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My “mum friend” didn’t get my child a birthday card

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Hesxboon · 28/10/2025 14:01

I have a friend who’s also a mom to 3 young children. September was her sons birthday and we do buy each others gifts/ cards every year as we’ve known each other years. Last week was my child’s birthday, she text happy birthday which was nice. We met yesterday for a coffee and play date with the kids. But nothing, no card or mention of did “””” enjoy their birthday?
I find it odd as she usually asks, gives a card and present, I don’t ever expect a present but I feel a bit hurt she didn’t even bother with a card from the kids. She’s got nothing going on that I know of and seemed fine. I’ve noticed she seems a bit bitter about other friends of hers lately and regularly slags them off to me. I just don’t know if I’m being unreasonable, she’s the type of person to buy in advance too, so I don’t think she’d forgotten either.

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Lavender14 · 28/10/2025 14:07

RomeoRivers · 28/10/2025 14:03

Did you have a birthday party?

Was also wondering this? If there was a party and if so was her kid invited. Or were they expecting to be.

Maybe it has been an oversight and she forgot it before seeing you. Sometimes well organised people can also drop a ball. Has there been any conversation about cutting back or similar?

RightThenRightAgain · 28/10/2025 14:06

Yes, maybe she’s trying to cut back on it all and this is how she’s doing it.

WallaceinAnderland · 28/10/2025 14:05

It just goes in the recycling. She sent a birthday message which is actually the thoughtful, caring bit.

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 28/10/2025 14:04

Maybe this is her way of saying "Cards are a waste of money and resources. Kids don't care about them and I will not be getting them from now on"

RomeoRivers · 28/10/2025 14:03

Did you have a birthday party?

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