To feel hurt that my mum bought me cheaper items than she would buy for herself

I wouldn't read too much into it. If I were buying you some food to help you out, I might grab what I know you drink because I know you like it. I wouldn't necessarily risk buying something I prefer. It might not be to your taste.

It was nice of your Mum to help you out. Juice is a luxury item rather than necessary basic, so she wasn't just getting you emergency items.

YABVU

Sorry but how spoilt can one be?

Next month let her know you won't accept anything else than oysters and caviar.

She bought you what you usually buy yourself, and that's not good enough?

What is they say? It's easy to spend other people's money.

Did you expect more

I think most people here echo my sentiments. We don’t know the history between you so based solely on what you’ve said, she did you a favour she didn’t (shouldn’t?) have to.

As an aside, you’ve stated you had £1.21 left today, you are single and living alone. Clearly you work as you mention payday. Then you end by saying you want children and you’d want to give them the best. So I say this with kindness. Don’t have any until you have figured out how to get by without needing your mum to step in at the end of the month. And I hope when the time comes, you’ll teach your kids to be grateful when someone steps in to help, whether or not that help has a brand name all over it.

Really no, and if you were properly on the bones of your arse (which some of us have properly been) then you wouldn't quibble about the brands and accept the help.

If you only had £1.21 to pay day left then the answer is thank you.

I'm going to ignore the race to be bottom comments. If you have nothing in the cupboards you are at the bottom.

@MintDog
It's stranger that you come from a well off family but you're struggling?

Not the point of the thread, I know, but isn't this quite common nowadays? Especially if you take into account the differences that are simply to do with the parents being at a different life stage, mortgage paid off etc.

If you get paid today, you could have probably shopped yesterday and been fine because the money wouldn't clear before your pay goes in anyway

Being as you said you buy the cheaper juice because it tastes the same, I suspect if she's brought you the branded juice you'd have been here saying "AIBU that my mother brought me expensive juice when she could have brought cheaper juice and spent the extra money on more for me?"

And for the PP asking about food banks - yes I do donate, and often it is Supermarket Own Brand (not the cheapest/basic range) because I can't afford to spend that much to donate expensive items which are more than I would normally buy myself anyway

Your poor Mum, I hope she never finds out that you posted that.

you had no food or money to buy stuff

she buys you a bag of stuff that you usually have and she’s in the wrong

wow

you are ungrateful

Could be really considerate - she's getting what you usually get, so if you have friends round you don't have to admit your mum got your shopping for you.

Could be she begrudges having to do it for some reason.

Lots of options in between.

But really it comes down to don't look a gift horse. She went to the trouble of bringing you food. Thanks mum.

You presumably asked her for help OP (otherwise how would she have known) and now you are nitpicking about that help. Just say thank you

Previous comments are a bit baffling. Is it just me that thinks buying a bag of groceries for your struggling adult child isn't particularly going above & beyond?? Surely any decent parent would do the same if they had the means?

Anyway, I think it's worth considering that it simply didn't occur to her. She may well have just bought something she'd seen you drink before and knows you like. I can understand why it hurt your feelings though, especially if you're already feeling low.

Thank goodness some people have been along to not be such dicks. I feel you, OP. I'm not sure if your mum meant it that way, it could have been that she was buying you what she's seen you have before, but I can see how it would have landed. And why it would have hurt.

Wow!

I think this post sums it up perfectly and actually shows compassion and understanding rather than being scathing over someone’s financial situation. I wonder if any of these people criticising OP for needing her mums help donate to a food bank? Would you just donate the cheapest food because that’s all people struggling deserve?

I understand how OP feels. I left home very young and struggled financially, I used to sometimes ask my mum if I could take some food from her freezer that had been there for months.
My dad always complained and made me feel like a scrounger but then would pay for my sisters driving lessons and a car! He used to say he was planning on eating the microwave meal that had been there for 6 months but it would end up in the bin.

Every now and then my mum would bring me a bag of food I loved to work (I was working 60 hour weeks to support myself) from booths or M&S just so I had a few “luxury items”.
I felt embarrassed and undeserving of the food from the freezer but when my mum brought me the bags of food to work I felt like I was loved and being cared for.

I’m a bit disappointed so many people couldn’t understand why OP felt the way she did and needed to make her feel ashamed for her financial situation in a cost of living crisis.

This attitude shows what we have become in this country and it saddens me.

I think a “thank you so much” would have just sufficed? what a brat.

Not everyone who has the outward appearance of a comfortable life has a lot of money sitting in their everyday bank account waiting for an unexpected request such as yours.

Some people siphon their income off straight into investments, bills, repayments etc and keep a strictly budgeted amount for everyday spending. Some people are overstretched because of their comfortable looking life and are actually quite cash poor.

She's helping you in a time of need not going out to treat you. My dd got the basics from me at a similar time because basics is all you can hopefully get if your money runs out and like a pp mentioned who even needs juice it's not bare bones minimal rations she's got you. Get over it, appreciate the nutrition, be thankful, try to manage your finances better in future. I hope she does see fit to treat you now and again though if she can.

If she bought what she's seen you buy for yourself, what is there to be upset about?

I never buy my daughter decent coffee because she's happy drinking the cheap stuff so it's a waste. She does notice the difference in cheddar, so I buy her good quality cheese. My mum couldn't tell 10p chocolate from £10 chocolate but would only buy quilted loo roll. People are selective about different things.

Your mum has very kindly bailed you out by buying items you need but are too skint for. That's lovely of her. Thank her and get over your chippy self.

I am the same ,but also acknowledge that people have different budgets.

If my daughter we're in that situation I would have pleasure in buying her some lovely treats. Your Mum seems a bit mean.

She bought what you’d usually buy for yourself and you’re whinging about it? Are you always so ungrateful?

Some people haven't even got a mum. Be grateful. You have a mum and she helped you out.