I live with my parents at the moment with my baby after leaving my ex. It wasn’t a normal breakup there was serious emotional and sexual harm involved.
My sister and her husband decided to meet up with my ex at a soft-play centre with their kids and the baby on a day he has her. They didn’t tell me before planning this. I only found out afterwards when her husband phoned my dad to say tell him and said he'd call me later to tell me. I felt sick.
I’d already told my sister I needed distance and asked her not to have any contact with him, especially not involving the kids. She ignored that and later said her children “keep asking to see him” and that she had to put their wellbeing first. I think that’s a poor excuse — they aren’t suffering without him; she just didn’t want to say no.
I told her she could have spoken to me first, and that her choice has destroyed our relationship. She replied with a thumbs-up emoji and nothing else.
AIBU here to feel that I'm not sure I can ever forgive her for this.