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AIBU to think WTF were the parents thinking?

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JakeyRolling · 30/10/2025 07:24

DS (7) had his school Halloween disco last night.

Amongst the usual questionable costumes (Squid Games guards, tiny cheerleaders outfits Etc… The kind I wouldn’t do and I can’t understand why a parent would but not inherently problematic) there was one kid in a Santa outfit with a scary pointy “blood” splattered mask and a stabbing knife. (The mask is similar to the pic)
Quite apart from the fact the school has a “no masks” policy, this was for the P1-3 age group so the oldest kid was no more than 9 and therefore many kids are still believers.

DS is autistic and was a bit upset by it and we had to explain several times it was a costume.

AIBU in being pissed at the parents?

AIBU to think WTF were the parents thinking?
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Falseknock · 30/10/2025 10:07

Terrytheweasel · 30/10/2025 10:06

Absolutely agree. This is why children are becoming more violent and killing each other! Perhaps people should be exposed to the statistics more often to understand how the younger generations minds are being warped by this shit - they’re anxious, depressed and becoming more violent towards each other. They’re not old enough to process the violence and gore that they’re seeing.. literally everywhere - even in bloody Asda!

🙄

Terrytheweasel · 30/10/2025 10:06

Allthecoloursoftherainbow4 · 30/10/2025 09:16

'spooky and scary' is very, very different to violent horror.

Why cant kids dress as more traditional witches/wizards/ghosts from stories theyve actually seen or read, rather than characters from 18 rated shows that they haven't watched, and dont understand the full context of?!

Absolutely agree. This is why children are becoming more violent and killing each other! Perhaps people should be exposed to the statistics more often to understand how the younger generations minds are being warped by this shit - they’re anxious, depressed and becoming more violent towards each other. They’re not old enough to process the violence and gore that they’re seeing.. literally everywhere - even in bloody Asda!

ClarasSisters · 30/10/2025 10:03

Guess it's what happens when you order a Satan costume from Temu.

DiscoBob · 30/10/2025 10:02

It's a costume! I mean just because someone dresses up as an Evil Santa doesn't necessarily mean regular Santa doesn't exist anymore?

They do realise that zombies, vampires, ghosts, mummies, witches etc are all fictitious though surely?

Terrytheweasel · 30/10/2025 10:01

And then people wonder why kids are stabbing each other to death in schools these days.
Aah but it’s a good laugh isn’t it! Lighten up! fucking idiots.
Please speak to the school and make sure a strong message goes out that no masks or weapons of any kind to be brought into school under any circumstances- even a Halloween disco.

Doobedobe · 30/10/2025 10:00

Well yes its not appropriate. But not much about halloween os if toh really think about it. If they have older siblings, they probably insisted in wearing their siblings costume.
I find pirates themes stuff particuarly disturbing. Usually aimed at preschoolers. My child had a pirate themed nursery set. I didnt really think about it at rhe time but I started to think mkre about it in recent years and really think it's bizarre that we put pirate themed stuff all over little kids clothingz play equipmenrt books etc. Thry are masically machette carrying murdering theives and rapists. Wholly innapropriate.

Superhansrantowindsor · 30/10/2025 09:49

Some parents just want to be seen as cool, edgy and different.

surreygirly · 30/10/2025 09:44

I see no issue personally

SpaceRaccoon · 30/10/2025 09:39

AmpleSwan · 30/10/2025 08:38

Is it Silent Night, Deadly Night? DH and I are keen on watching terrible B movies and are always on the lookout for festive treats (Santa with Muscles and Elves being particular favourites).

It's Art the Clown from the Terrifier films. Great fun but probably not so much for small children...

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 30/10/2025 09:36

MumChp · 30/10/2025 07:33

I understand it clashed with no mask policy but Halloween isn't meant to be cute..

Maybe not for adults, but for younger primary school children I think that it is.

softlyfallsthesnow · 30/10/2025 09:34

Cheerleading in the UK is nothing like the stereotypical US pompom waving of old. DN does it to a v high standard, nationally and internationally, and it is very athletic and highly skilled. The name is very misleading, I agree.
Oh and there are boys in her team.

Onlyinthrees · 30/10/2025 09:34

When we were kids in the 90s, my younger sister dressed up as someone who had been hanged for Halloween. In a homemade costume. I had to carry the end of her noose 😬

5678XXX · 30/10/2025 09:30

Why did the school allow the mask?

