AIBU to think this is a bit rude/ cheeky?

I think it was rude of her to use them, not even just one. Whether or not they are in a guest room is irrelevant. The Op should be allowed to display her perfumes in her own house, wherever she wants. Cheeky bugger.

It depends. If she was sleeping in a room that clearly belonged to someone else and she was 'borrowing' someone's space, then she absolutely should not have touched the perfumes.

If she was staying in a guest room, that is NOT someone's bedroom, with toiletries left there, I can see why she would assume they were for guests. Perfume, soap, bath oil, whatever.

My MiL always has baskets of toiletries for guests to use, including fragrances.

I use all th toiletries in a bathroom when im staying with friends and I’d expect guests to use my stuff.

a friend once used half a pot of nice face cream as she couldn’t find any regulqr
moisturiser for her arms/legs… I waant thrilled but it was there in the bathroom!

I have actually stayed at a friends’ houses where the guest rooms had perfumes/aftershave out for guests to use. It is a thing.

That said if I saw that the room was used as storage for your and DH’s stuff I would infer the perfumes were yours.

I suspect she knew and was tempted, the “money’s worth” comment was particularly gauche.

But it’s weird to have your perfumes in the guest room?

Why on earth are they in the guest room if guests can use them? Keep them in your own room or bathroom.

Guests should not help themselves to the light fittings and duvet set or take away books or bathrobes without asking, but disposables like tissues, water, soap and yes perfume left in the guest room are for the use of the guest unless otherwise specified.

I used to clean for a very wealthy woman (think on the richest people in Kent list).
In an unused guest bathroom I found a vintage bottle of ysatis. I was so desperate to try it but too frightened (I'm a bit obsessed with perfume). I Also didn't want to ask because she might not have understood the significance of an 80s bottle of perfume I'd been after for ages. So I put the tiniest bit on my arm. She probably wouldn't have noticed if I'd stolen it but working as a cleaner trust is everything, and I'm not theif

You left it where guests have access to it? I'd probably have a squirt too tbh. Don't be precious! 😅

I'd have done the same as your friend. Just as I'd help myself to a tin of biscuits by the bed, drink the bottle of water, read the books on the shelves, use the bathrobe hanging behind the door. Things left in the guest room are for the guest. I'm not sure why your perfume is there if it's for your use only.

That's what I think.

Maybe being a bit precious... next time move them or move your faves.
Take it as a compliment anyway at least you know you smell nice .

Clearly you have to invoice her for them 😂 - how much are they OP? Are we talking Amouage here or Chanel? And you speak as if she used half a bottle…. Did she?

You and I are clearly on the same page. What a damn cheek! And to talk about money as if you’ve charged them for the room! They’d be off my Christmas card list now.

Its very cheeky. Especially the "getting her moneys worth" you ask before you take other peoples things

Keep.your perfume in the original boxes in a cupboard or drawer, they should keep for years and nobody else can use them, Just display empty bottles of you like the look of them

She was wrong- just because something is on display in someone else’s you don’t just help yourself. I am guessing all those saying it was fine would do the same thing themselves.

Also OP this is really really outing with loads of specific details so if your friend is on MN you can probably kiss goodbye to the friendship unless she might see the funny side and laugh it off...?

Very cheeky. She should have just asked. Out of interest what perfumes are they?

I think a lot of posters here sound ill mannered. I stay with a friend a couple of times a year (and yes I always invite her back but she has not taken me up on in, I always take gifts plus treat her to dinner out). I sleep in one of her spare rooms. She has lots and lots of expensive cosmetics in there. I wouldn't dream of touching them, they are obviously hers and just where she stores them.

Look, you say they’re lovely and you really get one so she’s obviously a friend. It wouldn’t bother me at all if a friend felt comfortable enough to borrow a spray of perfume. You have 15 bottles I think you said, and she stayed for 4 days so she probably had what 8 sprays in total? This is not a big deal for someone you consider a friend and she obviously sees you as one.
it will take years to get through all that perfume.

the bigger question is, do you actually consider her a good friend and were they good house guests otherwise? Or was she a CF in other ways too? Because if that’s the case your view of the perfume spraying is going to be coloured.

did they bring a gift, wine, treat you to dinner etc? Or do they reciprocate in other ways?

I wouldn’t use someone’s perfume without asking, but I would be tempted to have a sniff at the bottle if it was one I didn’t know. I would quite happily ask the hostess if I wanted to test it, and I’d imagine most would be flattered and say yes. I’d think it a bit cheeky if someone just helped themselves, but would probably just shrug it off because I know some people are like that. I can understand why you were a little taken aback though

If you left showergel / soap in the ensuite would you expect it to be used?

I think it's he same thing with the perfume - it looks like it's there to be used.

If it was in your guest room, I’d expect it to be used. I have a few pairs of those slippers you get in hotels that I have in my guest room, fully expecting guests to use. My upstairs shower room, which is where any guests that stay use, I have shower gel and shampoo, deodorant, which I hope my guests feel happy to use .

I wouldn’t use someone’s perfume without asking but if I really didn’t want someone using my perfume I would have put it away. I’ve got a few that I wouldn’t want someone to use because they are so expensive to replace.