AIBU to think this is a bit rude/ cheeky?

Nothing wrong with being curious, having a smell.

Completely different story to USING them.

Seems people are simply entitled.

Do people really eyeball the contents of others' homes and assess them as to where they are on the spectrum of "favourites" vs "not too sure about" and "hardly ever used" as a prelude to helping oneself to others private items?

There is no planet on which perfume, wherever it is stored, is a communal good available to all who pass by. It's as intimate as make-up, deodorant or jewelry.

I would no more do that than use someone else’s makeup

Not stuff that was entirely unwanted but definitely not unreasonable to think they were ones OP wasn't too sure about or hardly ever used so wasn't particularly bothered about. As opposed to favourites ones that I would assume she kept in her own room.

You left it in the guest room!

I leave an array of toiletries in our guest room for guests to use. I would not leave anything I didn’t want them to use!

Sorry OP but I’d have definitely had a smell of them all! Probably wouldn’t have gone as far as trying them on though

I think I’d save on money and put a note saying ‘keep your fucking hands off my stuff’.

I do realise that might make me appear unfriendly though.

Absolutely. (a) shows a whole other level of entitlement by the guest, and (b) is just a bat-shit suggestion! 😂

Oh, can you maybe get a lockable display case? Might be easier than moving them all

Know this OP, you now have to prepare for ALL eventualities.

Because.

I find it hilarious that

a) anyone would assume a range of (expensive) perfume bottles on display in a glass cabinet had been placed there for a guest's use and;

b) that people put things they no longer want on display for other's to use, like shop front, in your own house.

I ask if I can use toothpaste/shower gel/shampoo etc. if I've forgotten mine - I certainly wouldn't just use someone's perfume even if it was out in the bathroom!

I think that quite changes things & I wouldn't class that as a guest/spare room as such.

Well, from some of these responses, there's a whole host of people who just use anything in front of them if it's not locked down or showing a price tag!

OP, you NNNNNBU.

If she was a friend, she'd say to you first, "Hey, Iloveleaveinconditioner, I really want to try your perfume, may I?" Or a very close friend would possibly spritz first and then run down and say, "hey, do you mind, I tried your perfume."

The whole not saying a word until you brought it up is prime cheeky behavior.

😂

Who knew? A whole new way to declutter; just "display" things in one's guests rooms and the guests will help themselves!

Sounds like you live in a rather different world to a lot of people on here. And that's absolutely fair enough. But please do try to understand that not everyone has guest bedrooms in the "luxury hotel" sense of the word. Most people have a spare bedroom where guests are welcome to stay and would of course be offered their own towels and maybe a few toiletries. I personally don't know anyone that has a dedicated guest room redolent of the Ritz Hotel with an array of perfumes and the like for the guest's own use. Most spare bedrooms in my fairly vast experience contain a hotch potch of the owner's personal items, ranging from golf clubs to kids toys to sentimental things they rarely use. In any event, I would have thought that most normal people would instinctively gauge if something was perhaps not necessarily "for the taking". And moreover, anyone with a modicum of good manners would check with the host first.

Do you display things you no longer use or just haven't got rid of yet then? Should I do this so people take my charity donations and save me a trip 🤣

The fact she was very open about it and didn’t try to hide it suggests she thinks what she did was ok.

I think she probably thought they were in there to be used and would be very embarrassed if she realised you felt like this.

id let it go

An ignorant, disrespectful guest for sure.

It doesn't of course.. but putting them there, accessible, in a guest room, apparently does run the risk of some guests believing this to be the case or not caring enough to ask

Yes, definitely consider yourself lucky!

They’re in her home. Why does that make them free to use?

YANBU it’s cheeky to use the perfumes all week, not like it was a one off spray. Getting her money’s worth comment was rude, she’s not in a department store and didn’t even spent her money! I assume you didn’t charge your guests to stay.

I don’t have a spare bedroom 😂😂😂😂 so many assumptions there, it’s a bit mad!!
but yes if I had a spare room big enough for guests, I wouldn’t keep things in there and I would expect if I was staying in a guest room that there wasn’t things on show (even behind a glass cabinet) that were not for my use. As I said I would probably ask, but I don’t think the person has been rude or cheeky.