AIBU to think this is a bit rude/ cheeky?

Absolutely this. You have therm in the guest room, it seems like an invitation to use them

Someone might as well get some use out of them, perfume does go ‘off’ eventually.

wow

You like people so much, you are close enough to invite them to stay in your own home, but you would not offer them your basic shampoo and shower gel?

That's very weird.

Is that the same with food? You would lock your "good food"away and feed them the cheapest basic range?

If you dislike your own friends and family so much, it's frightening to imagine what you think of people you actually don't like!

Even if I was staying at a close friend’s house I wouldn’t dream of helping myself to her perfume unless she had specifically said I should help myself.
If I had forgotten mine or fancied trying one I would ask if it was ok to use it.

She is very rude and not showing respect for you in front of her dc.

If you didn’t want her or anyone to use the perfume why on earth would you have them in the guest room. This is saying please use me otherwise you would have had them hidden in your room when they were visiting if you didn’t want her to use them. Not checky of her as she would have thought as you had left them in the room she could use them.

I think this is the sort of thing where the norms are different in different circles and it's not worth being in any way miffed when you come across someone who doesn't know your norms. You just need to adjust next time. I can see why a guest might think the things you have out in a guest bedroom are for guests to use. Them being in a glass cabinet would give me pause, depending on what it was, but it could easily be seen as just a way to stop them getting too dusty. I do think your description of your room suggests that not everything that's in there is for guests use, but I don't think it's as obvious what is and isn't as you seem to. If they were takers in other ways, I would avoid them in the future, but if they were otherwise nice, this is just miscommunication.

Her comment about getting her money's worth seems a bit on the crass side given that you don't really know her that well and I could see that might get your back up given you didn't expect her to use them. But it's more likely it was her thinking you were a generous and lovely host and she wanted you to know she really appreciated it.

Chalk it up to experience and the rich variety of life. If all your other guests have norms like your own in this regard, I wouldn't go to the bother of emptying the cabinet unless you ask these guests back.

But unless the host is going to supply products I like I’d prefer to take my own! I don’t use products in hotels for the same reason.

This thread has been an eye opener though. If I’m unfortunate enough to have people staying in future I’m locking my stuff away and paying a visit to the pound shop!

I recently stayed at a friend's, and in my bedroom were moisturisers and in my ensuite there were shower gels and shampoos. I had taken my own, so didn't use my friend's. However, I assumed they were there for guests to use should they want to. Likewise if there had been perfume in my guest bedroom I would assume I could use it.

Incidentally I keep my perfume in the fridge as it stays fresh longer.

I feel because it was in your 'guest' bathroom shed think it was for guests to use. If she was sharing your bathroom my guess is she wouldnt be using any of the toiletries in yr bathrm cabinet?

It’s just a squirt of perfume. Get a grip

I have never been invited to anyone's house without the host saying which bathroom to use and to help yourself to anything you need.

No, it's not standard for anyone to carry all their stuff. I have never seen friends or family dragging shampoo, conditionner, shower gel, soap.

Friends come to your house, they wash their hands, of course. Do you expect them to bring their own soap for that? Of course not. Same thing with showers!

But been in a glass display behind glass. Its not the same as been on a table.

I think that's really cheeky! But I would have reacted in the same way as you did, out of surprise!
She should have asked

The OP is only asking if people think it's a bit rude to use someone's perfume for a week. She states that she almost doesn't mind, and that it's hardly the end of the world. I don't think she's being 'precious' at all.

I keep my perfume in the main bathroom, as that's where I spray it on after I brush my teeth. If someone stayed unexpectedly and had left her own behind, I wouldn't mind at all if she used mine, but would expect her to ask, as I don't think it's a given that an invitation to stay over includes helping yourself to things. Of course I would expect her to use the toothpaste and shampoo/shower/bath products - even if they were expensive ones - as that goes with the territory. Most of the time it's just my husband and me in the house, so of course my stuff is out, and I'm hardly going to swap it for Tesco own brand or something the minute a friend decides to stay over. My daughter is a different matter though. She helps herself and liberally tries anything she's not seen before😀

Someone coming for a planned visit and staying for half term is different, I think. I wouldn't give it a lot of thought, but would assume that they'd bring a toilet bag. I keep one packed with shampoo, curl jelly, toothpaste, deodorant, moisturiser etc - everything I'd need for a stay away, or a sudden hospital admission. It lives in an overnight bag with a spare charger, knickers and so on, so I can grab and go. I always wear perfume, so keep a small bottle in my handbag. If I didn't have it on me, I would go without - perfume is hardly a necessary item such as shampoo.

Even though the perfume was on display on the room

Don't use perfume myself but know it can be expensive.

She should have asked your first.of all if she could have used it. Obviously needs lesson in manners

Find her entitlement a bit passive aggressive to be honest

Is she a tad jealous of yo.

Maybe not such a lovely family after all?
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V rude I'd say. It's not like you left them out on a table, she had to open a cabinet to help herself. Poor manners.

The only person I ever allow to stay is my daughter and her boyfriend and they can use whatever they like.

I’m a terrible host and entertainer. Can’t be doing with any of it. Dinner parties make me break out in a sweat.

Basically no one with the exception of my kid gets near my Jo Malone collection. 🤭

I tend to leave out a selection of creams, shower gel, shampoo and perfume in a little basket in guests rooms for people to use (often a few minis from xmas beauty calendars) - my mum has always done the same. If I was in a room with a load of perfume I might assume people are doing similar!

Mine is £20+ a bottle. No doubt some people spend more but I would absolutely begrudge someone using it without asking and I don't see why I should have to put my things away. The same with my perfume, I would think it was a cheek if someone saw my bottle of Gucci on the side and decided to have a good spray of it!

I would always take my own things if I was staying somewhere so I suppose that's why I think it would be a cheek for someone to use mine, especially without asking.

I was quite miffed when a friend who was staying with me for a week to do a course, went in my bathroom cabinet and used around half a packet of my make up remover wipes, and think I'd be even less happier if anyone used my perfume at £100 a bottle. She sounds like a CF.

Its all a bit miserly

If that was all that was available sure. I have no concept of shampoo being particularly expensive. I'm sure there are more expensive ones than I buy but do they really get so expensive that you begrudge anyone else using it?

If I was really that precious about my shampoo I'd just put a different one out when I had guests but I can't imagine such a scenario.

Would you use things if they were obviously expensive?

Fair enough. My friends are all as relaxed as I am. Not sure I've ever arrived at someone’s house without being told "help yourself". And I would use shampoo etc in the bathroom even if not directly told so. It's a basic to provide.

I think it's a bit cheeky but not outrageous.I would reply,"My pleasure.Can you bring a few of yours next visit?" or "Glad you liked them.Make sure you leave some of yours out when we visit?"