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This is a scam isn’t it?

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Namechabgeforthissss · 26/10/2025 09:11

I’m pretty sure it is but I’m actually quite surprised by the tone of the messages now. I moved into a lovely neighbourhood and one of the neighbours same age kids as mine, same profession as mine too so we had a lot in common. I thought she was a lovely person with a lovely family so I wanted to get to know her more.

It started off with just a simple text asking if I wanted to make extra money on the side which I said I don’t have time right now as I’m still settling into new home and new job. Few weeks later another one and to be polite I asked details and she said I just need to give her £800 to become her partner on the business and then sign up at least 4 more people and I can earn £1200 a month! I told her again really politely I don’t have time do I won’t sign up. She’s messaged me again a few more times including this morning at 6am! Saying she really wants me to have this opportunity as it won’t come again. I obviously know it’s a scam but it’s put me off getting to know her better. Our kids are in same school so I wanted the kids to get friendly but I’m feeling like completely blanking her now. It’s such a pity as I think it would have been nice for the kids. Am I right to avoid her?

husband said it’s a pyramid scheme. I obviously will not be giving her any money on any grounds or signing up to some weird partnership

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Freebus · 27/10/2025 10:49

Steeleydan · 26/10/2025 14:38

Omg Amway, the thing that makes me laugh over the years all the houses I've ever visited or been in ,have you ever once seen an amway product? ..no!!
When I was a teenager, someone in our village tried to get my parents to sign up to amway, it was all secretive, they couldn't disclose over the phone ,had to come to our house...my mum soon gave her short shrift!!

Yep it was Amway that I was referring to upthread. I'd forgotten the name of it.
Agree it was all very weird and cult like the way it was presented.

Arregaithel · 26/10/2025 21:34

@RampantIvy

Earn extra income as a UW Partner
Become a UW Partner and start earning by sharing our services with others. Earn up to £300 for each person who switches to UW.

Will depend on the tactics of @Namechabgeforthissss's "friend" if they are prepared to pressurise her so the "friend" can earn their £300

edited to clarify

YouOKHun · 26/10/2025 20:24

This article is a few years old but still relevant. In fact for anyone wanting information on MLM the articles on the website linked are very useful. Someone upthread mentioned Which? Magazine endorsement of UW based on Which’s consumer survey results. Whenever the consumers are also the sellers the chances of getting falsely positive results is very high. Which? Magazine has acknowledged this problem. The real feedback for UW is pretty awful as you’d expect when the way UW is sold is rife with Miss-selling and misleading tactics are encouraged. https://www.talentedladiesclub.com/articles/is-which-wrong-to-recommend-mlm-utility-warehouse-is-it-really-a-good-energy-provider/

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Find out whether consumer champion Which? is wrong to recommend MLM Utility Warehouse, and whether the company is a good energy provider.

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Hoppinggreen · 26/10/2025 16:28

Steeleydan · 26/10/2025 14:38

Omg Amway, the thing that makes me laugh over the years all the houses I've ever visited or been in ,have you ever once seen an amway product? ..no!!
When I was a teenager, someone in our village tried to get my parents to sign up to amway, it was all secretive, they couldn't disclose over the phone ,had to come to our house...my mum soon gave her short shrift!!

I worked for a Business in the 90's that was not far from an RAF Base and a few wives worked with me. Amway went through the Base like Wildfire and caused all sorts of issues

Neverflyingagain · 26/10/2025 16:05

aLFIESMA · 26/10/2025 11:46

Is there not an episode of This Country where Kerry Mucklow becomes a Juice boss lady Grin

Not sure about that but there's an episode of Schitts creek where Moira sets up an AlleVous makeup one and it turns out the entire town already signed up and sold to one another...

TwinklyStork · 26/10/2025 15:50

Namechabgeforthissss · 26/10/2025 09:19

Thank you for the name, What does that mean pls?

Do you not know how to use Google?

strawgoh · 26/10/2025 15:48

NotForTheMoneyandNotForTheApplause · 26/10/2025 11:44

All the MLMs I've come across absolutely do have a product but that's not what you make the money from

Which ones don't have any product or service at all?

Amway products I understand are actually pretty good, or at least they used to be

The ones which don't have a physical product are the pyramid schemes, which have been illegal for some years now, and the ones offering a so-called service - usually ones which you have to pay for a training programme. The training programme basically teaches you how marvellous it all is, and how to sell the training programme to your 'downline' and when they pay for it, you earn commission. Then your downline does the training and sells the same thing to the next lot of suckers, ad infinitum.

Fayaway · 26/10/2025 14:55

BerryTwister · 26/10/2025 10:25

I briefly went out with a man who did the Amway pyramid scheme, many years ago. He didn’t try to recruit me for some reason, but he told me the “tricks of the trade” he had for recruiting people, and it was so devious.

He had a proper job as a sales rep for hospital equipment, so he’d regularly go to hospital canteens for food. He was very attractive and personable, and he’d chat to the staff at the till, saying things like “busy day isn’t it. You lot work so hard here don’t you, I bet you wish there was an easier way to make money. If I hear of anything I’ll let you know”. Then he’d go back a few times and gradually reel them in.

