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CunningLinguist2 · 01/11/2025 23:50

Hoppinggreen · 01/11/2025 18:34

What do these men need protecting from exactly?

TransWOMEN. we’re done ;)

Ereshkigalangcleg · 01/11/2025 22:46

DrBlackbird · 01/11/2025 19:23

Everyone knows men aren't women and by this point it's hard to see any justification for the insanity beyond thinking that women do indeed exist to serve and facilitate men to any degree even if everyone denies it. Even here, as always, we got the "but my lovely trans friends" stuff as if lovely female friends, or just women in general, don't matter now that a man you like wants to get his knob into the ladies'. Fuck's sake.

The sweet taste of righteousness indignation permeates some of this threads posts with a soupçon of aggression from those talking about their lovely trans friends. Is the aggressiveness born out of a defensiveness that everyone knows men aren’t and can never be women?

Yes, I think it is.

SabrinaThwaite · 01/11/2025 22:43

MrsTerryPratchett · 01/11/2025 16:08

I’m willing to bet that per capita, trans people have more platforms than women do. Ordinary women are summarily ignored.

As a woman, when you get to about 50 or 55 you become invisible. You get to do the heavy lifting of still supporting children, looking after aging parents and managing a job, with menopause thrown into the mix.

These men that will never experience the reality of actually being a woman can just fuck off with the dolls crap.

JellySaurus · 01/11/2025 21:41

MrsTerryPratchett · 01/11/2025 21:15

And the ‘dolls’ stuff? I’m struggling to think of a way in which that isn’t creepy, misogynist and dehumanising. Any ideas?

There isn’t.

‘Protect the dolls’ is misogynistic, objectifying crap. Every time I see it it reminds me of Andrea Chu Long saying that the epitome of woman was “an open mouth, an expectant asshole, blank, blank eyes.”

Arraminta · 01/11/2025 21:37

Hoppinggreen · 01/11/2025 18:34

What do these men need protecting from exactly?

Yes, I'm struggling to see what, Steve a 6ft 2" welder from Wigan, needs protecting from exactly? Whether he's in a frock or not.

MrsTerryPratchett · 01/11/2025 21:15

And the ‘dolls’ stuff? I’m struggling to think of a way in which that isn’t creepy, misogynist and dehumanising. Any ideas?

BunfightBetty · 01/11/2025 20:44

Hoppinggreen · 01/11/2025 18:34

What do these men need protecting from exactly?

The $64,000 question. What exactly do they need protecting from? And how does taking prizes meant for women, and having their photo on the cover of a magazine, achieve that?

Maybe one of the posters who are all for this can explain?

Inertia · 01/11/2025 19:55

potpourree · 01/11/2025 15:37

I agree with you there. I feel for any group who have people as supposed spokespeople for them who present the worst of the group.

If it helps, I wouldn't assume all trans people are misogynists (although there is some level of sexist thinking that underlies the 'men are like THIS, women are like THAT' belief behind self-id - but sexism is so deeply ingrained into our culture I have some sympathy with those who have absorbed it).

In fact 'trans' includes people with no gender identity which would apply to many people on here!

People may choose to self-define as trans with no gender identity. However, that doesn’t mean that anyone with no gender identity must be trans.

I have no gender identity because I consider gender to be a misogynistic, capitalist tool of a profiteering patriarchy which actively harms women and children. The targeting of children in order to generate profits from a lifetime of unnecessary medicalisation is especially insidious. I refuse to define myself according to an ideology I totally object to.

I don’t have a Catholic identity either - that doesn’t mean I should self-define as a heathen. It’s simply an ideology which does not apply to me.

TheKeatingFive · 01/11/2025 19:40

Horrible and violent men aren't women, nice and lovely men aren't women. Men just aren't women.

Can I get this on a t shirt?

ThatCyanCat · 01/11/2025 19:36

DrBlackbird · 01/11/2025 19:23

Everyone knows men aren't women and by this point it's hard to see any justification for the insanity beyond thinking that women do indeed exist to serve and facilitate men to any degree even if everyone denies it. Even here, as always, we got the "but my lovely trans friends" stuff as if lovely female friends, or just women in general, don't matter now that a man you like wants to get his knob into the ladies'. Fuck's sake.

