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To think this PDA is inappropriate

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Darkdiamond · 28/10/2025 10:23

I'm on a train with my 10 year old son and there is a couple across from us. We are in a row across one side of the carriage, facing the couple who are on the opposite side (in the style of the Tube but narrower so about 1.5 metres away). There is one other girl on their row on her phone. Just giving context for how close they are, or far, depending on your perspective.

Anyway, they keep kissing with lots of giggling and sloppy sound effects. They aren't properly snogging but we can hear the long slurpy sounds and the muffled laughter, even when we look away. They are around 30 and are speaking Spanish, so don't know how much English they speak, but my son said to me quietly 'that's disgusting' and I said 'I know' in response. Honestly it was so sloppy and it's one of my least favourite sounds.

The couple continued and I instinctively looked up without thinking and the man had his eyes open and was looking in our direction with a smile on his face, mid slurp. They kissed a few times more and my son sort of winced. Look, I think it's great they are in love and everything, I really do. I'm not a prude. But I think it's just a bit yuck to be creating such a performance of kissing right in front of a child. Am I being very naive here? Is this something that other people would be ok with? When I felt like they were doing to deliberately piss us off I felt really annoyed. If I was on my own I wouldn't care but my son feels uncomfortable and for reason that's making me really peeved!

Is it just me?

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user1471538275 · 28/10/2025 10:49

There are many things in life that you need to studiously ignore.

They are doing nothing wrong BUT It is irritating and distracting.

Headphones on, nose in book/phone etc.

Darkdiamond · 28/10/2025 10:45

I'm happy for their deep love, honestly. It's the noises.

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Darkdiamond · 28/10/2025 10:44

PinkyFlamingo · 28/10/2025 10:40

You aren't physically affectionate with your DH in front of your kids?

Yes of course I am but not on this level, not the constant semi snogging. There is a level of hugs and kisses that you do in front of your kids and a type you don't. The verging on foreplay types of kisses are different to what our kids see. We have a cuddle and a peck but hopefully my kids don't get the sense that I want to take dhs clothes off. My stop is 3 mins away!

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spicycats · 28/10/2025 10:44

Totally agree that slurpy kissing noises are disgusting

Jan039 · 28/10/2025 10:44

I can't get upset about people kissing, I think it's quite nice hat they're happy actually. Talking loudly on a phone or playing music are much, much worse IMO.

WhatNoRaisins · 28/10/2025 10:41

I'd assume they were pissed which I admit doesn't help when you're in that situation trying to explain it to a 10 year old.

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 28/10/2025 10:40

At 10 all PDA is disgusting

Can't you move seats?

PinkyFlamingo · 28/10/2025 10:40

You aren't physically affectionate with your DH in front of your kids?

TeaRoseTallulah · 28/10/2025 10:38

It's the joys of travelling on public transport. Your ds is 10, he'll find everything disgusting, I wouldn't give it much thought personally.

Now, if they were playing music on their phones that would enrage me!!

Darkdiamond · 28/10/2025 10:36

She was just talking and he was obviously teasing her about something she said, and he starting kissing her while she was talking and they were both laughing. I can't block it out as they are right in front of me. The guy keeps kissing her head and face with the loudest 'schmmmwah' sound. It's just too much and is really annoying me! I'm very happily married and do all of the above with my husband but not in public 🤔 and not in front of our kids.

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