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Parent messaged me to complain about DH

268 replies

Yogaretreat23 · 31/10/2025 14:38

This is a strange one. DS had his friend round on Tuesday, they were mainly just playing video games upstairs. They came downstairs and DS started to moan that the Wi-Fi was down.

DH said he’d need to ‘go for the old school approach and grab a top shelf magazine from the corner shop’ and DS just laughed it off.

The next day, his friends mum has messaged me to say she doesn’t appreciate DH making inappropriate comments in front of her son.

I’ve ignored it…but am now overthinking whether I should have replied to clarify nothing was said to her son?

Edited to add both 17yo

OP posts:
TwoTuesday · 31/10/2025 14:45

Good grief what a little Lord Fauntleroy the friend is, tattling to his mummy at 17.

Autumngirl5 · 31/10/2025 14:45

Wishimaywishimight · 31/10/2025 14:41

Did the boys even know what he meant?

Very good point. I don’t think my 15 year old grandson would know what meant. Either way he should not have said it. I would apologise and move on.

Frynye · 31/10/2025 14:45

Not appropriate at all. Sounds like something Jim Royle would say

wordywitch · 31/10/2025 14:44

It was a crass comment and I’d think less of my DH for being so vulgar but they’re 17 not 7. His mother texting to complain is a little OTT.

MumChp · 31/10/2025 14:43

Not appropriate but I wouldn't have txted you just thought he was being an idiot.

Arlanymor · 31/10/2025 14:42

Edited because you updated the age.

Bit of a gross comment at any age - so it was said within his earshot?

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 31/10/2025 14:42

That was a gross thing to say at any age.

HelpMeUnpickThis · 31/10/2025 14:42

Are you ok with your DH making those kind of jokes in front of your son @Yogaretreat23 ?

Lokkiton · 31/10/2025 14:42

Sounds very inappropriate, actually.

Pjnow · 31/10/2025 14:42

Yes, ages are important, and it would be odd for mum to complain if they're older than young teens, but still a weird comment to make in front of your DS's friend IMO.

I think you have to say sorry, DH can be an idiot at times.

Original poster
Yogaretreat23 · 31/10/2025 14:42

Sorry, both 17.

OP posts:
FilthyforFirth · 31/10/2025 14:42

Pretty grim for your DH to say that to his son, let alone in front of his mates regardless of age tbh

Wishimaywishimight · 31/10/2025 14:41

Did the boys even know what he meant?

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 31/10/2025 14:41

It should be illegal to post questions like this without an age

Legomania · 31/10/2025 14:40

But she complained it was in front of her son, IE he heard it. Can't you just say oops sorry? Presumably you want DS' friend to keep being able to come round?

EuroTour · 31/10/2025 14:40

How old?

MotherofPufflings · 31/10/2025 14:40

How old are they?

ThroughTheRedDoor · 31/10/2025 14:40

I think the age of the boys is important context here!