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To ask you to swerve Shein & Temu

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DoNoTakeNo · 25/10/2025 18:12

This Christmas?
I know it’s mainly a cost thing but if it’s achievable, can people possibly manage with less stuff?

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DrowningInSyrup · 26/10/2025 23:13

DoNoTakeNo · 26/10/2025 22:45

No the OP obviously doesn’t think that - but clearly the less that’s bought from a supplier that has less than fair / ethical / safe (etc) production & employment standards, then the better. I’ve a good enough knowledge of global supply chains to have made a living in it for 30 years so please don’t lecture me.
I’m fully aware that I can’t make much of an impact on reducing global warming by recycling domestic waste, but I still do it.
Ditto making much of an impact on toxic agribusiness run-off into rivers and lakes by growing my own veg, but I still do it.
Likewise I can’t reduce the oil that’s pumped out of the ground to make single use plastic Halloween costumes or save a modern slave if I go the farm shop for a burger - but ffs I have to at least make a bloody effort!!
Please feel free to not give a sh*te about anyone or anything else, it’s entirely up to you & your conscience.

Do something more practical than repetitive mumsnets threads then. I wouldn't be surprised if more people shopped at Temu than were planning to now, it will be on their minds and no one really enjoys patronising, sanctimonious posts.

ninjahamster · 26/10/2025 22:59

DoNoTakeNo · 26/10/2025 22:45

No the OP obviously doesn’t think that - but clearly the less that’s bought from a supplier that has less than fair / ethical / safe (etc) production & employment standards, then the better. I’ve a good enough knowledge of global supply chains to have made a living in it for 30 years so please don’t lecture me.
I’m fully aware that I can’t make much of an impact on reducing global warming by recycling domestic waste, but I still do it.
Ditto making much of an impact on toxic agribusiness run-off into rivers and lakes by growing my own veg, but I still do it.
Likewise I can’t reduce the oil that’s pumped out of the ground to make single use plastic Halloween costumes or save a modern slave if I go the farm shop for a burger - but ffs I have to at least make a bloody effort!!
Please feel free to not give a sh*te about anyone or anything else, it’s entirely up to you & your conscience.

But surely we all do what we can within our means? I also recycle. We keep heating costs to a minimum. We grow food. No money for holiday so we don’t fly (haven’t had a holiday for 8 years). One car only, small as cannot afford a bigger one. No food waste.
I needed new period pants. They were 3 pairs for £20 on m and s. 4 pairs for a fiver on Temu. Saves me so much money on sanitary towels that are plastic based.
Financially it made sense. After bills etc each month we have £60 “play money”. That has to cover clothes, health and beauty ( so no haircuts), dentist ( not got an nhs one so only go if desperate and put rest on credit card), eye tests, any household stuff needed eg a tin opener last month…
I put away £50 a month for Xmas and birthdays (4 kids, 2 stepkids - all adults - 6 step grandchildren).

DoNoTakeNo · 26/10/2025 22:45

DrowningInSyrup · 26/10/2025 19:41

Temu pays higher than nothing and I have no doubt there are worse 'job' situations in Asia. Much worse and probably many similar factory jobs, they just don't cater for western society so we have no idea. Also if thinking that mumsnet boycotting temu will have any impact is ridiculous, even if it did work another business would just pop up, then another, then another. Does the OP really think these companies are going to wave the white flag and say thank you for showing us the error of our ways! Nobody on here seems to have any real idea about how these, businesses, infrastructure and cultures really work.

No the OP obviously doesn’t think that - but clearly the less that’s bought from a supplier that has less than fair / ethical / safe (etc) production & employment standards, then the better. I’ve a good enough knowledge of global supply chains to have made a living in it for 30 years so please don’t lecture me.
I’m fully aware that I can’t make much of an impact on reducing global warming by recycling domestic waste, but I still do it.
Ditto making much of an impact on toxic agribusiness run-off into rivers and lakes by growing my own veg, but I still do it.
Likewise I can’t reduce the oil that’s pumped out of the ground to make single use plastic Halloween costumes or save a modern slave if I go the farm shop for a burger - but ffs I have to at least make a bloody effort!!
Please feel free to not give a sh*te about anyone or anything else, it’s entirely up to you & your conscience.

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Seagullstopitnow · 26/10/2025 22:35

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/use-the-developing-countries-trading-scheme-to-import-goods

Here's a lovely linky to one of the government endorsed schemes to get cheap tat in without paying duty.
UK companies are required to do due diligence on the standards in these places. The evidence? Normally send a pdf certificate with a "trust me bro" style email.

Again, you have no idea where your stuff comes from unless it's handmade.

I have a Shein cardi that has outlasted all of my M&S ones that were thrown together in Bangladesh. It was about a fiver and is much better quality than M&S.
it's not as simple as boycotting 2 sites because it makes you feel morally superior

Use the Developing Countries Trading Scheme to import goods

Get a preferential rate on goods you import to the UK from a Developing Countries Trading Scheme country.

