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To ask you to swerve Shein & Temu

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DoNoTakeNo · 25/10/2025 18:12

This Christmas?
I know it’s mainly a cost thing but if it’s achievable, can people possibly manage with less stuff?

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Digdongdoo · 25/10/2025 22:14

WildLimePoet · 25/10/2025 22:12

It’s always the same people virtue signalling and telling those with less money how to live.

The same out of touch, hard of thinking with their luxury beliefs. Telling people buy only from local farm shops even it means they consume less. Not buy online etc.

It’s great to see people buying as much they can afford and being able to enjoy the things that these virtue signallers don’t want others to enjoy. I hope people buy more and more.

Don't come crying when Temu etc capture the markets entirely and then drive prices up. Because that is what will happen. This cheap crap will become expensive crap. Careful what you wish for.

Digdongdoo · 25/10/2025 22:13

ninjahamster · 25/10/2025 22:11

But you are assuming people buying from these sites are buying masses of stuff. Most people on low incomes are buying far less than those with more money.

Spending more or buying more items?

Toottooot · 25/10/2025 22:13

Screamingabdabz · 25/10/2025 22:10

No that’s the same slave made cheap goods from a dystopian nightmare too. Well done you. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Thanks hun

WildLimePoet · 25/10/2025 22:12

It’s always the same people virtue signalling and telling those with less money how to live.

The same out of touch, hard of thinking with their luxury beliefs. Telling people buy only from local farm shops even it means they consume less. Not buy online etc.

It’s great to see people buying as much they can afford and being able to enjoy the things that these virtue signallers don’t want others to enjoy. I hope people buy more and more.

ninjahamster · 25/10/2025 22:11

Digdongdoo · 25/10/2025 22:08

Just buy less stuff. Christmas really doesn't need to be about having lots of things to unwrap.

But you are assuming people buying from these sites are buying masses of stuff. Most people on low incomes are buying far less than those with more money.

Screamingabdabz · 25/10/2025 22:10

Toottooot · 25/10/2025 22:09

What about AliExpress? I’ve had some cracking genuine branded items from there? Div you approve?

No that’s the same slave made cheap goods from a dystopian nightmare too. Well done you. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Toottooot · 25/10/2025 22:09

What about AliExpress? I’ve had some cracking genuine branded items from there? Div you approve?

Screamingabdabz · 25/10/2025 22:08

You’re pissing in the wind op. So many people are rubbing their hands with glee at all the cheap
shit they can buy, no one gives a shit about the human misery and slavery until it affects them or their family. And the more people enable the Chinese economy that’ll happen sooner than we think.

Digdongdoo · 25/10/2025 22:08

Jumpingthruhoops · 25/10/2025 22:05

That's not what this is about though: it's not about just buying 'shit'... it's about buying shit specifically from Shein and Temu for Christmas! Which for some people is all they can manage in order to give their children what they believe will be a fun Christmas. What you think of that is neither here nor there.

Just buy less stuff. Christmas really doesn't need to be about having lots of things to unwrap.

Tiebiter · 25/10/2025 22:08

I don't buy off shein or temu but I do buy from Amazon and I'm aware people just buy from temu and then sell it on Amazon with a huge mark up.

Bushmillsbabe · 25/10/2025 22:08

I won't buy from shein, temu or aliexpress - my daughter is forever asking for things from there, my answer is a clear no. I appreciate lots of clothes aren't great in manufacture methods, even from m and s etc, but I feel these are even worse, with labour sometimes coming from whole tribes of people (such as the Uyghurs) who the Chinese government has imprisoned for no crime and using as slave labour (whilst also denouncing slavery through history!). Which I appreciate doesn't make the low wage sweatshops in Bangladesh etc in any way ok, but this feel much worse.

However I would not presume to tell other people where they can shop

SharpOliveUser · 25/10/2025 22:07

DoNoTakeNo · 25/10/2025 18:12

This Christmas?
I know it’s mainly a cost thing but if it’s achievable, can people possibly manage with less stuff?

No - stop being elitist. People will shop where they can afford to shop. Just because you have less money doesnt mean you ‘deserve’ less things. These corporations will prosper whatever the common person does so just stop with your trying to save the world - it makes no difference

Happyhappymeee · 25/10/2025 22:07

Digdongdoo · 25/10/2025 22:02

But actually how vast are the savings?
I agree you shouldn't have to pay for pencils. But I also dont think they should come from Temu.
Pencils from reputable retailers are subject to fairly strict regulations. Pencils from Temu are a gamble.

