Am I a laughing stock?

My dad lives on one of the many Manor Roads in the country. When his girlfriend moved in she started calling it "The Manor" and "The Manor House". My face must have told her that I thought she was a tit as she soon stopped doing it. To me at least. I could never imagine feeling like that over something my sister did though. I wouldn't dream of using it to make her feel silly.

what a load of bollox! 'Do you flaunt wealth? '

Well, honestly, it is a bit ‘try hard’ for me to include it in cards and on plaques and whatnot and you using it in casual conversation like in your op would have me internally cringing BUT I would never say that to you… yknow, in real life, not on here… obviously 😂 I can’t understand why your mum and your sister ate so bothered about it that they even needed to say anything! Your friend I feel sorry for because you put her in a really awkward position by asking!

Don’t worry about it — some people just don’t have a sense of humor. They might’ve gotten the joke if your house actually looked like a tower.

It’s a bit Accidental Partridge.

This. Its really nasty. Perhaps they like ganging up on you OP.
I think you seem like a warm and friendly person, and I think I'd like you.

You sound like fun and a great warm and welcoming host.

It should be taken in that vein by your friends and family, otherwise they should bog-off and not accept your generous hospitality. Let them put the effort into doing the entertaining, not to mention the cost. Miserable lot.

I accidently clicked unreasonable but I don't think you are. Everybody does stuff that makes others cringe a bit. My sister and her husband call each other Dude, like all the time and that makes me cringe. There will be things that I do that make her cringe. I don't get why your sister had to be so mean about it though.

I honestly think this says more about your sister and mum's insecurities than anything else. But then I occasionally jokingly refer to our (fairly modest new build) house as Chateau Carter and as far as I'm aware no one's ever thought that I actually believed I lived in a French country house.

My dad used to refer to home as T'our 'ouse. (Yorkshire accent Tower House) It was just a laugh. I'd stop doing it but they all need to get a life.

Hi OP what you call your house in fun isn't important in the scheme of things and those close to you telling you it's embarrassing are being a bit mean. If that's the worst thing they can find to say about you , you're doing well and they're lucky to have you. Keep being you 💐

If so many people are commenting on it, and the friend has indicated that they are, then she must have just taken it too far. If shell made this a big part of her personality then it can see how it could be so grating. She puts it on invitations to her house, she says it verbally when inviting people to her house, she signs off Christmas and birthday cards with it, she has a plaque for it… I’d imagine it goes further. She probably answers the door with “welcome to the towers” when people come round and I’m sure there are social media posts of “Halloween in the towers tonight” etc.

When someone takes something that’s not all that funny and makes it a repeated comment which is a massive part of her communication with people… it is tiring. And people will talk about it.

I just can't understand why it bothers people so much they had "had enough" and apparently all talk about it. It's a joke that they feel is overused... so what? If you actually like a person then it's just one of their quirks. I can get not finding it funny, I can't get how it could bother anyone this much.

She asked her friend who admitted that other people had commented on it too.

So not just her family.

And quite possibly even some of those who go along with it in front of the OP.

It sounds like a joke that ran dry many years ago and no one had the heart to tell you. A bit like people who wear novelty socks and ties.

They still seem happy to go to all your parties, so it can't be too much of a problem.

Your mum and sister have been really mean to have been slagging you off behind your back. That's a really nasty dynamic, and quite cruel the way they choose to humiliate you like that.

Jackson Towers wouldn't really bother me. It would just be a silly joke that I wouldnt pay much heed to.

You may be the emtional punching bag/scapegoat of your family (like me). Your family are mean. They could have said it to you much gentler if it really irked them.

what a crazy name

Yes, I'm sure it's all they think about!

Also, everyone is focussing on OP's mother and sister - even her friend has admitted that their other friends have commented on it!

a) it doesnt matter what anyone ese thinks!

b) it was probably funny the first couple of times and then they grew tired of it. But then refer to a) - it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. If it makes you giggle good for you.

Genuinely if someone I knew called their house X towers, I wouldn’t give it a second thought, you’re fine x

It is quite difficult to judge. I think the whole thing is ridiculous in that the OP can call her house whatever she likes and it is no-ones business but the postman.

She is being unreasonable to take any notice of her family and their nastiness in the first place, because they have no right to interfere, and if she did take notice, she will have been humiliated by them.

Should they have told her their nasty thoughts sooner? If they did, would they have been less unreasonable that telling her later? It is wrong for them to pass judgement in the first place. It is deliberately intended to hurt her.

Would OP have been less upset if they told her right away? How would she? It is her home and she can call it what she likes.

Me and hubby call our house 'Road name (without Close) Manor as a joke between us! We also jokingly call it that to close friends occasionally but tbh I think if you're doing it every time it's probably become more serious in the way you say it and very likely cringe worthy!

I think your Mum and sister were being very un-kind. Whatever you call your house, whatever others may think of what you call it - it sounds like they still happily accept invitations.

Don't invite your mum or sister to your house for a while since they find your house name so laughable.

It's cringy I have to say and it would probably irritate me if my own sister said "Why don't you come back to The Towers" 😬but I would never speak to her like that.