To feel hurt that my mum bought me cheaper items than she would buy for herself

@usedtobeaylis We dont know if Mum went out of her way. Sems to me it's quite likely that going to M&S would be out of mums way but going to where her daughter usually shops was on the way. So Mum just went to see how daughter was and picked up food on the way.

If she does know what OP likes she would know OP can't tell the difference, in which case why spend 3x on posh juice that the recipient doesn't consider any better. Maybe the chicken was the treat instead. I wouldn't be eating meat often If budget was tight.

If she doesn't know what OP likes then she got OP what she has seen her choosing for herself and knows is okay rather than something different that she doesn't know if she'll enjoy as much.

She may also be thinking that you might insist on paying her back after pay day, and keep budget down for that reason.

There are all sorts of things she may have been thinking, some supportive, some less so, we don't know. What we do know is the mum showed up with gifts. It just seems like OP's path through life would be happier if she said thanks and moved on.

Can you please explain to me like I'm 5 how M&S orange juice, ingredients 100% orange juice, is better than Asda orange juice, ingredients 100% orange juice?

@rainingsnoring

is it?? Why??

@rainingsnoring

OP doesn’t have children

Perhaps she knows you don't care about brand so thought there was no point paying over the odds. Perhaps she isn't entirely on board with having to bail you out and thinks you could manage your money better, so will cover basics but won't make a treat of it. Perhaps she is resentful of being told you're down to your last £1, and feels pressured into shopping for you, so is doing the mimum.
It's difficult without context to comment on her behaviour as much will depend on how often she has to do this and why, and your relationship in general.
In truth, it does sound rather petty in the scheme of things to be finding offense in a brand of juice you actually like, when clearly you have other things to worry about.

Unless there’s a huge back story your mum has done a nice thing. You didn’t need juice, salad etc - nice to have category. Presumably you had a tin of beans etc in, if not it’s good to have a few tins as backup meals. You said you were short of funds and she went out of her way to buy you some things you like and brands you usually buy and get them to you.
M & S can be cheaper for basics but I wouldn’t class juice as a basic.

HRTWT but have read op's single post.
Perhaps there's a back story and Mum doesn't approve of what you've spent your money on this month?

It's the fact people are overlooking that the mother usually shops in a different shop but went out of her way to go to the one her daughter uses and buy the items her daughter buys. Absolutely fucking mental that that's a bad thing. Now THAT is typical Mumsnet.

It's the whole heart of the argument.

It's the last thing I'd consider buying or asking for if I was totally broke, that's for sure. Wine on the other hand...🤣

It's not 'any scraps'. It's the same things that she CHOOSES for herself.

That's a straw man argument.

Its literally own brand juice that op usually drinks!

You are skint.

She brought you food.

Yet your quibbling over the fact she brought own brand apple juice.

Fair enough. I'm not a fruit juice girl either! 😁

Your logic appears to be that the OP should automatically be grateful for any scraps because some people have no living mother or no relationship with their mother. Do you always apply the same logic when friends or family or even others in war torn areas are struggling for whatever reason? There's always someone worse off so stop moaning.

Yeah I know. Sorry I was just reiterating it.

If this was my own DD rather than 'an old acquaintance' that I clearly disliked, I would still want her to eat well. I would definitely also be talking to her about financial literacy, as I already do to the one 'spender' amongst my DC.
I thought you were going to suggest going to give a much worse example.

Oh look poster with a difficult relationship with her mother who has previously behaved hurtfully towards her comes on MN to assess whether she’s unreasonable to feel hurt.

Is called ungrateful, spoilt, a brat, a spoilt brat, entitled, rude, told to drink water, learn to budget, get a better job. Repeatedly. Spitefully.

No shit she doesn’t want to come back

Yep! Hitting all the right notes too... daughter with not enough money to feed herself, selfish boomer mother who goes on holidays, buying own brand...

Yikes - interesting thread.

I think @paintbynumberss you are lucky that your mum bought you groceries to tide you over. Many people don't have a mum who would do that.

Even if the reason your DD couldnt afford stuff was because she repeatedly chose to spend her money on the wrong stuff?
An old acquaintance of mine was perpetually down to her last £1 every other month. Yet the first thing she always did when money came in was book to have nails done at £25 a pop, and buy decor items for her place, new bedding, nick naks she fancied, stuff.

She wasted money all the time and just never seemed to learn to wait to book the nail appointment at the END, of the month, if she had money left to spare once essentials were paid for....

OP if i was your mum i would not have wanted to appear profligate and wasteful delivering you m&s shopping when you'd told me you were down to your last pound.
I also, as a parent of an adult, wouldnt have wanted to bail you out too much as long term it wouldn't help you, depending on the circumstance....
How often are you down to your last pound? Do you budget? Is there a chance your mum thinks you overspend or dont manage your money the best, and is hoping you'll learn from this experience so doesn't want to deliver a load of expensive m&s goodies on you?

If you were my DD I'd think you were ungrateful and entitled. Your Mum didn't want you to go without food so brought you some. She has probably noticed that was the juice you buy for yourself. Next time perhaps she just won't bother.