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should i give my child’s father another chance to be involved?

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boundariesandbaby · 31/10/2025 11:02

Hi everyone, I really need some honest advice. My little boy’s dad has been out of the picture for almost a year now, and in truth, he’s never properly been there. He dips in and out when it suits him, and every time I’ve given him another chance, he’s found a way to ruin it. It’s always felt like he cared more about keeping me around than actually stepping up as a father.

He lives recklessly — drives an illegal vehicle, smokes weed constantly, and doesn’t seem to take life seriously. He’s even been aggressive towards me, once right in front of our child. I’ve tried to be understanding, but I’m at a point where I don’t know if I’m doing the right thing by even considering letting him back in.

Has anyone been through something similar? I just don’t know if I should open that door again, or if keeping him away is the only way to protect my little boy.

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NewPinkJacket · 31/10/2025 11:05

How old is your son and does he have feelings on the matter?

If he's very young or doesn't care either way, I'd probably wait and see if he takes you to court.