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I'm so unhappy in my job. Made a huge mistake.

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latishia6 · 27/10/2025 12:03

I was in a job I really enjoyed but it didn't pay enough for me to live comfortably. I saw a job come up that on paper looked amazing. Working for a small charity (I was already working in the charity sector) in my area of expertise. I applied and got it. It paid a lot more (7k, which is a lot for me), and was a step up. I'm perfectly capable of doing the job, but half of what I'm doing is not in the job description. I'm basically looking after a system for data recording, which I knew I would have to use, but I had no idea based on the JD that it was going to be me actually managing it. I've been doing it for 7 months now and just hate it. It confuses me, I'm useless at it, I have ADHD and it has made it so much worse. I'm so anxious and dysregulated and I just need a different job. I feel tearful all the time and burnt out even though the workload isn't enormous, because the brain power my job needs is enormous for me. I am searching for jobs every day but there's just nothing that allows me to work remotely, which I need as a lone parent to a disabled child. I feel so stuck and sad. I feel like it would look terrible on my CV to leave a job so soon (if I can find anything). Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? How did you cope? Did it take you a long time to find a new job? I was close to quitting the other day out of a pure madness moment but thankfully didn't.

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HollyhockDays · 27/10/2025 12:07

If you really can’t get your head round the system then it’s ok to look for something else. I only judge a CV if someone has moved a lot like every year (unless they were all ftc).

Is there anything you can do to manage your use of the system better? More training or self directed learning?