Is my husband and close family right about her?

This person is NOT a friend on any level. Drop her and raise your bar of what you want in a friend, she's gutter level as far as friends go as she's a complete bitch towards you.
I can't be bothered with friends tbh, read so many cases on here about so called friends and wonder why anyone would bother.

Congratulations on your pregnancy 🥰🥰🥰
She is not a friend, I'm afraid, at least not anymore. I'd stop the "friendship", she is hurting you.

Hahahaaa wow did she really say that with a straight face. Dump her as a friend for this 100% bullshit alone

Yeah block this one, she sounds a pain in the backside.

I cannot believe you have entertained this person's behaviour all these years, but her reaction to your pregnancy is by far the worst and most unacceptable. Tell her you don't want to be friends with her and block her.

Because she can look up how much it cost and then "regulate" her jealousy accordingly. Oh and check the weather maybe when you're there so she can pray for rain ???

It’s controlling behaviour. It may be a way to control her own anxiety in some way but you are not obliged to go along with it.

Jealousy, control, another thing for her to criticise. Does she want constant updates while you're there, interrupting your nice relaxing holiday with her negative presence?

Your family are right. She doesn’t like you very much, certainly doesn’t have your best interests at heart. You have bigger things to think about now and don’t need random toxicity in your life.

She’s a bitch, not a friend. Just block her.

Congratulation on all your happy news OP!

I have a friend like yours, or had I should say as I've taken a massive step back. She's jealous, and she's horrible. She doesn't like you and you would be better off without her.

she has to know the exact date and place of hotels we stay at or it triggers her OCD apparently.
You know this isn't true and it's crazy behaviour, right? Don't even reply next time she demands it.

What makes her a good friend? She sounds very negative and unsupportive.

That man has been stringing her along for 10 years. If she wants 3 kids she needs to hurry up.

It isn’t funny actually

It speaks volumes about your benchmark for relationships and your self esteem that you are asking about this and have sucked it up for 7 years

She’s massively jealous of you - it’s really straightforward.

You have everything she wants and have obtained it without hard work and ultimatums.

Personally I’d tell her that while her jealousy will ruin her own life you aren’t letting her unpleasant behaviour affect yours anymore and cut her loose.

You met him 7 years ago

OP, come on now. You’re about to become a parent. You need to woman up a bit

Forget her, for a moment. Do you enjoy her company, does she make life better for you- more fun, more exciting, more loved and appreciated. Do you generally feel good when you are together and afterwards?

If generally yes, she enhances your life, and this is a one off, then you could give her a bit of space until she’s got a grip of her disregulation about you moving on before her.
If not, why on earth would you keep her in your life? You get to choose friends. Don’t stick by someone who is mean and critical because you’ve known them a long time.

She sounds really competitive and pretty jealous right now. Anything positive that happens to you then she seems to want to bring some negativity to it and make you feel bad.

This isn’t a great friendship, just because you’ve known each other for a long while doesn’t mean you beed to remain friends. I would just cut contact with her, focus on your family and nicer friends. Don’t bother getting in touch with her and if she contacts you then I would either ignore or really limit what you tell her, just keep to the basics and keep conversation short.

It depends whether you really want to continue with the friendship or not. She sounds pretty toxic to me so I would probably do what your DH and sisters suggest and end the friendship, but this is a decision that only you can make.

You might prefer to tell her how much she has hurt you recently, particularly about the timing of your pregnancy and see what her reaction is. I would say that she is driven by jealousy and sour grapes so probably won't take this well. If that's the case, I would end the friendship.

She’s very jealous of you and is deliberately trying to rain on your parade. That’s just nasty, especially given she knows you’ve had issues getting pregnant and your life can’t and shouldn’t be put on hold for someone else’s wedding. And I agree with pp that her jealousy and nasty digs will get worse as you pregnancy progresses. Is there enough good in this friendship to outweigh the bad?

She is not your friend. Anyone who is that jealous and competitive does not have your best interests at heart.
It’s sad that she’s not where she wants to be in life but that should be an entirely seperate situation. If she isn’t happy for you after what you’ve been through and is more interested in stirring up drama by pushing you to tell the bride, that tells you everything you need to know.
Your DH and sister sound wonderful, you are lucky to have them. Drop the so-called “friend” though.