Ok if it is was JUST pencils I needed you are right - I wouldn’t get them from Temu as they wouldn’t be a huge amount more expensive than b&m or home bargains. But it’s pretty much entire classrooms full of resources teachers are paying
for out of their pockets. I guess I could spend what little time I have free at weekends searching for the most ethical version of everything but it would cost me much more overall than just placing one larger order which included the pencils. Rather than slating teachers for buying resources from Temu, maybe appreciate they are paying for things for other people’s children to be able to learn.

Toottooot · 25/10/2025 22:06

Threads like this were made for the now removed laugh reaction. Some of these replies are fucking ridiculous.

WildLimePoet · 25/10/2025 22:05

Digdongdoo · 25/10/2025 22:03

We is all of us. You can personally choose to be OK with it. I can't tell you how to feel. But we all get an opinion.

But you don’t get to pass judgement that ‘we’ all need less. ‘We’ are all free to decide for ourselves how much we need.

You seem to want to push your political agenda down people’s throats. I hope people buy as much they want to please themselves without someone lecturing them on how much they should be needing.

Digdongdoo · 25/10/2025 22:05

Jumpingthruhoops · 25/10/2025 22:00

No it isn't. You have absolutely ZERO idea of why someone might need to make certain choices. So, like I said upthread, until such a time comes that you're actually paying their bills, your opinion is irrelevant.

It really is everyone's place to judge. It is a shared planet. We all get opinions on how we use it. Nobody needs to buy anything from Temu. Ever.

ConnectingPoint · 25/10/2025 22:05

Happyhappymeee · 25/10/2025 21:51

Yeah cos providing my pupils with pencils and pens and things to write on is proof I don’t care about ethics. Ok
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Oh come on…a school with NO pens and pencils…

And if they really haven't, the children can't write, leaders would soon know.

Meanwhile you are filling a very basic gap with pens and pencils that maybe toxic. If a child is ill, or a parent complains about unethically sourced products, do you really think your excellent (can't even plan for the school to have pencils) leaders are going to defend you?

Jumpingthruhoops · 25/10/2025 22:05

Digdongdoo · 25/10/2025 21:59

We all have to live on the planet that is collapsing beneath all this shit.
We've got more stuff than 90% of the world, and more stuff than ever before in the history of the world. We all need less.

That's not what this is about though: it's not about just buying 'shit'... it's about buying shit specifically from Shein and Temu for Christmas! Which for some people is all they can manage in order to give their children what they believe will be a fun Christmas. What you think of that is neither here nor there.

EveningSpread · 25/10/2025 22:04

There is no way in hell I’d ever buy anything from those places.

If I’m going to bother getting something, I save up and get a decent version (often second hand).

If it’s pointless plastic crap, I don’t need it in the first place.

Digdongdoo · 25/10/2025 22:03

WildLimePoet · 25/10/2025 22:00

Who is ‘we’? Are you the self appointed decision maker that gets to decide how much everyone needs. Speak for yourself. Not for the rest of us.

We is all of us. You can personally choose to be OK with it. I can't tell you how to feel. But we all get an opinion.

Ginandbitterlemons · 25/10/2025 22:02

Jumpingthruhoops · Today 21:57

Digdongdoo · Today 21:13
So not actually things you need then.

And, so what!? You know, it's OK for people to just want things that might bring them a little joy!? For however momentarily that may be...

Thats your view - but for me I just cant enjoy it if i did that.
Ok - its peoples decision to make if they can .
But its equally ok for people to say no - I cant do it - i don't want to .
I cant give someone a gift for example to someone knowing that its caused distress or something to the person working in terrible conditions- that just wdnt bring me joy. Try as I might - I cant make it a joyful thing to me .

Digdongdoo · 25/10/2025 22:02

Happyhappymeee · 25/10/2025 21:59

Huge - but the issue here is that as a teacher with my own children to look after I shouldn’t have to pay for pencils for other people’s children out of my own pocket - whether I choose to buy from WHsmiths or Temu. But that’s where we are in education at the moment. And do you seriously look at the origin of pencils you buy? Do you think schools only purchase (when they have a budget) uk made pencils?

But actually how vast are the savings?
I agree you shouldn't have to pay for pencils. But I also dont think they should come from Temu.
Pencils from reputable retailers are subject to fairly strict regulations. Pencils from Temu are a gamble.

ninjahamster · 25/10/2025 22:01

I used to love a trawl around the shops looking for bargains and me and my daughters would do charity shop days.
Being unwell has changed things a lot though.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 25/10/2025 22:01

Never ordered from either of these sites, and never will.

WildLimePoet · 25/10/2025 22:00

Digdongdoo · 25/10/2025 21:59

We all have to live on the planet that is collapsing beneath all this shit.
We've got more stuff than 90% of the world, and more stuff than ever before in the history of the world. We all need less.

Who is ‘we’? Are you the self appointed decision maker that gets to decide how much everyone needs. Speak for yourself. Not for the rest of us.

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