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WWYD more that AIBU? He slapped me

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changingsonooneknows · 28/10/2025 07:32

I was in bed with my husband and 4 year old son this morning. We were all talking and joking (so all awake). My husband closed his eyes for a second and I put my finger on his nostril (not inside), just as a joke for my son. He reacted really really angry screaming and then he slapped my shoulder (it hurt but didn’t leave a mark), and then stormed out swearing. I’m in shock, what should I do? I know I was annoying him but that seems extreme? He has been tired recently but we were all very awake in the bed…

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TheWonderhorse · 28/10/2025 07:37

Moonnstars · 28/10/2025 07:35

Give him time to cool off and then apologise. I would have been irritated too by that, any time not just in the morning and would also push someone away.
Hopefully he will also acknowledge that he shouldn't have sworn in front of your child.
Next time don't be so silly.

Wow. He slapped her in response to a joke and you're blaming her?

YodasHairyButt · 28/10/2025 07:36

What an appalling thing for your child to have to witness. Is this out of character? If so, a very serious discussion is needed and how he responds to that would factor in my decision on where to go next. If it’s not out of character, I’d be done.

Moonnstars · 28/10/2025 07:35

Give him time to cool off and then apologise. I would have been irritated too by that, any time not just in the morning and would also push someone away.
Hopefully he will also acknowledge that he shouldn't have sworn in front of your child.
Next time don't be so silly.

TheWonderhorse · 28/10/2025 07:35

He hit you, absolutely not okay. You need to leave lovely.

Has he ever reacted like that before?