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To want a South American husband

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Lostthebubblewand · 25/10/2025 21:10

Bored of dating. Just thinking how great it would be to ship in or import some sort of instant husband like via Amazon. Obviously they would have to consent too lol. No terrible unrealistic expectations nor would they need to be anything other than reliable, friendly and a bit of a laugh.
I wouldn’t even care if he had affairs.
Who would you marry if you had the choice? I’m going through a bit of a reggaeton phase hence the fetishisation of Latino men, I know it’s appalling. But I also think they would make good husbands. Plus be good looking.

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Dweetfidilove · 30/10/2025 23:38

Swiftasthewind · 26/10/2025 19:02

I always wanted to have children with a man of African or Asian heritage, on a fundamental level I think I would feel guilty having a child with another British man and bringing another privileged white child into this world. I’m probably past the age of being able to have children now, but it is pleasing to see that younger generations of women are considering spreading their wings and getting seriously committed to men (and other women!) from outside the community.

It won’t be in my lifetime sadly, but I look forward to a world without prejudice and characteristics to separate us from another. We are all one big human race! ✊

🤔👀🙊🤦🏾‍♀️

TempestTost · 30/10/2025 23:05

Swiftasthewind · 30/10/2025 17:13

That’s fine, I don’t think she had any intention of settling down with any of them at that time.

As for ‘fetishisation’, how does that account for for what people like to see in a prospective partner? I happen to really be attracted to men of certain ethnicity, and I also like tall men does that mean I have a height fetish too?

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If you talk about shagging people only because they are tall, yeah, that probably counts.

I used to know a woman with tiny feet. She often was asked out on dates and realised part way through the man she was with say her mainly as a set of tiny feet. She hated it.

Most people find being sexualised over because of their ethnicity really creepy. Women and men both.

Swiftasthewind · 30/10/2025 17:13

TempestTost · 30/10/2025 17:00

Ethiopians are often quite conservative. No doubt they were very friendly to he but I doubt they'd have taken her home to their mother which would be a lot more indicative of what they really thought of her.

But fetishising people on the basis of race is gross whatever you call it.

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That’s fine, I don’t think she had any intention of settling down with any of them at that time.

As for ‘fetishisation’, how does that account for for what people like to see in a prospective partner? I happen to really be attracted to men of certain ethnicity, and I also like tall men does that mean I have a height fetish too?

TempestTost · 30/10/2025 17:00

Swiftasthewind · 30/10/2025 15:01

It’s weird how you use the term ‘sex tourism’ to make it look just as bad as when the men do it but it’s really not like that at all. My ex’s sister spent some time in Ethiopia working education programs with villages on how to consume safe water and she would have flings with men all the time. It was 100% consensual, she loved it and they loved it too. Best of all, they treated her like she was a film star, which is more than she got from the men back home. It made her feel so good and she got a lot of confidence in herself from it. It’s just not the same.

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Ethiopians are often quite conservative. No doubt they were very friendly to he but I doubt they'd have taken her home to their mother which would be a lot more indicative of what they really thought of her.

But fetishising people on the basis of race is gross whatever you call it.

Swiftasthewind · 30/10/2025 15:01

KimberleyClark · 30/10/2025 14:51

Why is sex tourism gross when men do it, but fine when women do it?

It’s weird how you use the term ‘sex tourism’ to make it look just as bad as when the men do it but it’s really not like that at all. My ex’s sister spent some time in Ethiopia working education programs with villages on how to consume safe water and she would have flings with men all the time. It was 100% consensual, she loved it and they loved it too. Best of all, they treated her like she was a film star, which is more than she got from the men back home. It made her feel so good and she got a lot of confidence in herself from it. It’s just not the same.

KimberleyClark · 30/10/2025 14:51

Why is sex tourism gross when men do it, but fine when women do it?

N00dleStrudel · 30/10/2025 14:30

Katflapkit · 25/10/2025 22:55

I think how great it would be to have a standard poodle. We can all dream.

I too have poodle-related fantasies (am aware that sounds SO wrong out of context...!) but having a dog would be completely unrealistic for me. Possibly related to my beloved late Granny always having poodles. Mind you they were vicious little buggers - one of them bit the end of my uncle's nose off and he had to have surgery.

ReignOfError · 30/10/2025 14:06

FirstdatesFred · 26/10/2025 08:59

Sometimes I think an American would be good, a left wing outward looking one obviously. They just seem pretty good at talking about their feelings!

I have one of those. He’s also amazing at DIY, can - and does - cook, and is mostly domesticated, although not great at cleaning bathrooms.

I’m open to offers involving cake, wine and books.

Abhannmor · 30/10/2025 14:01

JHound · 27/10/2025 00:31

Because the men aren’t doing it out of desire for the women. It’s survival sex work and it’s disturbing to see people championing that. Those men would not go near the sex tourist women if they were wealthy.

It absolutely is the exact same thing as the men who go to places like Thailand looking for women to exploit.

