Cold heartless daughter

well how old are you? how bad was your fall? Are you the kind of person who always makes a drama?

Sorry to hear that. You could be right maybe she is hurt. I feel sorry that she described her daughter as cold and heartless. Lets hope OP posts back to say all is well.

No you shouldn't get roasted you are being kind. The only problem is OP does not give a lot of information and updates. Very hard to judge really but I personally dont like the title of this chat when referring to a child.

What i think is weird is the amount of heat this women has had. She fell, was prob hurt and shocked her daughter was rude. She is now being roasted by people who have decided she’s a drama queen. I’m shocked at nastiness on here, and literally kicking her when she’s down.

It was the same last year - lots of responses to a 'daughter ignored fall' thread but not much back from the OP though it was a teenage daughter then, just seems odd but maybe life is stranger then fiction

I think she got roasted and probably very upset.

Yes, it could well have been a sprained ankle. These days there’s nothing to be gained by going to A&E, as they don’t do anything apart from make sure there are no broken bones. No bandaging or crutches either. And if she can put weight on the ankle, it’s obvious it hasn’t been broken.

But a sprain can be very painful and leave you quite shaken up. (I’ve had plenty of sprains and a fracture.)

Although if that was the case, why didn’t the OP just say so?

I think people might have had more of an open mind if the OP had shown some willing to engage or answer reasonable questions from posters. I'm always a bit wary when people post something controversial like calling a child heartless and then don't engage further.

I’m sure the reason that she isn’t giving updates it’s because she’s probably feeling quite crushed at the minute. Imagine having a fall that maybe left her quite shaken, getting no sympathy from her daughter and then everyone piling in to say she was the problem. I fell down the last few stairs at home and really hurt my ankle. I had to sit for five minutes to decide what to do as I was in charge of some kids. I decided to ask my husband to come home until the kids were collected. As it turned out it was just a bad sprain but it shock me up.

No you shouldn't get roasted you are being kind. The only problem is OP does not give a lot of information and updates. Very hard to judge really but I personally dont like the title of this chat when referring to a child.

This is true and we’re never going to know. We all make assumptions based on our own personal experiences. I doubt the OP will return to confirm she’s a drama queen or not so all pointless really!

I’d have to not be able to walk at all to let two random men basically carry me home. In fact I’d rather they called me a taxi to the walk in centre or wait for a friend or family member.

Knowing I was incapacitated a where I lived with a child alone not very wise tbh.

Bring it on….😂

I'm not going to roast you but, short of not being able.to walk at all, I wouldn't need or want two men to walk me home. I'd just take it slowly.

I know that because I left work early one day last year because I injured myself and couldn't walk or weight bear properly.

I got a taxi home from work and, when the driver offered to help me to the door, I said, "Ah, no, thanks for offering but I can manage." He asked if I was sure and I assured him I was fine.

I didn't say no because I was being awkward a hero or just obstinate but because that's my default response. I don't see myself as someone who needs help. I'm not 'needy'.

For me to actually accept help from a stranger, I would actually have to be incapable of doing it myself.

Some people are 'needier' than others. Some people like to feel needed and some people like to feel cared about/for and helped. Even if it isn't strictly necessary. Some people don't.

If the OP is a 'needier' person then her daughter might well feel uncomfortable around that. As a parent, my consideration would be that the daughter might become someone who can't accept help because she has such a negative association with it from being a child with a needy parent.

I would be concerned about the emotional wellbeing of the daughter before I thought her cold-hearted. There's a reason she reacted as she did.

And roasted you will be......😁

I have reread your post as I’ve seen so many people saying basically you’re a drama queen. I don’t see it. I’m assuming the shops weren’t far away. When you fall you can twist an ankle that you can’t put weight on at first but does not necessarily need a trip to A&E. Now you could be a drama queen or your daughter could just not be very kind. There is no proof either way. So folks be a big kinder as the OP could already be having a tough time. If she is a drama queen she could have anxiety. I’m shocked how unkind some people are here. My turn to get roasted.

Also, if you had genuinely acquired an injury that warranted two full grown men to help you home as you could not walk, why wouldn't you simply order an uber to a Minor Injuries unit? You could have put a stop to your home first to pick your DD up. It sounds like the ending of a dramatic scene at the theatre, the injured party hobbling home propped up by two big strong men.

Sounds like overdramatising is a regular thing for the OP. Anyone's patience would wear thin, nevermind an 11 year olds. Why is she home alone anyway. I'm not sure why the child has been deemed the uncaring one.

I'd be more concerned by op's self pity than the daughters cold heart.

This. At 11 I noticed my daughter kept disappearing when we were out clothes shopping (for her). I suddenly realised she was in embarrasses to be seen with me. It hurts. It stings. And it took until post Uni for us to become close again. My son,on the other hand don’t change - he was just a more sensitive soul.

Of course she’s massively overdramatic. She let two men “help” her home despite apparently not being badly injured enough to require medical attention, and good on the daughter for not pandering to it.

File under “oooh I just love all the drama, Mick!”

Now you're making assumptions. The OP does seem to be one of those massively over dramatic people, based on what she said, and it sounds like the daughter has seen it all before and is just a bit embarrassed by it.

Are you not also 'projecting' from your own experience? 🤔

She is your daughter. It is not her job to validate you or show empathy. It's your job to do that for her. Sounds like perhaps you don't like her? maybe she's not the daughter you thought you'd have 🤷‍♀️ at 11 I think it's pretty rare that they would be able to emotionally validate you and when you think about it, it would be weird if she could. The other option is you are worried about her but explaining yourself clumsily? Is there more context?

Calling your 11yo cold and heartless is pretty dramatic in itself.

But why did you let two strange men help you home? You must have been quite badly injured if you required help to walk - a break or a dislocation or a bad sprain - in which case why didn’t they take you to get medical attention instead? Surely that would be more logical.

Of course if you weren’t badly injured enough to need medical attention, and you still turned up on your own doorstep crying and accompanied by two strange men helping you to walk, I can well understand why your daughter rolled her eyes. It’s all very dramatic, OP.