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Boyfriend sent me a video

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sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 00:02

I've started to date a new guy (he's not my boyfriend) and he sent me a video which was supposed to be taken at 6am in the morning (he sent it late afternoon).

It was taken when he was in bed (no not sexual) and what caught my eye is that it was light outaide. The light was shining on the TV screen in his room. He has those office type blinds vertical style.

The video was black and white in style, so it wasn't bright in the room, I just find it bizarre the winwod were so bright.

He stated his son woke him up at 6am and he took a video of him singing. I just found it weird the windows looked so bright.

Is it really bright at 6am? I thought it wasn't bright until 7ish.

(He is staying he's tired from being up early etc and can't meet, which is fine but it looks so bright outside that I instantly thought the video wasnt taken at night. I've just got a feeling it's not quite right)

Anyone up at 6am and van confirm on the room brightness

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gasert · 31/10/2025 21:34

Videos pick up even the tiniest bit of light from outside. I once took a video when it was dark outside, and it looked much much lighter than it was.

Zempy · 31/10/2025 21:26

Do people really live like this?

notatinydancer · 31/10/2025 21:22

minishiteboard · 31/10/2025 00:08

He sends wank videos ?

It was his son singing ???

Jackiepumpkinhead · 31/10/2025 19:33

Moonlightfrog · 31/10/2025 12:58

OP, ignore the stupid replies. I think your post was hard to understand for some. Basically he sent you a video saying he was woken by his son singing at 6am? It was light outside so I clearly wasn’t 6am as it’s dark at 6am. He’s using his son waling him up early as an excuse not to see you?

Your gut is telling you he is lying and making up excuses. Your gut is probably right…..it usually is. He doesn’t want to see you today.

People understand what OP is implying, they just think it’s utterly ridiculous.

I’m pleased this man has escaped.

Catpuss66 · 31/10/2025 18:38

I think as others have said to trust your gut. There have been other red flag warnings with this man think you have done the right thing.

Digdongdoo · 31/10/2025 14:55

sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 13:15

No. If you read previous posts it all makes sense

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Does it?

HedwigEliza · 31/10/2025 14:32

I’m glad for him! He’s dodged a bullet.

Ally886 · 31/10/2025 14:09

unreasonablyso · 31/10/2025 09:08

Sunrise tomorrow is at 7:07 so yes at 6am, it’d still be dark outside. However if the video was taken a week ago before the clocks went back, at 6am it’d probably have been lighter outside.

I think you've got that the wrong way round....

Ally886 · 31/10/2025 14:07

This morning it was light at 6am. The clocks changed at the weekend so it took me by surprise on Monday.

Personally if you're interrogating a video from someone you've not been seeing long I would suggest you don't have the maturity for an adult relationship. Sorry

Cinnamon77 · 31/10/2025 13:57

MyFlabbersAreGasted · 31/10/2025 13:54

a bit rich to ask PP if they can read when in your title you say boyfriend but later on say he's not..

edited to tag OP as I tagged wrong person!

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She also edited the original post several times

SleeplessInWherever · 31/10/2025 13:55

Was there an argument about sunlight and toddlers before the blocking, or just a singing video and then immediately blocked?

Bet he’s absolutely baffled if it’s the latter.

MyFlabbersAreGasted · 31/10/2025 13:54

a bit rich to ask PP if they can read when in your title you say boyfriend but later on say he's not..

edited to tag OP as I tagged wrong person!

WellYouWereMythTaken · 31/10/2025 13:53

If you think he’s lying and it bothers you then whatever he’s lying about, you should probably call it a day. Second guessing and not trusting him will eat away at you. And your relationship with him. It’ll go badly and be a total waste of your time and his.

Blueskiesandrainbows · 31/10/2025 13:47

Well the OP has blocked him so that’s that.

i think you’ve overreacted OP he’s probably totally confused now!

Cucy · 31/10/2025 13:42

Honestly OP you sound incredibly difficult.
This is way too much overthinking.

I don’t understand, you have strong doubts about him, you think he’s lying about things, he’s going hot and cold and you’re not even in a relationship - just end it.

Wordsmithery · 31/10/2025 13:36

sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 00:07

Can you read?

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Evidently @HedwigEliza can read. How rude. Your post was unclear and odd. Your bf-not-a-bf sent you a picture so you need to know how light it is at 6a.m.
What do you suspect him of, exactly? Was some heinous crime committed at 6a.m. and the video is his alibi? Anything less than that and you're creating a drama out of nothing.

pottylolly · 31/10/2025 13:30

Do you think he’s on holiday?

WeeGeeBored · 31/10/2025 13:26

he Might well have been up 6am but taken the picture a little later. Next you’ll be saying he doesn’t look tired. I would take him at his word unless he has form for lying.

SevenYellowHammers · 31/10/2025 13:17

Peaceshout · 31/10/2025 00:07

Do you scrutinise everything to this extent?

If so, I think you can join the police as a civilian investigator these days.

Although I’m a little unclear what this actually shows? That his blinds aren’t very good? That his video was taken slightly later than he suggested? Why would he want to fake that?

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Blueskies77 · 31/10/2025 13:16

Think you’ve done the right thing by blocking him. You’ve followed your gut instinct that telling you things weren’t right and you won’t need to waste any more time and energy on him now. It’s always so important to trust our gut!

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sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 13:15

Empress13 · 31/10/2025 13:15

have you not thought that maybe 6 was a typo and it should have been 7? When it would be light. I’m thinking there is more to this OP to make you doubt him

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No. If you read previous posts it all makes sense

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Empress13 · 31/10/2025 13:15

have you not thought that maybe 6 was a typo and it should have been 7? When it would be light. I’m thinking there is more to this OP to make you doubt him

Moonlightfrog · 31/10/2025 13:11

CustardySergeant · 31/10/2025 13:05

OP, why does the title say "Boyfriend sent me a video" but the first line says he's not your boyfriend?

I am guessing she couldn’t think of another way to describe him, maybe she should have said “man I am dating”?

LittleMi55Nobody · 31/10/2025 13:07

sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 00:02

I've started to date a new guy (he's not my boyfriend) and he sent me a video which was supposed to be taken at 6am in the morning (he sent it late afternoon).

It was taken when he was in bed (no not sexual) and what caught my eye is that it was light outaide. The light was shining on the TV screen in his room. He has those office type blinds vertical style.

The video was black and white in style, so it wasn't bright in the room, I just find it bizarre the winwod were so bright.

He stated his son woke him up at 6am and he took a video of him singing. I just found it weird the windows looked so bright.

Is it really bright at 6am? I thought it wasn't bright until 7ish.

(He is staying he's tired from being up early etc and can't meet, which is fine but it looks so bright outside that I instantly thought the video wasnt taken at night. I've just got a feeling it's not quite right)

Anyone up at 6am and van confirm on the room brightness

could it be street lights ??

Cinnamon77 · 31/10/2025 13:05

Moonlightfrog · 31/10/2025 12:58

OP, ignore the stupid replies. I think your post was hard to understand for some. Basically he sent you a video saying he was woken by his son singing at 6am? It was light outside so I clearly wasn’t 6am as it’s dark at 6am. He’s using his son waling him up early as an excuse not to see you?

Your gut is telling you he is lying and making up excuses. Your gut is probably right…..it usually is. He doesn’t want to see you today.

I think she later edited the original post to say that he was using it as an excuse to not see her - don't recall it originally saying this.

Either way this whole thread is nuttier than squirrel shit.

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