He also tracked down old school friends and acquaintances and called them, claiming he was working in their area, and wanting to meet to catch up, then he’d try and recruit them.

He showed me some of the sales material he had. Audio recordings telling him he was amazing and special and deserved good things. He was encouraged to visualise the things he wanted and display photos of his aims. He had a photo of a fancy golf club that he wanted to join in his car, to motivate him.

It was a bizarre cult even back then, pre internet. It’s scary to think of the power pyramid schemes have now.

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I’ve just remembered, a couple of years ago, a woman started chatting to me in the department store I was working in. It was that sort of atmosphere - not fast-moving, more personal. She started telling me how she had been very successful in life, seemed to think I was “too good for this” and why didn’t I want better for my children? 🙄 I was trying to be polite and diplomatic but she pushed and pushed for my phone number. I ended up accepting her business card (not giving my number out) and told the floor manager she was using the good nature of staff to tout for business.

Steeleydan · 26/10/2025 14:38

BerryTwister · 26/10/2025 10:25

I briefly went out with a man who did the Amway pyramid scheme, many years ago. He didn’t try to recruit me for some reason, but he told me the “tricks of the trade” he had for recruiting people, and it was so devious.

He had a proper job as a sales rep for hospital equipment, so he’d regularly go to hospital canteens for food. He was very attractive and personable, and he’d chat to the staff at the till, saying things like “busy day isn’t it. You lot work so hard here don’t you, I bet you wish there was an easier way to make money. If I hear of anything I’ll let you know”. Then he’d go back a few times and gradually reel them in.

He also tracked down old school friends and acquaintances and called them, claiming he was working in their area, and wanting to meet to catch up, then he’d try and recruit them.

He showed me some of the sales material he had. Audio recordings telling him he was amazing and special and deserved good things. He was encouraged to visualise the things he wanted and display photos of his aims. He had a photo of a fancy golf club that he wanted to join in his car, to motivate him.

It was a bizarre cult even back then, pre internet. It’s scary to think of the power pyramid schemes have now.

Edited

Omg Amway, the thing that makes me laugh over the years all the houses I've ever visited or been in ,have you ever once seen an amway product? ..no!!
When I was a teenager, someone in our village tried to get my parents to sign up to amway, it was all secretive, they couldn't disclose over the phone ,had to come to our house...my mum soon gave her short shrift!!

SingingOcean · 26/10/2025 14:28

Well, "This is a scam isn’t it?" and "Am I right to avoid her?" sounds like you weren't actually clear.

Coffeetime25 · 26/10/2025 13:03

screams scam if you give her money more fool you don't come back crying the victim lol

CoffeeCantata · 26/10/2025 13:03

OP run ,run run!

If you go along with this you’ll be doing exactly what she’s doing to other people. And you’ll have sleepless nights stressing about how you can recruit your 4 victims. The only way she can recoup her money is to pressurise others which is why she’s being so brazen.

This is a problem you don’t need.

Namechabgeforthissss · 26/10/2025 13:02

Zov · 26/10/2025 12:27

Yes @Namechabgeforthissss it's a scam, all of these kinds of things are. MLM, and pyramid schemes and the like. It's despicable for her to have targetted you as a newbie on the block - and well done for resisting.

I have had several women in my village wanting me to get on board with their 'bodyshop on line' business, or something similar. I have said 'definitely not,' and they haven't carried on... Maybe I gave a resting bitch face vibe!

What people don't tell you is that in most cases, you will pay say, £750 for goods that can sell for £2000 (with the mark-up on each item.) You get half the £1250 profit, and they get half. (So £625 each.) No matter how much you sell (or don't sell) you will still have to give them their £625.

So the onus is on YOU to make sure you sell sell sell, as you have to give them their £625 cut! Even if you don't sell most of the product(s.) and make just £200 (for example) then you will still have to give them £625. So you will have to fork out an extra £425 to make sure they get their £625 from you. And you will make nothing.

They will still want their cut even if you sell nothing! So you will be out of pocket for the £750 you forked out, and an additional £625 for their 'cut.' So £1375 gone, and you're stuck with a bunch of stuff you can't sell!

AVOID like the plague. These vile schemes always target women, and usually younger women who are mums, as they are seen to be more vulnerable than middle aged and older women - most who would flat out refuse. I'm not saying all younger mums are soft and gullible, and older women are not, but they do typically find that young mums who are perhaps not so well off financially are more likely to fall for this type of scam. And it is a scam. Very few people make money from it, and many people lose out.

Don't get involved. Don't be that annoying person trying to con people into joining in. You will very likely all lose money, and you will lose friends. I can't believe these dreadful schemes/scams are still going! I guess there are always some people gullible enough for them to continue!

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That sounds awful, I didn’t realise they still want a cut if you sell nothing, so vile

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Laura95167 · 26/10/2025 13:02

Its like the cup of tea anology. She offered you said no, that should be the end of it... anyone who doesnt accept no the first time needs distance.

Defo a pyramid scheme

Namechabgeforthissss · 26/10/2025 13:01

SingingOcean · 26/10/2025 11:35

I agree, and then OP gets snippy at posters answering her question about whether this is a scam or not.

