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Crohn’s urgent need using the cubicle with baby changing

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KittyCoo · 26/10/2025 16:30

I’ve just come back from the hospital to visit my nan who’s had surgery. Unfortunately I have Crohn’s and got caught short. I had to dash and the nearest ladies happened to have the baby change cubicle inside (the cubicle nearest the door) Then some lady came in to change her baby (not a problem) and I overheard her having a go at me for using it as she wanted to change her baby in that cubicle and I think at the time the other two cubicles without facilities were available so I could see her frustration. . What’s got to me was she had her husband with her and there were facilities in the men’s too so he could’ve helped out!!!!!! I’m not saying her need was more important than mine but it’s just people are quick to judge. AIBU, should I have waited another millisecond to the next cubicle but there becomes a point where it would be been too late!!

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KittyCoo · 26/10/2025 16:53

I think it was targeted at me because there was a cafe near the toilets and only me, my male cousin, the lady, her husband and toddler were in the vicinity at the time!!

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TheatricalLife · 26/10/2025 16:53

Honestly, don't even think about it. I'd rather someone have a go at me than shit myself. You'll never see the person again, so shrug it off and know you were in the right.
I had a few snarky comments about autistic DS using the disabled facilities when he was younger. One lady berated me and DS had a massive meltdown and I've never seen anyone back track and disappear so fast. It's none of anyone elses business.

SleepingStandingUp · 26/10/2025 16:51

You use whichever loo you need, it has a toilet in it so it's to be used as a toilet. Swanning in without urgent need, clocking the approaching Mom with a baby in arms and deliberately using that loo with a smug bang of the door would make you a dick, but that isn't what happened.

Also I think you're being over sensitive. "ugh no baby change" isn't having a go at you. It's a statement of fact. Unless she added something else, you really need to take it less to heart.

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KittyCoo · 26/10/2025 16:47

And the baby in question was over a year as walking so she could’ve changed her child standing up in the cubicle

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ELO10538 · 26/10/2025 16:45

Crohns trumps everything else in such circumstances. YANBU the mother of the baby is.

(Fellow sufferer here.)

Ablondiebutagoody · 26/10/2025 16:43

You were fine to do what you did, except you should have told her to piss off. Fucking busy body.

Floweryfrock23 · 26/10/2025 16:41

Chuck it in the fuck it bucket OP.

Dont give it another thought.

Hope your nan is doing good.

Hoodlumboodlum · 26/10/2025 16:39

Adult about to shit their pants trumps baby needing a nappy change having to wait 2 more minutes. You did nothing wrong.

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KittyCoo · 26/10/2025 16:36

No because I was mid going to the toilet at the time!! I just heard her say urghh no baby change and I overheard a man’s voice outside hence my point about the husband or male relative!!

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StrawberrySquash · 26/10/2025 16:32

Did you talk to her and explain why you needed that specific cubical? Or would she not have known that you did?