No point in having a "no mask policy" if they then don't follow it

Secretsexkitten · 30/10/2025 09:28

Kid at my DS’s school brought along a plastic, but pretty realistic toy AK-47 to the school Halloween disco. His mum argued the toss with the Head who confiscated it and really didn’t understand why her child bringing a pretend assault rifle into a primary school might be seen as tasteless and inappropriate.. 🙄

CausalInference · 30/10/2025 09:25

How can you have a "no masks" policy for a halloween disco? Heard it all now! I also don't understand your issue with cheerleaders, my daughter was a zombie cheerleader last year at her primary school disco. Her outfit wasn't remotely "skimpy" she wears far less clothing for her dance competitions and as others point out quite a few children go to cheerleading clubs anyway, it's a form of dance/acrobatics, my child's dance school also offers pom classes.

While I agree the mask here is too much for a primary school halloween disco it's scary and a bit of an odd choice. I did say no to a few costumes my 7 year old wanted to go in because they were too scary for the little ones, he settled on the grim reaper, it does look a little creepy (hood, skelaton face and light up red eyes) but it is halloween! Some kids go as horror film characters, there was a fantastic pennywise costume last year, it did look freaky (he had his face painted, no mask) he obviously won't have had any idea what film the character was from (I know the mum well, he 100% hasn't seen the film), he was just a scary clown to him. Our school doesn't have any policy on dress code for the discos but the head did take any pretend weapons off the kids on the door last year, quite a few of the y5 and y6 last year came as deadpool etc.

SeaShelli · 30/10/2025 09:25

The film Terrifier that it's from is too much for most adults too. I think its because this character has been made into a meme online so kids think hes funny - if the parents had looked even a tiny bit into this and would have realised immediately how inappropriate it is

TheLivelyRose · 30/10/2025 09:24

MumChp · 30/10/2025 07:33

I understand it clashed with no mask policy but Halloween isn't meant to be cute..

Halloween is meant to be cute for children aged seven.

Or are you suggesting slasher get up was appropriate for children of that age?

What on earth happened to a sheet over you with a couple of holes in it. Witches and wizard costumes.

Doesn't have to be full on gore for young primary school children. It is very much meant to be cute at that age.

AquaFurball · 30/10/2025 09:23

AmpleSwan · 30/10/2025 08:38

Is it Silent Night, Deadly Night? DH and I are keen on watching terrible B movies and are always on the lookout for festive treats (Santa with Muscles and Elves being particular favourites).

It's the Terrifier. Art the Clown, definitely not B movies. Started in All Hallow's Eve and has 3 movies of his own now.

B movie wise, have you seen The Mean One? Christmas movie.

JudgeBread · 30/10/2025 09:22

Yikes that's Art the Clown, from the sequence in Terrifier 3 where he blows up a bunch of children in a mall. That is a WILDLY inappropriate thing to dress a child as. I am a horror junkie and huge fan of slashers but dear me. Time and a place.

PixieandMe · 30/10/2025 09:21

Oh. That's horrible.

MollyMollyMandy33 · 30/10/2025 09:20

Whatafustercluck · 30/10/2025 07:43

Yeah, I don't think I'd choose it for my child but isn't the issue really that it contradicts the no masks policy?

My 8yo dd is dressing as the doll from Squid Game. I don't see the issue really. She's a girl who likes dresses - last year she was Wednesday. She's never watched Squid Game BTW, she's played it on Roblox and her 15/16 yo brother and cousin like it so she's just following them really.

Lots of autistic children find Halloween triggering, though. Short of stopping them joining in altogether, there's not much you can do to prevent them from reacting to something. An autistic child's grandmother was telling me the other day that her grandchild got freaked out by a large dinosaur roaming around the school disco. My dd is also autistic (another reason she chose the Squid Game doll - it's a much more comfortable costume for her due to sensory processing issues).

It’s all just horrible and unnecessary. I can’t understand why any parent would let an 8 year old child dress up as a character from a horror movie.

Notmyreality · 30/10/2025 09:20

Boobyslims · 30/10/2025 09:04

“No mask” policy for Halloween?!!!

Yes. Very common. Get out from under your rock.

BadgernTheGarden · 30/10/2025 09:19

Givemethereins · 30/10/2025 08:28

Well there's your answer. If you don't see anything wrong with Santa Claus now being turned into a nightmare serial killer for children aged 6-7 yrs old, then either your too young to be a parent or your kids will have some interesting stories later on in life.

Children know that Santa is a big fat guy. A small child dressed like that doesn't look like Santa or a serial killer! If it was a teenager it might be a bit more worrying to small children. And I would imagine most of the children knew exactly who was wearing the costume.

Notmyreality · 30/10/2025 09:19

millymollymoomoo · 30/10/2025 07:31

I don’t see an issue with it. It’s a costume and Halloween

And that’s the problem right there.

ThatCyanCat · 30/10/2025 09:16

Boobyslims · 30/10/2025 09:04

“No mask” policy for Halloween?!!!

Because so many of them are so horrible, and it's meant to be suitable for younger children.

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