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Boyfriend sent me a video

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sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 00:02

I've started to date a new guy (he's not my boyfriend) and he sent me a video which was supposed to be taken at 6am in the morning (he sent it late afternoon).

It was taken when he was in bed (no not sexual) and what caught my eye is that it was light outaide. The light was shining on the TV screen in his room. He has those office type blinds vertical style.

The video was black and white in style, so it wasn't bright in the room, I just find it bizarre the winwod were so bright.

He stated his son woke him up at 6am and he took a video of him singing. I just found it weird the windows looked so bright.

Is it really bright at 6am? I thought it wasn't bright until 7ish.

(He is staying he's tired from being up early etc and can't meet, which is fine but it looks so bright outside that I instantly thought the video wasnt taken at night. I've just got a feeling it's not quite right)

Anyone up at 6am and van confirm on the room brightness

OP posts:
Arlanymor · 31/10/2025 00:12

Why do you care about room brightness? He sent you a video of him singing. You're analysing shafts of light on wallpaper...

snoooze · 31/10/2025 00:11

is it maybe a street lamp shining brightly into his room

RedLeicesterRedLeicester · 31/10/2025 00:11

I get you!
mid be suss too

Crinkle77 · 31/10/2025 00:09

Is it that you think he lied about what time the video was taken? He tried to say it was 6am when it's still dark but it clearly wasn't cos it was light outside? Do you think he was using it as an excuse not to meet as he'd supposedly been up so early?

HedwigEliza · 31/10/2025 00:08

sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 00:07

Can you read?

Run like like wind, my guy! 😄

minishiteboard · 31/10/2025 00:08

He sends wank videos ?

minishiteboard · 31/10/2025 00:08

What's the issue?

Peaceshout · 31/10/2025 00:07

Do you scrutinise everything to this extent?

If so, I think you can join the police as a civilian investigator these days.

Although I’m a little unclear what this actually shows? That his blinds aren’t very good? That his video was taken slightly later than he suggested? Why would he want to fake that?

sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 00:07

HedwigEliza · 31/10/2025 00:06

And this is a problem…. why?

I’d advise him to run. You sound incredibly hard work and a massive over-thinker. He’s best steering clear.

Can you read?

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HedwigEliza · 31/10/2025 00:06

And this is a problem…. why?

I’d advise him to run. You sound incredibly hard work and a massive over-thinker. He’s best steering clear.

minishiteboard · 31/10/2025 00:03

What's wrong with being in bed