New bf saying he wouldn’t date someone who goes to the gym everyday

I wouldn’t class it as controlling. If you can see jt as something that’s going to bother you then he’s not the man for you.
How long does a gym session take you. I’d struggle with someone who was out the house for hours everyday in the gym.

Unless he’s telling you how often you’re allowed to go to the gym it’s not controlling, because he isn’t attempting to control you. And it’s not a ‘red flag’ either, not everything is abusive. It’s a preference, he’s allowed them, if that doesn’t work for you then that’s totally fine, break it off.

Has he told you to stop going to the gym? That would be controlling.

What he's doing is expressing a completely normal preference. I wouldn't want to date a gym rat either. Lots of people don't.

I’m not a gym goer but I have horses which is a very time consuming, daily hobby that I can’t decide to skip for a few days whenever I like.

I can definitely understand why someone may not want to date me because of it. Thankfully I have a very long suffering and understanding partner who has her own hobbies and loves alone time so it’s fine but it has been an issue with people in the past.

Training every day does have the real potential to be obsessive and impact day to day life. Rest and recovery is important.

That said, I think there's a difference between stepping things up temporarily to achieve a certain short term goal, and hitting the gym every day regardless of what other things may be impacted.

It's not controlling - it's just his boundary/preference. If you're incompatible then you're incompatible. I've never dated anyone massively into football because I wouldn't want to watch live or on TV because I find it boring (I have tried - an ex was a big fan and had a season ticket - I tried for six months, not for me). So for me, people for whom football is their main obsession are not for me. The same could be said for people who want to date me - if you don't like rugby, or at least don't mind me being a rugby fan, then we're not going to go the distance...

It could be controlling if he mentioned it in such a way as to imply he’d dump her if she started going more often, but otherwise it’s not controlling.

Its not controlling to say you want a partner who makes time for you and not have a hobby meaning you are gone for a couple of hours every morning/evening/weekends.

Controlling would be saying you could never go out.

How is it controlling? And what is there a red flag about it?

Women have preferences all the time is that controlling are there red flags in this?

I don't think it's controlling as it's just his preference. If you are a daily gym bunny then you are obviously incompatible. It would drive me nuts too if my partner did something like that every day if it took up leisure time together too much.

It’s not controlling to say you wouldn’t date someone for going to the gym that much. I’d be tried to prevent you from doing so, then that would be controlling. Did he say it as sort of a veiled “threat?”