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I got my dream job but…

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Rearing2go · 28/10/2025 23:59

As the title says, I got my dream job but house plans have fallen through and now I will be unemployed.

Im in a ldr with Bf, he rents off family at a cheaper price. Our plan was I move to his country (few hours away) ready to pack everything up everything is planned. Fm doesn’t want me to move into house with no reasoning just only family renting.

House rent is unbelievable dear , I don’t know if I can leave now but I’m unemployed as I’ve quit job and can’t take back. This has put a strain on relationship.

Aibu to give up support system and take job and we find a place but struggle (not sit comfortably now)
Or should I stay with support system and finally go it alone (houses are cheaper here) but still do ldr which is hard but works

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Rearing2go · 29/10/2025 00:22

Hardhats · 29/10/2025 00:16

If you only left your previous role due to moving and not acrimony, they might take you back?

My role has already been replaced which is very unlikely I can have it back and I don’t think I can mentally take any more as manager has been difficult with me leaving

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Doughtie · 29/10/2025 00:19

Ok so the dream job is in your BF's country, but you can't afford private rent there? Or rather you can just about, but it would be a struggle?

When you talk if giving up support system do you mean staying in expensive country in private rental, or moving home? Would your BF come into private rental with you or stay in his family property?

Hardhats · 29/10/2025 00:16

If you only left your previous role due to moving and not acrimony, they might take you back?

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Rearing2go · 29/10/2025 00:15

Sorry for being unclear.

i quit my job to move into my bfs house that he rents from family member. Giving my life up here which I was happy to do to move to his country and be with him.
We both thought everything was in place, but now family member has said only family can live in the house and I’m not allowed to move in.
we have been together 2 and a half years, I have given up everything to move to his country so I will have nothing here now if I decide to stay In my country.
i will be unemployed and now have to start again job searching and my accommodation isn’t guaranteed now as well here.

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TheatricalLife · 29/10/2025 00:08

Sorry OP, I struggled to follow that, but what stood out to me is that you said you don't feel comfortable with the job option now. I'd go with your gut. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it.

Doughtie · 29/10/2025 00:05

... but also congratulations on the dream job! Really well done.

Doughtie · 29/10/2025 00:05

I'm confused, sorry. Who is Fm? Could you spell out again what your options are?

Arlanymor · 29/10/2025 00:04

I'm not sure I understand. You took on a new role and the plan was to move (so it was a remote working job?) in with your boyfriend in another country?

But you resigned from your job and now he doesn't want you moving in with him? Where are you living now - you mention a 'support system' - do you mean that you are living with family?

Sorry there are elements of your post that are unclear.

NewJobProblem · 29/10/2025 00:03

Some of your post is not clear, sorry.

Where is the dream job - where you are now or where you are moving to?

What is Fm? Is that your partner?

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