To stop buying for godson?

She’s cheeky for saying that . You tried to organise to see her twice but she declined and never made any effort herself to go see you . You are the GP and it’s not just on you to always make the effort . Surely she would want to initiate a relationship with you and her child if she held you in such high esteem as to be godparent. You would think she would encourage the relationship . I don’t see any point in an obligation on your part to just be a person that comes and drops off of a present. Is that all she wants you for ?? No way .

OP do you have children, and do they buy for your children?

I’d probably reply they he’s only waiting because his mum cancelled plans to meet up.

But long term I’d wonder about the direction of the friendship.

There's not much OP can do for the godson if the friendship with the mum is over. Realistically, the relationship with the godchild is also over.

I think her comment is really rude actually. It’s all about the gift and not the relationship she has with you or her son. I would actually just cut my losses and move on from the friendship

I would reply with laughing emoji “I’m still waiting for you to travel the 10 minutes to collect it or actually meet me for the lunch I arranged”.

And no, you're not arguing with anyone, not taking anything out on anyone or conflating any issues.

She's just using you, and that's that. So don't let her and move on.

The mother of my God child had a family member who was unhappy they werent asked to be GM, very big deal in their culture, seems almost prestigious. So she made a big drama and My GCs mum started acting weird (family pressure apparently) but I kept on being there for my GC, presents yes but also collecting from school to spend time with my DCs to build a bond. And now a few years later we are super close, if you want a positive relationship with your GS then separate it from your friendship needs, and spend time with him. Its worked really well and I am happy I put GC first.
Go with how you feel, presents aside what do you want to be to him as he grows up?

I think you're taking an argument with the parent out on a child.

You signed up to be godparent, I think sending a token gift at Christmas and birthday is the done thing.

It's not the child's fault you don't see them, they are not in control.

She’s a cheeky entitled cow!

Block and ignore

This in spades.

She is being so cheeky. I don’t think you are mixing up two issues. If she is just using you, as it seems, to provide presents, but not friendship then op will never have the opportunity to build a relationship with her godchild.

I would reply with this too. Leave the present where it is. I wouldn’t buy any further gifts. I would have an honest chat when you finally see her again. Assuming you do. Maybe she has problems she hasn’t been able to share so far, but if not I wouldn’t want to continue with this arrangement.

This.

If you’re willing to post a gift to a child in Spain who you don’t see often, you should also be willing to post (or drop off) a gift to a child near home who you don’t see often.
You’re mixing up issues here - you are annoyed/frustrated about your friendship (with the mother) not being how you want it to be, and you’re taking that out on someone else (the child).

Decide how you want this to play out. Do you want to maintain the friendship, even if the friend regularly cancels? Are you getting anything from the friendship? Just because you’ve known each other a long time doesn’t mean you have to maintain the friendship if it’s become one-sided.
Also decide what being a godparent means to you, it’s different for everyone. If the friendship with the mother drifts, is it still important to you to maintain a connection with the child? This might mean dropping off gifts when you don’t see each other, in the hope that when he is older he will want to build on the relationship with you. Or it might mean you end gifts and all effort completely and free yourself of the obligation.

"DGS’s mother has commented ‘lovely! [DGS] still waiting for his gift from Auntie X’."

That's positively an invitation to respond 'Well I’ve tried to arrange lunch or dinner with you a couple of times but you cancelled both times'.

I would.

Move on from them. I have seen people do this before, rope people into being Godparents to get gifts for their kids and make sure they have a free babysitter and etc.

You're not obliged to see them or give them gifts when they have no part in your life other than them expecting material things from you.

Ignore the comment and move on from them

I mean this kindly, but why are you still friends with his mum (other than the fact you’ve had a long friendship)?

It honestly seems like she doesn’t bring much to the friendship other than expectation of you giving her DS presents.

Perhaps you could drop this present around for her DS? And then from now on, rather than initiating contact, only contact her when she contacts you?