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Concerned about child's father parenting

109 replies

fooddiee · 26/10/2025 11:41

So when my child's father has DC he will give DC unsuitable drinks from bottles which are full of sugar and sweeteners.
I'm talking about Innocent Smoothies, milkshakes etc.

Food wise he will give DC crisps and other rubbish.

I provide DC with healthy and nutritious meals which he loves.
DC eats a minimum of 5 fruit/veg a day and I follow the basic guidelines for his meals.

I am concerned that the junk he eats/ drinks with his father will start to affect what he eats and drinks when he is with me.

My ex can't cook as it's a "woman's job and women should cook for him".

I have told him that unless he can stop this and learn how to cook DC will not be having over nights with him and I will happily tell the court the reasons why.

AIBU to feel this way or am I being too strict?

OP posts:
TheBlueHotel · 26/10/2025 11:55

You can't stop overnight contact because you don't like what he's feeding them.

autienotnaughty · 26/10/2025 11:55

I had similar with exdh, I ignored it and made a point to be extra healthy on my days. I had a few issues in teens but now as adults both dd are pretty healthy. But no there’s nothing you can do I wouldn’t give him the satisfaction of letting him know you are bothered.

thisishowloween · 26/10/2025 11:54

You can't just block contact like that. The courts will rightly give you a telling off.

jbm16 · 26/10/2025 11:54

Sorry, it's not ideal but not much you can do about it. Just to to keep doing the same when DC is with you.

Swiftie1878 · 26/10/2025 11:52

Your house, your rules.
His house, his rules.

You need to breathe and let your child breathe too.

Myfridgeiscool · 26/10/2025 11:52

Court won’t support you on this one.
Don't engage with your ex on this one, you’ll just wind yourself up and he’ll enjoy every second of it.
Feed your DC decent food at your house.

Hellvellyn · 26/10/2025 11:50

Of course you can’t block contact like that

BeenChangedForGood · 26/10/2025 11:48

@Bigtreeesss is right, a court won’t be interested and it definitely sounds like it’s an attempt to wind you up.

What age is DC? And how often is DC with the father?

Bigtreeesss · 26/10/2025 11:44

You can only control what they eat when they’re with you

the court won’t be interested, sounds like your ex knows it annoys you and likely plays on that to wind you up so disengage