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/use-the-developing-countries-trading-scheme-to-import-goods

DoNoTakeNo · 26/10/2025 22:32

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 26/10/2025 19:27

Scarlett O’Hara-ass comment

Totally agree, though I do rather like the concept of “saving the world one slinky at a time” 😁

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ninjahamster · 26/10/2025 22:30

FeetLikeFlippers · 26/10/2025 22:25

You don’t need to ask. I wouldn’t dream of buying cheap tat that has probably been produced in a sweatshop and then shipped half way around the world and will no doubt end up in landfill. You can get reasonably priced ethically sourced gifts from places like Oxfam, or buy vintage stuff in charity shops or car boot sales. Quality doesn’t have to be expensive unless you have no imagination.

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I am interested at how many people call it “tat”. We don’t buy regularly but use it when we need things or for stocking fillers.
But we have had tools, clothes, wellington boots, period pants, an umbrella, a torch, gardening gloves to name a few. They’ve not been “tat”.

FeetLikeFlippers · 26/10/2025 22:25

You don’t need to ask. I wouldn’t dream of buying cheap tat that has probably been produced in a sweatshop and then shipped half way around the world and will no doubt end up in landfill. You can get reasonably priced ethically sourced gifts from places like Oxfam, or buy vintage stuff in charity shops or car boot sales. Quality doesn’t have to be expensive unless you have no imagination.

Seagullstopitnow · 26/10/2025 21:51

Digdongdoo · 26/10/2025 06:33

Must be able to point to plenty of evidence then.

You have Internet and a search engine.
Knock yourself out

DrowningInSyrup · 26/10/2025 21:32

Digdongdoo · 26/10/2025 19:44

You're assuming that Temu created 100,000 extra jobs. In reality a good chunk of these jobs will just have replaced highstreet manufacturing jobs as Temu has undercut the competition and swallowed up the market. Which isn't a good thing.

It's likely that they moved from unemployment or from one shite job to another.

Bunchymcbunchface · 26/10/2025 21:24

Sorry no. I needed a new mucking out wheelbarrow , tack shop charging £90. Temu same one for £47, it arrived yesterday.
same with shavings forks, UK now only sell whole fork for £14 whereas Temu is 3 replacement heads for £11………so I’m going with Temu

Digdongdoo · 26/10/2025 20:56

SurvivalInstinctsOfABakedPotato · 26/10/2025 20:47

I was going to say but a previous poster already did...the game dice I was going to bug in amazon are £18.99. They are the exact same dice as Temu has for £8.99. Even the same stock photos.

I don't believe for a second that amazon are paying more for them from a reputable ethical maker so unless all these places are aborted I don't really see how it will help

Amazon don't pay for them at all. They are a marketplace like Temu.

SurvivalInstinctsOfABakedPotato · 26/10/2025 20:51

Oh and to add, personally I buy hand made off etsy from local makers but most won't as they're a lot more money.

SurvivalInstinctsOfABakedPotato · 26/10/2025 20:47

I was going to say but a previous poster already did...the game dice I was going to bug in amazon are £18.99. They are the exact same dice as Temu has for £8.99. Even the same stock photos.

I don't believe for a second that amazon are paying more for them from a reputable ethical maker so unless all these places are aborted I don't really see how it will help

soupyspoon · 26/10/2025 20:42

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 26/10/2025 19:52

Understood and accepted. Perfectly fine, in fact. All of what you've described is happening in China, Taiwan, Bangladesh, Pakistan, India, Indonesia etc instead. It's been outsourced. The point I was trying to make is that there must be a way that we can bring back industry with modern factories and modernised working practises. We cannot rely on cheap stuff from China forever, especially if we go to war with them at some point in the future.

The Great British Public has not supported manufacturing in this country for 30-40 years. Over that time it has voted in successive governments who did not support a manufacturing industry, preferring to move to a service industry. We have lost all this and it wont come back.

ObelixtheGaul · 26/10/2025 20:20

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 26/10/2025 19:52

Understood and accepted. Perfectly fine, in fact. All of what you've described is happening in China, Taiwan, Bangladesh, Pakistan, India, Indonesia etc instead. It's been outsourced. The point I was trying to make is that there must be a way that we can bring back industry with modern factories and modernised working practises. We cannot rely on cheap stuff from China forever, especially if we go to war with them at some point in the future.

We absolutely could bring it back with modern practices, etc, but there's no way we could do that and be as cheap as Shein and Temu and other places. They are that cheap because they don't have to adhere to modern working practices and legislation that we expect here.

And that's the problem. We can't compete unless we massively drop standards and lose working rights generations fought for. Generations who actually had to work in those conditions and still couldn't afford the stuff they were making, like those working in those factories in far flung places now.

I don't know what the answer is. I think we've gone too far down the rabbit hole of expecting to have it all for nothing.

