Me and dd13 often attend the Chelsea ladies matches, we’ve been going the last 2 years. We go to football and nandos either before or after depending on kick off. It’s our little thing. DP has joined us to London a few of the times, he goes and does his own thing and we meet and go to nandos. No issue. So this weekend he’s invited himself again. Plan was the same, football then nandos. Then he threw a paddy, yes a literal paddy because he realised the fireworks we usually go to are on that day and we can’t go because we have football (baring in mind we missed them last year because he had an event) his dad passed away in February and he stated that he’d really like to go this year because he always went to fireworks displays as a kid with his dad and he wanted to this year because it meant something. Tbh I’m not a massive fan of fireworks, I can take them or leave them. He then said he wanted to go to the fireworks in London we’ve attended before. I wasn’t happy at first as will have to leave home at 8am to get to London and then won’t be home til late. Fine I agreed. Dd didn’t want to go either but we are going to support DP. No further issue until just now when we were going through timings, and he’s just basically tried to say that we can’t go to nandos because we won’t get there (clink street nandos) and back after the match finishes in time to get to the fireworks by 5 so he gets a place to park. I’ve completely stood my ground and said we are going to nandos, I’m not changing that because
- hes invited himself along to mine and DD’s trip and we are not changing our tradition.
- he wanted to go to the fireworks after the match was confirmed so I’m not changing our tradition.
he then stated how he’s not going to eat in nandos because he wants a burger, after I asked him what we are supposed to do from 5 until the fireworks start at 7.30. Personally I’ll be bored shitless and can’t think of anything worse than standing around for 2 and half hours. I told him he doesn’t have to eat it’s up to him but me and dd will be going to nandos whether he likes it or not. He’s finally given in and said he’ll just have something small and a drink.
i understand he’s still grieving but I’ve been letting things slide (Nothing sinister, just some questionable behaviours) since February and this is something I’m not willing to budge on.