AIBU to think this is a bit rude/ cheeky?

This is ridiculous! A bottle of perfume can cost hundreds of pounds, the prices have absolutely shot up over the past few years. Lots have been discontinued/reformulated to be not as good as they used to be over the same period. Also, it's personal, not like using hand cream or something. It is absolutely not an expected norm that a good host would allow a guest (and this woman is not even a friend of the OP's) to take an expensive, personal item with them because they happened to like it.

Same here. I’ve used miniatures in my SIL bathroom each time I’ve stayed 😳

No. Better by far to take a hammer and smash the glass door to get to the belongings.

Naaa I would have treated it like the Debenhams perfume counter too

Regardless of them being in the rooM I wpild never! Perfume is expensive. Lots of people use guest rooms for overspill - doesn’t mean you use their stuff

Definitely a bit cheeky but could see why she might have used them. I'd have asked if I could use them but that's me.

If you didn’t want her to use them you should have either locked the cabinet or put them in your room. She probably thought you meant for her to use them.

It makes no sense that she was "getting her money's worth" when she wasn't paying any money at all. What a very strange - and rude - woman.

I wonder about the intelligence levels of some of the people on this thread. I have a big cupboard full of art supplies in our spare/guest bedroom. I wouldn’t expect a guest to paint a picture while they were staying.

very Rude. But I am not surprised. It didn't take me long to learn that guests will move and use anything in a guest room.

Perfume can cost hundreds of pounds per ounce. But it's not just the retail cost. It may be scarce/hard to find, may have sentimental value, may be a memento from a holiday, etc.

It's akin to jewelry, not shower gel or loo roll, in terms of being private, personal and not for sharing.

There is a difference of opinion on what is personal though. I wouldn't consider perfume as any more personal than shampoo which I would expect to use as a guest if it's in a shared space

Others think perfume is really personal. And are presumably those who think OP is NBU.

I have two bedrooms. One I sleep in. The second doubles as a sitting room, guest room, occasional office, storage area, yoga room and more. I also use it as a dressing room, daily, and it contains hair appliances, jewelry boxes, some makeup, and yes, perfume on dresser top.

The fact that some of my toiletries and accessories are not kept in my bedroom is entirely irrelevant. They still aren't available for the use of all and sundry.

It blows my mind that anyone would think otherwise. "Oh she doesn't keep it in her bedroom so it must be for everyone's use."

I’m just imagining someone using my bathroom and helping themselves to any personal stuff I have in there because ‘it’s on public display’.

How incredibly bizarre.

I'd have assumed they were for guests, maybe old ones or something. I put all toiletries I don't use in our guest en suite/bedroom, on the basis that people might forget toothpaste/shampoo/shower gel, there's also some fancy moisturisers, body lotions, perfumes etc that for whatever reason I don't use (unwanted gifts, dont like them, mess with my sensitive skin). My personal ones are in my bedroom and our bathroom. I do always say to guests they're welcome to use everything in there, and you obviously didn't explicitly say, but I'd have assumed they were a little hosting thing where you'd put ones you don't use and want to leave for guests. I think she was just joking when she said "getting my moneys worth" it's a saying, she was just saying it. I'd say the same to a friend if I asked for a 2nd coffee or took an extra biscuit, it's not a big deal. Most people don't keep things they use in their spare room I guess, which is where the confusion will have come in. I imagine she'd be mortified if you'd told her they were personal favourites and just displayed in there due to lack of space in your room. If she stole any or popped any in her bag, that's not ok.

If stored carefully, rarely in my experience and I have some from the 1920's, I've been collecting fragrances for many years.

Is this a B&b? Is she a paying guest? You said 'one of our guests rooms' and she talked about her money's worth. I don't know why you'd leave them on display in a guest room if the guest isn't supposed to use them.
She may be being cheeky as well, though, depending on the setup and if you are not closest bosom friends with longstanding habits of sharing and swapping and a well established understanding of what goes between you. I wouldn't do it myself but then I prefer to use my own stuff.

Very rude of her.

Who on earth would make the assumption that a host is providing their guests with a range of expensive perfumes? Just because something is in the room doesn't mean you can just help yourself.

If there's a picture on the wall of the spare room that she liked would it be okay for her to take it home with her because it was put there for the guests?

Or how about the towels in the bathroom because they're really nice and thick, or the lovely duvet cover that she's taken a fancy to.

If you're really stupid/entitled enough to think that everything in the room is yours for the taking at least ask first, just to make sure.

Not when they are on display in a glass cabinet. They weren't left on the dressing table with the lids off.

Cheeky cow. You don't poke about in glass cabinets as a guest.

Get her money's worth? I'd say "Yes it will be £200 a night next time."

Where does she think she is, The Dorchester?

Any chance of your giving us a list of the perfumes? It is always interesting to get recommendations with a view to getting a clone from Perfume Parlour or similar.

But perfumes do go off?

Well not with that much thought given to it no! I'm saying it's probably an reasonable quick assumption. I don't think it's unreasonable to think that something someone is deliberately storing outside their room is something that they aren't using regularly.

How expensive is perfume? I've never bought any so it wouldnt occur to me that it comes in bottles that cost so much that a couple of sprays are a significant use of it

I literally said I would ask…what’s your problem 😂🤷🏽‍♀️ the op asked if her guest was rude or cheeky, I’ve said no I don’t think she is and given the reasons why.
i don’t know why you’ve got an issue with me, but you’re the one looking unkind here not me! 😂🤷🏽‍♀️

In that case I think you'd better tell anyone you intend to stay with to stick clearly written notices in their spare room. Warm them that unless it's bolted down you'll be helping yourself as you are completely unable to assess what is most likely personal and what is not.