ONE poster who got stuck on word “pretty” and yes this does enrage me as English
not my first language so people often “correct” me. Of course I know it’s a scam! I just wanted to talk about it as apart from DH who isn’t very responsive I don’t have anyone to discuss this with. You must understand some people need to talk about things they experiencing it’s not that uncommon,

thank you all for giving me your advice, of course I knew it was a scam but know I feel confident enough to ignore her and I do feel angry she’s targeting people. I’m sorry to hear your stories.

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Zov · 26/10/2025 12:27

Yes @Namechabgeforthissss it's a scam, all of these kinds of things are. MLM, and pyramid schemes and the like. It's despicable for her to have targetted you as a newbie on the block - and well done for resisting.

I have had several women in my village wanting me to get on board with their 'bodyshop on line' business, or something similar. I have said 'definitely not,' and they haven't carried on... Maybe I gave a resting bitch face vibe!

What people don't tell you is that in most cases, you will pay say, £750 for goods that can sell for £2000 (with the mark-up on each item.) You get half the £1250 profit, and they get half. (So £625 each.) No matter how much you sell (or don't sell) you will still have to give them their £625.

So the onus is on YOU to make sure you sell sell sell, as you have to give them their £625 cut! Even if you don't sell most of the product(s.) and make just £200 (for example) then you will still have to give them £625. So you will have to fork out an extra £425 to make sure they get their £625 from you. And you will make nothing.

They will still want their cut even if you sell nothing! So you will be out of pocket for the £750 you forked out, and an additional £625 for their 'cut.' So £1375 gone, and you're stuck with a bunch of stuff you can't sell!

AVOID like the plague. These vile schemes always target women, and usually younger women who are mums, as they are seen to be more vulnerable than middle aged and older women - most who would flat out refuse. I'm not saying all younger mums are soft and gullible, and older women are not, but they do typically find that young mums who are perhaps not so well off financially are more likely to fall for this type of scam. And it is a scam. Very few people make money from it, and many people lose out.

Don't get involved. Don't be that annoying person trying to con people into joining in. You will very likely all lose money, and you will lose friends. I can't believe these dreadful schemes/scams are still going! I guess there are always some people gullible enough for them to continue!

aLFIESMA · 26/10/2025 11:46

Is there not an episode of This Country where Kerry Mucklow becomes a Juice boss lady Grin

NotForTheMoneyandNotForTheApplause · 26/10/2025 11:44

strawgoh · 26/10/2025 10:58

With these things there is no actual product or service. The only 'product' is what they are selling you - the opportunity to join in and find out what this lucrative way of making money is. All you have to do is sell the same opportunity to the next people in line...

Exh and I were once targeted by some friends who had fallen for the Amway thing decades ago. Must have been the early 80's. We saw through the whole thing and these 'friends' never spoke to us again. No loss really.

If I stumbled on a genuine way of making easy money the last thing I'd do is tell other people about it. I'd simply rake in all the lovely lolly for myself. Why would I want to reduce my customer base and decrease my own income by telling other people about it and setting them up as my own competitors?

All the MLMs I've come across absolutely do have a product but that's not what you make the money from

Which ones don't have any product or service at all?

Amway products I understand are actually pretty good, or at least they used to be

LadyMary50 · 26/10/2025 11:39

The latest scam on my local FB seems to be about running your own travel agency from home.Lots of pictures of exciting free holidays you can earn.Im by no means simple minded but even i cant work out how it works apart from the usual recruiting..

RampantIvy · 26/10/2025 11:36

I would also say. "No thank you I'm not interested and please don't ask again because the answer will always be no."

KLMUK · 26/10/2025 11:36

Bear in mind that pyramid schemes are illegal in the UK and any association is dangerous. For this reason put yourself first - tell her that you are not investing as it is illegal. People like this usually need firm words to get the message. If she keeps pestering you then inform the police. Pyramid schemes have caused so many financial disasters and suicides, this is just not worth spending any time worrying.

Sorry if I come across as abrupt but I do worry how many people can be taken in by these types of schemes.

Sandtheedges · 26/10/2025 11:35

ChocolateBoxCottage · 26/10/2025 09:19

If you need to convince 4 people to sign over £800 your going to become very unpopular

Indeed. Like the ‘friend’, she’s probably desperately trying to do it and losing friends in the process. If she doesn’t do it, she’ll lose her money which she probably can’t afford. It’s all quite sad

SingingOcean · 26/10/2025 11:35

TheHillIsMine · 26/10/2025 11:14

You're asking if is scam. You're asking if you should ignore her.

You clearly do need it pointing out to you.

I agree, and then OP gets snippy at posters answering her question about whether this is a scam or not.

Viviennemary · 26/10/2025 11:35

Its a scam. Say you dont want to be involved.

TheGander · 26/10/2025 11:30

It doesn’t sound like a bona fide company to me, more like pyramid scheme. My husband was approached by someone in the same band as him who also started up with” I have a great opportunity I’d like to share with you”. Took him about an hour and a half to extract himself from her clutches. Pushy and deaf to polite demurral is the norm with the recruiters.