The sweet taste of righteousness indignation permeates some of this threads posts with a soupçon of aggression from those talking about their lovely trans friends. Is the aggressiveness born out of a defensiveness that everyone knows men aren’t and can never be women?

When what you're saying is absurd, you have to reach for every form of argument (or rather, coercion) other than "because it's true". When you're trying to make men's wants outrank both women's needs and reality itself, you get this.

Like Sall Grover said, I'm just done with it. Men aren't women. They just aren't. That's a shame for all the nice ones who wish they were but they still aren't. There are plenty of nice women who wish they were men so they didn't have to deal with periods, menopause etc, and that's a shame for them, but they still aren't men.

Horrible and violent men aren't women, nice and lovely men aren't women. Men just aren't women.

DrBlackbird · 01/11/2025 19:23

Everyone knows men aren't women and by this point it's hard to see any justification for the insanity beyond thinking that women do indeed exist to serve and facilitate men to any degree even if everyone denies it. Even here, as always, we got the "but my lovely trans friends" stuff as if lovely female friends, or just women in general, don't matter now that a man you like wants to get his knob into the ladies'. Fuck's sake.

The sweet taste of righteousness indignation permeates some of this threads posts with a soupçon of aggression from those talking about their lovely trans friends. Is the aggressiveness born out of a defensiveness that everyone knows men aren’t and can never be women?

Hoppinggreen · 01/11/2025 18:34

CunningLinguist2 · 01/11/2025 17:55

Now that they’re upfront and in your face about protecting transwomen? Absofuckinglutely! #ProtectTheDolls (

What do these men need protecting from exactly?

StormyPotatoes · 01/11/2025 18:14

CunningLinguist2 · 01/11/2025 17:55

Now that they’re upfront and in your face about protecting transwomen? Absofuckinglutely! #ProtectTheDolls (

Not the bricks though? Only ever the dolls.

ThatCyanCat · 01/11/2025 18:01

TheKeatingFive · 01/11/2025 17:37

I don't think I will ever understand how we got here. Or why so many people mindlessly cheered it on.

The Denton report explains a lot. And after the ground was laid, a huge amount of intimidation and emotional blackmail. A lot of people felt that if death and rape threats and genocide accusations were being made then even though that's wrong, it must mean JKR had said something truly evil even if nobody could say what it was, which is of course one reason for doing it. Naturally, women who made such threats to men would never get such sympathy but everyone knows who the women are.

I think a lot of people assumed it was more complicated than it was. The tide is turning because it's becoming clear that yes, they really did mean that men are actual women if they say they are and should get access to changing rooms, sports and so on on that basis. It really is that insane. There's no missing nuance.

Everyone knows men aren't women and by this point it's hard to see any justification for the insanity beyond thinking that women do indeed exist to serve and facilitate men to any degree even if everyone denies it. Even here, as always, we got the "but my lovely trans friends" stuff as if lovely female friends, or just women in general, don't matter now that a man you like wants to get his knob into the ladies'. Fuck's sake.

CunningLinguist2 · 01/11/2025 17:55

AngryBird6122 · 01/11/2025 10:20

@CunningLinguist2 sorry what? You haven’t bought glamour women’s magazine in years but now there are men on the front cover you will?

Now that they’re upfront and in your face about protecting transwomen? Absofuckinglutely! #ProtectTheDolls (

TheKeatingFive · 01/11/2025 17:37

Arraminta · 01/11/2025 17:35

I honestly believe we will look back on this with incredulous horror akin to how we look back at the Salem Witch Trials. A bizarre, temporary, mass hysteria event.

I couldn't care less what clothes TW wear. Or who they have sex with (assuming it's consensual). Whatever floats your boat.

But. They. Are. Forever. Biological. Men.

I don't think I will ever understand how we got here. Or why so many people mindlessly cheered it on.

Arraminta · 01/11/2025 17:35

BCBird · 01/11/2025 15:56

Totally agree. This is madness.

I honestly believe we will look back on this with incredulous horror akin to how we look back at the Salem Witch Trials. A bizarre, temporary, mass hysteria event.

I couldn't care less what clothes TW wear. Or who they have sex with (assuming it's consensual). Whatever floats your boat.

