takethesebrokenwingsandlearntofly ·
25/10/2025 23:04
Am I being unreasonable to be upset? DS 3yo has recently been very fussy. I have an older 7yo DS who has ASD, ADHD and PDA and we have had a terrible year with him out of school for 12 months. I've been fire fighting on every front and I'm so worried I've let my youngest down.
DS has always gone to a child minder but very recently started at a new nursery.
Nursery have said they don't think DS lunches are healthy and I feel so guilty. He is really fussy, has been for 6 months or so. I'm doing my best but he refuses so much food so I've settled on giving him what he will eat.
I usually pack the following:
Half a can of spaghetti hoops (he eats them at room temp)
White roll filled with cream cheese or hummus.
Small yoghurt
Sliced cucumber and or halved grapes
One banana
Is that so bad?
Sometimes I mix it up with an organix bar as he likes these.
For dinner he will only eat toast or a small pizza or cheese pasta. I always give him peas / sweetcorn / cucumber or broccoli with dinner he usually eats some veg but rarely eats it all. He will outright refuse any meal other than these.
I always give him fruit after dinner - orange / mango / watermelon / strawberries - sometimes he eats it sometimes not.
He will eat yoghurts - hundreds if I let him.
He has never eaten meat except the occasional chicken nugget.
Ive tried every variation of eggs and he won't eat them.
Sometimes he will have wheatabix for breakfast or a croissant or dry cereal. He will eat toast with just butter.
He also still has a bottle at bedtime and in the morning, which I know needs to stop but I'm worried he will get even less if I stop it.
Older DS has many issues but generally has always been a good eater and had a variety of foods, often eats what I eat and always has plenty of fruits and veg.
I feel judged and like a massive failure after comments from nursery.