s definitely a mountain out of a molehill. I can’t believe the friend went running to mummy and even worse the mum messaging you. It was lad’s banter. I love your OH’s response to her message. You’re spot on. If her son is going in to a trade she’s in for a hell of a shock as is her son. Some of the responses on here make me think they’ve never been around older teenage boys! My son’s played rugby and all I can say is the songs they sang are full of innuendo and sexual references.

I agree that the dad should get his mind out of the gutter, but if you think what's available on a top shelf of a newsagent is any more explicit/misogynistic than anything a teenager can see online with a mobile phone and a VPN, then I don't think you've been on the internet very much.

I think the point most of us are trying to make is that it's nothing to do with OP, so it's totally inappropriate for the other mother to be messaging her to complain.

Yes, it's grubby and yes, it was a shit joke, but it's nothing to do with OP. It's not her job to police what her DH says or to deal with complaints about it.

Instead of thinking someone has to get used to misogyny maybe we should be encouraging people to speak up about how uncomfortable they feel about misogyny. I'm assuming your DH wouldn't have said something similar if these were female teens @Yogaretreat23

Bless me? How about his dad getting his mind out the gutter and either check the wifi or have a decent conversation with his son (and friend).

But there's a big difference between one of your pals saying it and your friend's dad saying it in front of your friend's mum. Even as an adult I'd find that a bit mortifying and creepy.

Then she can text and ask for the DH's number.

I didn’t say boys don’t wank.
I specifically said about friends’ dads making these comments or insinuating these things. It’s grim to make these comments/jokes and yes, it does make teens feel very uncomfortable.

At 17, this is a total over reaction from the Mother of this lad. I have a 17 year old and he would definitely know the context of the joke. He would be absolutely mortified if I messaged another parent about anything!!! They are almost adults.

You were being more than gracious having the lad round in the first place....just try to rise above it and dont reply.
If they take offence, so be it.....I'd say your better off without them. Your son doesnt need friends who runs back to mummy every 5 minutes.

Oh, bless you for thinking that's worse than anything on the internet.

I wouldn't have told my parents about something like this but I wouldn't have felt that comfortable going back to that friend's house. Who does that?? Making jokes about your child wanking in front of them and their friend? Grim grim grim

average boy wanks under the shower for at least last 5 years by time he is 17.

little Lord Fauntleroy indeed

some women here can't be serious, there's nothing wrong being said by dad

Cringeworthy definitely. Noone likes to think of their parents, their parents' friends, or middle aged people generally having anything remotely to do with sex. But given what teens have access to these days let's keep things in perspective.

No.

I think your comment was disgusting.

I think the DH’s comment was a bit awkward, but certainly didn’t have the same intent yours did.

Surprised at these comments. It's not appropriate to make sexual comments like that infront of friends. It might have made the boy feel really uncomfortable and if so he might have asked his mum how to deal with it. Would everyone be so relaxed about this if he had said it infront of a female friend?

Exactly my thoughts! What a weird family.

It's a bit grim, though, isn't it? And people are excusing it because it's boys-will-be-boys banter. Imagine how different the reaction would be if it was a DD and not a DS.

Fair enough.

Ah you now agree that the creepy DH's comment was disgusting. I'm really pleased you've raised the bar.

Exactly

The apologists on this thread are making me sick. I'm out. Gotta start getting ready for trick or treat anyway!

Probably telling his mum what a twat thee mate's dad is.

Oh, are you trying to insinuate that I’m somehow hysterical because I won’t accept being told by you and another poster that I need to raise my bar, that I have low standards etc.

Why do either of you think you have the right to make such judgements?

Is there any evidence that the boy "couldn't handle it"? It seems more likely to me that he was laughing when he told mum.

Either way there's a world of difference between bantering with workmates and your friend's Dad being weird and creepy.