But. They. Are. Forever. Biological. Men.

Ihatetomatoes · 01/11/2025 16:53

AngryBird6122 · 31/10/2025 14:17

https://x.com/jk_rowling/status/1983848989213553091?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Etweet

aibu to think she is spot on? shame on glamour magazine (does anyone still read it?)

Yanbu

JKR is right again.

Men cos playing women winning awards is pathetic. Glamour magazine get in the bin.

BebbanburgIsMine · 01/11/2025 16:52

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 31/10/2025 14:34

Who still buys magazines? But yes, JKR is right.

I buy magazines, and so does my DD.

Nothing wrong in that.

WomanOfSteel · 01/11/2025 16:47

VioletandDill · 01/11/2025 11:54

It's still really difficult to find the image on X unless you're actively searching for it, and even then I can only find JK's tweet and one image from Glamour which isn't that one. Most (as in the vast majority) of their WOTY posts are other people. On Instagram the Dolls occupy 2/45 of their WOTY posts. And I highly doubt that JK follows them otherwise, so she must have gone looking for it.

I conclude that JK ought to put the phone down and get a life.

Anyway, I'm off to the newsagents and then to get on with mine! I'll see whether there is actually a print version. Maybe it'll come back with all the publicity that Mr Galbraith has given it!

Or maybe somebody else found it and sent it to her. I’m not on X but occasionally get sent things from there by friends/family.

AngryBird6122 · 01/11/2025 16:40

Ereshkigalangcleg · 01/11/2025 14:22

It really is. And I cringe for the women cheering it on. Sad.

They bend over backwards for this cause too. Because 'empathy' and 'inclusivity' etc. Bet they couldn't give a rats arse about womens lack of rights the world over.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 01/11/2025 16:26

JHound · 01/11/2025 16:23

Not according to US conservatives and Piers Morgan.

My no point was simply “get woke go broke” is fairly meaningless as many things that are labelled / have been labelled “woke” go on to be extremely successful.

Edited

Well if you listen to them you get what you get.

Flat earth and Tylenol causes autism.

JHound · 01/11/2025 16:23

MrsTerryPratchett · 01/11/2025 15:25

The Barbie film wasn’t woke. We’re so far down the misogynist road that a film that is hilarious, centres women and girls, talks about real-life things that happen every day, is ‘woke’. It’s not.

Pretending that (for example) the best people to model female sportswear have penises, that’s ‘woke’.

Not according to US conservatives and Piers Morgan.

My no point was simply “get woke go broke” is fairly meaningless as many things that are labelled / have been labelled “woke” go on to be extremely successful.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 01/11/2025 16:16

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 01/11/2025 15:29

I know several trans people. They are just ordinary. They don't have invitations streaming in from TV shows or massive followings on Twitter or anything. And they don't deserve the ire that occurs on a daily basis on here.

Go take a look at the “ire” on trans supportive platforms towards gender critical feminist women. I don’t hate anyone. I just don’t believe these men are women, or that they have the right to be considered so. I think the whole ideology is misogynistic in the extreme.

ThatCyanCat · 01/11/2025 16:15

potpourree · 01/11/2025 15:37

I agree with you there. I feel for any group who have people as supposed spokespeople for them who present the worst of the group.

If it helps, I wouldn't assume all trans people are misogynists (although there is some level of sexist thinking that underlies the 'men are like THIS, women are like THAT' belief behind self-id - but sexism is so deeply ingrained into our culture I have some sympathy with those who have absorbed it).

In fact 'trans' includes people with no gender identity which would apply to many people on here!

Normally I would agree. In this case, however, the worst of the group is very often the precise reason why we need sex based rights and protections. So yes, the number of men who claim to be women who act exactly like violent men or fetishists may not be a reason to say all trans identified men are violent or fetishists (although an alarming number are) but they certainly are a reason to keep men out of women's spaces, and to demonstrate who is among those demanding access. No decent man would demand entry and no decent human would resort to threats, violence and vexatious litigation when told to use the correct spaces.

And of course, on point of fact, even if none of them were violent fetishists, none of them would be women and they are excluded on that basis alone. Access to unconsenting women isn't a reward for not attacking them and women's spaces exist for women's protection, not men's affirmation.