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Boyfriend sent me a video

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sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 00:02

I've started to date a new guy (he's not my boyfriend) and he sent me a video which was supposed to be taken at 6am in the morning (he sent it late afternoon).

It was taken when he was in bed (no not sexual) and what caught my eye is that it was light outaide. The light was shining on the TV screen in his room. He has those office type blinds vertical style.

The video was black and white in style, so it wasn't bright in the room, I just find it bizarre the winwod were so bright.

He stated his son woke him up at 6am and he took a video of him singing. I just found it weird the windows looked so bright.

Is it really bright at 6am? I thought it wasn't bright until 7ish.

(He is staying he's tired from being up early etc and can't meet, which is fine but it looks so bright outside that I instantly thought the video wasnt taken at night. I've just got a feeling it's not quite right)

Anyone up at 6am and van confirm on the room brightness

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Blueblell · 31/10/2025 11:12

If it was taken on Sunday he may have thought it was 6 but it was in fact 7 as the clocks changed overnight.

oops nope wrong way round!

SleeplessInWherever · 31/10/2025 11:11

Jammington · 31/10/2025 11:09

I could never date again if DH and I broke up.

It sounds utterly exhausting.

Agreed. If I’m gonna find someone who analyses my curtains and checks daylight, I’m out.

My ex husband is “not allowed” to communicate with me about our house sale, because his partner checks his WhatsApp. He’s 40.

I repeat.. couldn’t be arsed.

Jammington · 31/10/2025 11:09

I could never date again if DH and I broke up.

It sounds utterly exhausting.

LeaderBee · 31/10/2025 11:07

sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 11:02

Why would you not have black out curtains and have office blinds

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Just like me, maybe because he can't afford them or doesn't know how to fit them? If you already have blinds, entirely replacing them isn't necessarily at the top of the list of thing to do.

SergeantWrinkles · 31/10/2025 11:06

Op your postings aren’t making sense. You say there are other issues? You have blocked him? You haven’t blocked him? It’s all a bit confusing!

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sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 11:02

rwalker · 31/10/2025 10:38

Ever considered there’s a street light outside

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Why would you not have black out curtains and have office blinds

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LeaderBee · 31/10/2025 10:59

Cinnamon77 · 31/10/2025 10:56

This thread is nuts.

The OP said this man is her boyfriend and then said he's not her boyfriend?

Then said she'd blocked and deleted his number, now says she hasn't done that?

She said he's done other things bar the light issue in the video but won't reveal what they are?

He put UHT milk on her cereal.

I'd dump him too.

Cinnamon77 · 31/10/2025 10:56

This thread is nuts.

The OP said this man is her boyfriend and then said he's not her boyfriend?

Then said she'd blocked and deleted his number, now says she hasn't done that?

She said he's done other things bar the light issue in the video but won't reveal what they are?

Digdongdoo · 31/10/2025 10:55

PGmicstand · 31/10/2025 10:43

I can see this thread taking the same turn as the one about the man lying about his height with many people focusing on the issue (or 'non issue') rather than the key element of someone lying.

It is a non issue though. Seems like it was lighthearted joke about how early his kid wakes up. The exact time hardly matters.

LeaderBee · 31/10/2025 10:53

PGmicstand · 31/10/2025 10:43

I can see this thread taking the same turn as the one about the man lying about his height with many people focusing on the issue (or 'non issue') rather than the key element of someone lying.

Is it a non-issue if she's just mistaken a street lamp for dayligth though? Video was in monochrome so wont be able to tell if it's lamp glow or sunshine.

The bloke probably isn't lying at all and it's just an exaggeration of what time it was because an exact to the minute timing usually doesn't matter enough to care about.

Some man hating people on mumsnet just jump straight to the conclusion he's lying and deceitful because they have a pre-existing bias.

Cinnamon77 · 31/10/2025 10:51

sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 10:28

No.

Not your concern

Stop trying to make an issue when non exists

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You're the one saying there were other issues! Just curious to know what they were

SleeplessInWherever · 31/10/2025 10:51

sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 10:28

No.

Not your concern

Stop trying to make an issue when non exists

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The irony 🫠😂

PGmicstand · 31/10/2025 10:43

I can see this thread taking the same turn as the one about the man lying about his height with many people focusing on the issue (or 'non issue') rather than the key element of someone lying.

rwalker · 31/10/2025 10:38

sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 10:28

No.

Not your concern

Stop trying to make an issue when non exists

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Ever considered there’s a street light outside

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sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 10:29

Digdongdoo · 31/10/2025 10:07

Like what?
Because a possible exaggeration about quite how early a video was filmed isn't an issue.

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Other stuff as well.

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sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 10:28

Cinnamon77 · 31/10/2025 10:15

You've dumped your boyfriend and blocked his number because he sent you a video which had too much light for your liking in it?

How old are you and how long were you with him for?

What were the other things he did that you didn't like?

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No.

Not your concern

Stop trying to make an issue when non exists

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Cinnamon77 · 31/10/2025 10:15

sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 09:09

Was taken Sunday or Monday.

(Deleted and blocked him)

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You've dumped your boyfriend and blocked his number because he sent you a video which had too much light for your liking in it?

How old are you and how long were you with him for?

What were the other things he did that you didn't like?

Digdongdoo · 31/10/2025 10:07

sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 10:04

Yes just so much stuff that I felt weird about.

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Like what?
Because a possible exaggeration about quite how early a video was filmed isn't an issue.

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sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 10:04

Digdongdoo · 31/10/2025 09:50

He didn't send it until the afternoon. Sounds like he was being a little hyperbolic. My DC were up before 7, and it was light out.
What a drama queen. He's had a lucky escape I think..

Yes just so much stuff that I felt weird about.

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sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 10:03

Almost2026 · 31/10/2025 10:00

My iPhone says sun rise is 7:07 but my camara shows light when my DH leaves at 6:30 (dark when DS leaves at 5:15)

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Camera will have infa red or whatever so it can see in the dark. I don't think the phone does.

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Almost2026 · 31/10/2025 10:00

unreasonablyso · 31/10/2025 09:08

Sunrise tomorrow is at 7:07 so yes at 6am, it’d still be dark outside. However if the video was taken a week ago before the clocks went back, at 6am it’d probably have been lighter outside.

My iPhone says sun rise is 7:07 but my camara shows light when my DH leaves at 6:30 (dark when DS leaves at 5:15)

SergeantWrinkles · 31/10/2025 09:55

Yes it’s light out at around 6am where I am because the clocks have just gone back an hour. (I have to get up and walk the dog around that time so have noticed the change). Is there a reason it’s bothering you? Do you suspect he’s lying?

Digdongdoo · 31/10/2025 09:50

He didn't send it until the afternoon. Sounds like he was being a little hyperbolic. My DC were up before 7, and it was light out.
What a drama queen. He's had a lucky escape I think..

SideshowItchy · 31/10/2025 09:45

LeaderBee · 31/10/2025 09:33

Bloke dodged a bullet by the sound of it. Good for him.

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Completely agree - without any other information, this seems a little batshit

SleeplessInWherever · 31/10/2025 09:39

sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 09:26

What.... I saw something that wasn't quite right, I have a feeling I can't shrug of. Just need confirmation

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Of daylight?

I repeat. Couldn’t be bothered.

I don’t know about you, but at 36 I am absolutely not wasting my life dissecting videos that I’m sent and double checking someone’s every move. I have neither the time nor patience.