Sorry in advance if this is confusing, I'm not sure if I'm overthinking...but I would really appreciate others perspective on this..
I'm in a blended family - DS1 with my ex and DS2 with current partner. This year it's my ex's turn to be with DS1 this Christmas. We've been invited to go on a family holiday during the Christmas period but it means leaving DS1 at home - the holiday is at my parents family home in a beautiful hot climate - DS1 usually joins us on these family holidays there but this Christmas he is with his dad and we would also have to leave before term finishes which means he would have to go to breakfast clubs and aftershool clubs (which he hates) and he would know that his mum, step dad, brother, and grandparents have all gone on this family holiday without him.
I feel like he would feel really sad and excluded but my partner thinks he won't care ...but he's a sensitive child and recently didn't have a great parents evening review - they said he'd been having low mood at school and playing on his own in the playground and also recently had a panic attack.
I just don't feel comfortable leaving him behind but then feel guilty as my partner wants to go and sais it's also not fair on DS1 to miss out on this holiday away ..
I'd be really grateful to hear your thoughts...
Thankyou in advance 🙏