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Leaving contractors/people to do work in your home alone

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Milkchocodigestive · 31/10/2025 08:54

Hi there! Just need some other views on this!

So we’re getting our carpet cleaned and refreshed after years of built up stains and my husband asked one of his colleagues (who does cleaning as a side hustle) to do it. The price was very reasonable and the colleague had come to our house to assess the carpet and see what tools he’d need. I was fine with it but then my husband forgot that he’d booked the guy to come in at a day when we’d all be out of the house and rescheduling would be a bit tight. Now, I don’t actually know the colleague myself and although I’m sure he’s lovely and all that based on my husband’s judgment, I’m still not 100% comfortable of having someone who’s essentially a virtual stranger (to me) left alone in my house to carry out work. It’s not that I’m assuming he’s capable of anything bad, it’s more to do with me wanting to protect my home and taking due diligence due to not truly knowing him. Also, trust should be earned in my opinion! So I asked my sister to house-sit whilst he carries out work. She’s not there to hover over him like a drone, more to just be a presence in the house. Part of me feels like it’s a bit too cautious but I think it’s just due diligence- right? Would you guys do the same?😀

OP posts:
Prawnlove · 31/10/2025 09:55

I wouldn’t went to put my sister out for this
No urgency
just reschedule if you’re bothered

Milkchocodigestive · 31/10/2025 09:53

Weirdest · 31/10/2025 09:52

I would never have someone I’ve never met, having free access to my entire house when I’m not home. You did the right thing.

Yes I agree. I’m sure he’s lovely, but it’s always better to be safe than sorry.

OP posts:
Prawnlove · 31/10/2025 09:53

I do!

Painters, plumbers, electricians etc

i have a trusted group of tradesmen and trust them completely in my home

Milkchocodigestive · 31/10/2025 09:52

Idontjetwashthefucker · 31/10/2025 09:04

Erm, he's your husband's colleague, not like he's a stranger

Yes, I do get that, but I want to put measures in place to ensure my home is safe. It’s honestly nothing personal to the guy.

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Weirdest · 31/10/2025 09:52

I would never have someone I’ve never met, having free access to my entire house when I’m not home. You did the right thing.

Plump82 · 31/10/2025 09:50

Do you not trust your husbands judgement on this person?

rainbowunicorn · 31/10/2025 09:50

I have always had workmen in doing things when I am at work. Over the years we have had a loft conversion, new bathroom, kitchen, electrical work, decorating, plumbers, windows fitted and never felt the need to be there. What exactly are you worried about? Is your husband a poor judge of character?

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 31/10/2025 09:47

He's not a stranger, he works with your husband ...

Ilovechees3 · 31/10/2025 09:45

We went on holiday and came home to a lovely new fitted bathroom. The workman’s dad lived in the street and he had previously fitted a bathroom for a neighbour.
He even did extra work for no extra charge.

SeaAndStars · 31/10/2025 09:41

Your husband is fine with it and he knows the man. Why would you worry?

Brightbluesomething · 31/10/2025 09:38

If it was an actual stranger, I’ve booked them for when I’m home in case they have questions or need to speak to me about the job. This is someone your husband knows, so not a stranger. If anything happens your husband knows where to find him. I wouldn’t worry.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 31/10/2025 09:04

Erm, he's your husband's colleague, not like he's a stranger

AhBiscuits · 31/10/2025 08:56

I've had loads of work done at home without me there. Never really thought about it.