Some of the responses on this thread think it's either Shein or a £50 organic T shirt. There's a middle ground, but I don't think anyone wants it.
Because it won't be Temu cheap.

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 26/10/2025 19:52

ObelixtheGaul · 26/10/2025 19:31

Part of the reason we don't have those things here is because we actually want to be paid a bit more than a few pence an hour and we don't want to do 14 hour days.

I mean, yeah, we could get the 70s sweat shops back, do away with minimum wage, etc, but I'll bet you any money it won't be anyone on this thread working there. It will be the immigrants everybody hates.

I worked in a factory for 10 years in the 90s, pre minimum wage and also pre some of the health and safety regs we have now. Most of our young Temu and Shein buyers today don't expect to be working eight hours a day, six days a week on the factory floor (which is what I did), let alone the sort of hours your average Chinese production worker puts in.

We wouldn't do it and we wouldn't want our kids doing it. So don't let's pretend we could just bring it all back and we'd have people willing to actually do it, unions or not.

Understood and accepted. Perfectly fine, in fact. All of what you've described is happening in China, Taiwan, Bangladesh, Pakistan, India, Indonesia etc instead. It's been outsourced. The point I was trying to make is that there must be a way that we can bring back industry with modern factories and modernised working practises. We cannot rely on cheap stuff from China forever, especially if we go to war with them at some point in the future.

ohyesido · 26/10/2025 19:52

I cannot believe anyone would buy from either

WilfredsPies · 26/10/2025 19:49

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 26/10/2025 16:45

This makes no sense when the ethical option of not buying random shite or buying second hand, swapping etc. literally costs less.

One person’s random shite is another person’s want/need. And perhaps they don’t want someone else’s used and now unwanted crap? I certainly wouldn’t buy anything second hand (not because I have some kind of moral objection to it, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it, it’s just not for me). And it’s not just clothes that are sold on the sites, is it?

And if we’re using the logic of why would you use those sites when options a, b and c are available, why would you fly abroad when we have holiday destinations in the UK? Why would you have two cars because of living rurally when you could just move to a town and use public transport? Why would you eat imported watermelons when you could eat apples? Why would you eat meat when you could be vegan? The point I’m making is not just one of economics. It’s one of outrage that some people are sat in their ivory towers looking down on Shein/Temu users when they think their own lives are beyond reproach. They don’t have any moral high ground over the people who buy from those places.

Digdongdoo · 26/10/2025 19:44

DrowningInSyrup · 26/10/2025 19:41

Temu pays higher than nothing and I have no doubt there are worse 'job' situations in Asia. Much worse and probably many similar factory jobs, they just don't cater for western society so we have no idea. Also if thinking that mumsnet boycotting temu will have any impact is ridiculous, even if it did work another business would just pop up, then another, then another. Does the OP really think these companies are going to wave the white flag and say thank you for showing us the error of our ways! Nobody on here seems to have any real idea about how these, businesses, infrastructure and cultures really work.

You're assuming that Temu created 100,000 extra jobs. In reality a good chunk of these jobs will just have replaced highstreet manufacturing jobs as Temu has undercut the competition and swallowed up the market. Which isn't a good thing.

DrowningInSyrup · 26/10/2025 19:41

OlivePeer · 26/10/2025 18:56

Being a slave isn't having a job.

Temu pays higher than nothing and I have no doubt there are worse 'job' situations in Asia. Much worse and probably many similar factory jobs, they just don't cater for western society so we have no idea. Also if thinking that mumsnet boycotting temu will have any impact is ridiculous, even if it did work another business would just pop up, then another, then another. Does the OP really think these companies are going to wave the white flag and say thank you for showing us the error of our ways! Nobody on here seems to have any real idea about how these, businesses, infrastructure and cultures really work.

Digdongdoo · 26/10/2025 19:41

JayJayj · 26/10/2025 19:39

There are items on Amazon that are the exact same on SHEIN. But twice the price. It’s hard when money is tight. Why would I choose to pay twice as much for the same item?

Case in point.

Digdongdoo · 26/10/2025 19:41

knor · 26/10/2025 19:38

I’m sure I said this? “Including Amazon”
just making the point as lots of people are happy to use Amazon and not use temu/shein

Yes, just reiterating because people don't seem to get it.

JayJayj · 26/10/2025 19:39

There are items on Amazon that are the exact same on SHEIN. But twice the price. It’s hard when money is tight. Why would I choose to pay twice as much for the same item?

knor · 26/10/2025 19:38

Digdongdoo · 26/10/2025 19:32

Amazon is just a marketplace. Just like Temu. So is ebay. And aliexpress.
People really need to absorb this information. Marketplaces are not the same as brands or retailers.
So of course amazon will have similar problems. It is the same business model.

I’m sure I said this? “Including Amazon”
just making the point as lots of people are happy to use Amazon and not use temu/shein

DrowningInSyrup · 26/10/2025 19:34

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 26/10/2025 19:27

Scarlett O’Hara-ass comment

She was known for buying her bodices from Shein

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