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11 year old has done her own nails with UV lamp

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Ponchodreams · 25/10/2025 18:41

Im so shocked that she has done this AIBU? Surely this isn't normal for someone of this age to have access to this kit? Am I completely over-reacting? Please tell me i am as I'm very unpopular right now! This is in light of all the allergy stories I have read and damage to nails etc.

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Fayaway · 25/10/2025 19:37

FuzzyWolf · 25/10/2025 19:07

I’m surprised by the posters who think this is fine. I have daughters of a similar age and not any of their friends or even the older girls in the school visibly use gel nail varnish or wear fake eyelashes. I think they and their parents would be judged negatively for doing so.

Funnily enough I just posted on another thread (about Shein/Temu) that someone I know lets their 12yo DD take Temu eyelashes and glue into school to put on other pupils! I think this is so wrong, and potentially dangerous.

Flakey99 · 25/10/2025 19:36

Hankunamatata · 25/10/2025 19:10

A one off wont do any harm

Do you say that about taking drugs too?

A one off where the uncured product has come into contact with a child’s delicate skin can certainly cause serious harm.

Ask any consultant dermatologist.

Newsenmum · 25/10/2025 19:35

Well Ive learned something new today. I had no idea this was such a big
deal.

youalright · 25/10/2025 19:34

At 11 I was smoking and snogging boys so I'd be thrilled if the worst thing my 11 year old did when out was her nails 💅

Flakey99 · 25/10/2025 19:33

Fuck me, This is deadly serious!

I’d be reading the riot act to whichever stupid parent allowed their young child access to these products. What an absolute moron.

There’s a very good reason why salons aren’t insured to offer gel products to under 16yr olds. Any salon that offers this service to under 16’s is operating uninsured and risking your child’s future health.

Gel Nail products contain methacrylates and once you develop and allergy to them, you’re stuffed for life!

I have that particular allergy and I have to tell my dentist and any orthopaedic doctors as this product is also routinely used to repair teeth and bones and an allergy limits your treatment options.

Kids especially are more prone to getting broken bones.

Jamfirstest · 25/10/2025 19:32

@Terrytheweasel😂

HotTiredDog · 25/10/2025 19:31

waitamo · 25/10/2025 18:46

Chop her hands off. Right now.

Surely you only need to take one off? She won’t be able to do that on her own.
Alternatively, if you think friend would help in above scenario, you could just remove one finger for each offence - it would make her think carefully about doing it for a 2nd time!

FuzzyWolf · 25/10/2025 19:29

BauhausOfEliott · 25/10/2025 19:22

Worth noting that millions of people have gel nails, and have done for years, without any problems whatsoever and that gel polish is completely legal and deemed safe.

However, it’s not a good idea to let a child do their own gel nails at home; there’s a reason nail techs go through training to do it professionally. I wouldn’t want an 11-year-old playing about with that stuff and doing it wrong.

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Millions of people also do things like sunbathe or smoke for years without any problems which are also legal. Just like UVs they are not considered to be completely safe and all three can cause long term health complications.

Strawberryorangejuice · 25/10/2025 19:27

As a one off I wouldn't be worried

PinkyFlamingo · 25/10/2025 19:26

waitamo · 25/10/2025 18:46

Chop her hands off. Right now.

😂

ThatLilacTiger · 25/10/2025 19:25

I'd probably want to avoid her falling into the trap of needing infills and not being able to do without gels, but I wouldn't mind that she'd done it once. By 12 I was drinking and smoking, there's way worse she could be doing. If she wants nice nails, perhaps you can get her some wraps or nail art or something to play with.

StrongandNorthern · 25/10/2025 19:24

Let us know when her hands fall off.

BauhausOfEliott · 25/10/2025 19:22

RandomMess · 25/10/2025 18:49

@gamerchickthe nail polish that you need a UV lamp for contains chemicals that if you become allergic to them means you can’t have certain dental treatment or bone replacements.

Worth noting that millions of people have gel nails, and have done for years, without any problems whatsoever and that gel polish is completely legal and deemed safe.

However, it’s not a good idea to let a child do their own gel nails at home; there’s a reason nail techs go through training to do it professionally. I wouldn’t want an 11-year-old playing about with that stuff and doing it wrong.

Terrytheweasel · 25/10/2025 19:21

Jamfirstest · 25/10/2025 18:55

I bought my dd a uv lamp and the gel kit when she was that age. Should I resign as a parent?
shes 13 now. I also allow her to order all manner of eyelash extensions which she wears to school.

I’ll get my coat….

shit parent

amusedbush · 25/10/2025 19:19

I’m not a medical professional but from what I understand, improperly cured gel polish can increase the chance of developing an allergy to certain ingredients. As PPs have said, these allergies can have horrendous lifelong consequences.

I would be very concerned about kids (or even an unqualified adult) doing this in case it wasn’t fully cured.

Hankunamatata · 25/10/2025 19:10

A one off wont do any harm

YesIReallyDidOK · 25/10/2025 19:08

I do nails for a living, and you're not overreacting, this is a terrible idea. Home kits are bad enough safety wise, and a child's nails aren't suitable for any sort of semi permanent enhancement.

FuzzyWolf · 25/10/2025 19:07

I’m surprised by the posters who think this is fine. I have daughters of a similar age and not any of their friends or even the older girls in the school visibly use gel nail varnish or wear fake eyelashes. I think they and their parents would be judged negatively for doing so.

Namechange29383929383 · 25/10/2025 19:07

If she’s done it at a friends house then friends parent presumably sees it as a non issue. At 11 if you tell your daughter you don’t want her to do it again then she’s old enough to listen and that’s the end of it surely?

CollectingBottleTops · 25/10/2025 19:03

gamerchick · 25/10/2025 18:55

Thankyou. I'd probably be a bit wary as well. At that age they're still not cooked properly yet.

It is worrying because the gel nail varnish hardens under the uv lamp meaning to get that nail polish off you have to soak each nail in pure acetone for 10 minutes minimum. There are lots of videos on youtube about safe removal. The problem is most children just use their teeth to remove it and it damages the nail plate so badly. They also get "heat spikes" where the gel heats up unevenly and basically burns. Again, lots of videos by professional nail techs on this.

I would not allow an under 16 of mine to do this, I would let them get press on nails using stickers not nail glue or nail wraps which are better.

They don't understand the risks, the allergies, the exposure to uv to their hands repeatedly. I do my own nails but I am an adult and had them done professionally for years due to my job where my hands were a focus and it helped me stop biting them.

They can also get "greenies" where the nail lifts and water gets in between the nail plate and the gel nail on top too. It is a bacterial infection because 11 year olds cannot do nails well.

Radiat · 25/10/2025 19:01

I’d be a bit pissed off, with gel nails if they don’t cure them properly they can end up with allergies to the gel and/or contact dermatitis. I wouldn’t let my daughter loose with it on her own.

RightThenRightAgain · 25/10/2025 19:01

My dd came home with gel nails from a party at a similar age. Definitely primary school. I was pissed off.

Jamfirstest · 25/10/2025 18:57

Wait I’ve also paid for acrylic tips but school get really arsy so that just holidays now.

Jamfirstest · 25/10/2025 18:55

I bought my dd a uv lamp and the gel kit when she was that age. Should I resign as a parent?
shes 13 now. I also allow her to order all manner of eyelash extensions which she wears to school.

I’ll get my coat….

gamerchick · 25/10/2025 18:55

Thankyou. I'd probably be a bit wary as well. At that age they're still not cooked properly yet.