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I read a long piece Julie Bindel did on "Romance holidays" a few years ago. A lot of the women used the ' men love sex , they'd be doing this anyway ' line as justification. So why aren't they back home having sex with teenage boys , she wondered. It's all a bit sad and grubby.

But....it's not what the OP is on about I think.

Swiftasthewind · 30/10/2025 13:24

Teizzz · 28/10/2025 18:29

Oh shut up. There's always one.

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Oh god, you should see how many people have taken quotes on this thread out of context and used them to go after me on other threads! Some people really do struggle with the concept of sexual preferences and a woman who steps outside the boundaries of what’s considered ‘acceptable’ by prudish types. 😊

Teizzz · 28/10/2025 18:29

Cinnamon77 · 26/10/2025 15:09

Fetishising men based on their ethnicity is extremely racist. Everyone seems to think that because the conclusion to their posts is pro the non-white race then it's fine.

Posts like 'I just want to book a flight to somewhere like Nigeria to hook up with as many black men as possible in two weeks. I'd be too ashamed to tell anyone when I got back though' are racist and if anyone doesn't realise that then they are probably racist as well

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Oh shut up. There's always one.

Gwenhwyfar · 28/10/2025 16:38

JHound · 27/10/2025 00:31

Because the men aren’t doing it out of desire for the women. It’s survival sex work and it’s disturbing to see people championing that. Those men would not go near the sex tourist women if they were wealthy.

It absolutely is the exact same thing as the men who go to places like Thailand looking for women to exploit.

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Of course, they are gigolos, a type of prostitute. They're doing it for the money.

Gwenhwyfar · 28/10/2025 16:38

"would feel guilty having a child with another British man and bringing another privileged white child into this world"

OMG

Gwenhwyfar · 28/10/2025 16:35

StrongLikeMamma · 27/10/2025 15:07

This whole thread is pretty crass! 🤣

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Yep. I saw the post about breeding 'them' without the context that it was about poodles.

Swiftasthewind · 27/10/2025 16:06

Cinnamon77 · 27/10/2025 16:01

Sounds like you're going to have a lot of fun in Africa hon!

Maybe bring one back for the rest of us lol

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Ha I wish! Put it this way, there are many reasons I am an advocate for open borders, but let’s just say, one of them is a little more selfish than the rest 😉

No more stuffy old white men for all of us! 🤗

Cinnamon77 · 27/10/2025 16:01

Swiftasthewind · 27/10/2025 15:26

Does anybody have any advice on the best African country for casual no strings attached sex? I’m blonde 5ft 3, late forties and just up for some casual fun with exotic lovelies without worrying about anything else. Life is too short and I just want to have some great experiences before I reach my fifties.

Sounds like you're going to have a lot of fun in Africa hon!

Maybe bring one back for the rest of us lol

Westfacing · 27/10/2025 15:55

singswithitsfingers · 27/10/2025 15:05

Would recommend a South London one. Mine is of extremely mixed heritage though.

Yes, I'd go with South London v. South America!

Arraminta · 27/10/2025 15:35

Cinnamon77 · 26/10/2025 17:11

Hispanic is an ethnicity and saying you want to fly to a random country of black people for two weeks to have as much as shameful sex as possible is the textbook definition of racism. It's profiling men based on their race - it's not seeing them as individual people but instead a colour

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God, I bet you're fun at parties!

Anyways, I don't feel I could commit to a one off purchase even with a lifetime guarantee. But quite like the idea of maybe having a Chris Hemsworth timeshare? Ideally the first two weeks in July so I can watch him surfing and running manfully along the beach.

Swiftasthewind · 27/10/2025 15:26

Does anybody have any advice on the best African country for casual no strings attached sex? I’m blonde 5ft 3, late forties and just up for some casual fun with exotic lovelies without worrying about anything else. Life is too short and I just want to have some great experiences before I reach my fifties.

BunnyLake · 27/10/2025 15:13

StrongLikeMamma · 27/10/2025 15:07

This whole thread is pretty crass! 🤣

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Ha yes I guess. But if you don’t appreciate the beauty of a top tier Korean guy it’s your loss,😁 Even my son complains why doesn’t his skin look like a Korean’s (he hates having to shave every day).

singswithitsfingers · 27/10/2025 15:07

singswithitsfingers · 27/10/2025 15:05

Would recommend a South London one. Mine is of extremely mixed heritage though.

There's some Cuban in there, I meant to add.

StrongLikeMamma · 27/10/2025 15:07

BunnyLake · 27/10/2025 15:02

He’s a grown man. These Koreans are men. Just because they don’t fit the stereotype western idea of masculinity no need to insult them, it’s very rude and crass.

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This whole thread is pretty crass! 🤣

singswithitsfingers · 27/10/2025 15:05

Would recommend a South London one. Mine is of extremely mixed heritage though.

BunnyLake · 27/10/2025 15:02

StrongLikeMamma · 27/10/2025 14:56

He’s a boy not a man!

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He’s a grown man. These Koreans are men. Just because they don’t fit the stereotype western idea of masculinity no need to insult them, it’s very rude and crass.