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To ask you to swerve Shein & Temu

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DoNoTakeNo · 25/10/2025 18:12

This Christmas?
I know it’s mainly a cost thing but if it’s achievable, can people possibly manage with less stuff?

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LarkspurLane · 26/10/2025 12:58

WildLimePoet · 25/10/2025 23:13

Whether you buy new or you buy second hand, the product is still in use. And you just re imbursed part of the value back to the original buyer who supposedly paid for slave Labour.

But second hand is not the point. What no one has been able to articulate is that how are they servicing the morals and principles by guaranteeing they don’t buy anything linked with Chinese supply chains. Maybe some morally superior being will come along and explain how that have managed to achieve this feat.

You seem to be thinking that unless you do something 100% that it is not worth doing at all. Many disagree with that including me.
No one will probably be able to avoid using products made by slaves but they can use less of them.
If you take some care with what you buy, you can buy a lot less. If everyone halved their use of dubious purchasing, it could make lives better for many.

I can't always afford farm shops (which seems to be to many on the thread the only other place to shop besides Shein) so I sometimes buy lower welfare food products than I'd like. It's a mix.
Likewise my other spending. With a mix of secondhand, "ethical" purchases and just buying less, you can limit the amount made by slaves.

I mean, these are actual slaves, actual slaves, not just a "slave labour" concept where people are free but working too many hours. It's shocking that so many are ok with that.

TheGoddessAthena · 26/10/2025 12:51

DrowningInSyrup · 26/10/2025 11:23

Genuine question. If Temu & Shein close down, what are you going to do with the 100,000 people they employ?

By employ do you mean forced to work under slave labour conditions?

And that's the other side of the lazy, argument, that you're actually doing these slaves a favour by shopping with Shein or Temu because then at least they have work.

Digdongdoo · 26/10/2025 12:48

DrowningInSyrup · 26/10/2025 11:23

Genuine question. If Temu & Shein close down, what are you going to do with the 100,000 people they employ?

Temu has only been around for 3 years. So presumably just whatever they were doing 3 years ago.

jbm16 · 26/10/2025 12:40

MaggieBsBoat · 25/10/2025 18:42

This.
OP people here don’t care. They just don’t. They want to buy endless tat. For ever cheaper prices. Shameless. Makes me sick and YANBU. BUT PEOPLE ARE DUMB AND SELFISH.

wouldn't be mumsnet without a some self-righteousness...

DrowningInSyrup · 26/10/2025 12:35

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 26/10/2025 11:24

Redeploy them to clean up the vast environmental harm caused by fast fashion?

FFS maybe they could wipe your arse too.

Why don't you do something practical about it. Not buying Christmas lights from Temu will do sweet FA.

DrowningInSyrup · 26/10/2025 12:33

Werp · 26/10/2025 12:16

I don’t know if this is still the case but ten or so years ago the Chinese govt were basically removing the land of subsistence farmers to force migration to ‘free trade zones’ to supply the demand for factory workers for export products. There weren’t just thousands of people sitting around twiddling their thumbs and looking for (dangerous exploitative) jobs. By buying cheap products from countries with awful labour practices you create the demand for people to be coerced in various ways into jobs, and even into slavery.

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So I ask again what are you now going to do with the 100,000 now unemployed?

DrowningInSyrup · 26/10/2025 12:31

bluebettyy · 26/10/2025 11:40

They would likely starve to death on the streets. Or have to resort to sex work.

Dark, but possibly true. Or they would find an even shittier place to work. It's so sanctimonious to think that Audrey from number 12 can change their world by getting her Christmas decorations from M&S rather than Temu. Really they know sweet FA about any of it.

Elbowpatch · 26/10/2025 12:19

ChopstickNovice · 26/10/2025 12:12

This is something I often struggle with. I see things on Etsy, click and look, and then later, Google ads shows me what appears to be exact same thing on Temu often for 90% less. Is the Etsy seller buying from Temu and selling on? Has Temu ripped off the original seller? Same with Christmas markets and craft markets.

Temu is simply a marketplace for individual sellers. It can’t rip anybody off because it doesn’t buy anything from anybody.

Werp · 26/10/2025 12:16

DrowningInSyrup · 26/10/2025 11:23

Genuine question. If Temu & Shein close down, what are you going to do with the 100,000 people they employ?

I don’t know if this is still the case but ten or so years ago the Chinese govt were basically removing the land of subsistence farmers to force migration to ‘free trade zones’ to supply the demand for factory workers for export products. There weren’t just thousands of people sitting around twiddling their thumbs and looking for (dangerous exploitative) jobs. By buying cheap products from countries with awful labour practices you create the demand for people to be coerced in various ways into jobs, and even into slavery.

soupyspoon · 26/10/2025 12:15

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 26/10/2025 11:24

Redeploy them to clean up the vast environmental harm caused by fast fashion?

Who's going to do that, the Chinese government?

The UK government?

The EU?

ChopstickNovice · 26/10/2025 12:12

ninjahamster · 25/10/2025 19:35

Interestingly I’ve just looked at some of the items I bought on Temu. The EXACT SAME items are on Amazon but more expensive. So I would still be buying unethically.

This is something I often struggle with. I see things on Etsy, click and look, and then later, Google ads shows me what appears to be exact same thing on Temu often for 90% less. Is the Etsy seller buying from Temu and selling on? Has Temu ripped off the original seller? Same with Christmas markets and craft markets.

bluebettyy · 26/10/2025 11:40

DrowningInSyrup · 26/10/2025 11:23

Genuine question. If Temu & Shein close down, what are you going to do with the 100,000 people they employ?

They would likely starve to death on the streets. Or have to resort to sex work.

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 26/10/2025 11:24

Redeploy them to clean up the vast environmental harm caused by fast fashion?

DrowningInSyrup · 26/10/2025 11:23

TheGoddessAthena · 26/10/2025 07:31

And here we go again with the nonsense about unless you are living in a cave then you have no room to comment.

Isn't it obvious that being a meat-eater who flies a couple of times a year who buys at Shein/Temu is worse than being the same person who doesn't? It's hardly a big imposition to suggest that you don't shop at Temu or Shein.

It's not just about the environmental consequences either like the flights to bring all this stuff over to the UK or the pollution caused by creating it. It;s also about ripping off designers, lack of safety standards, slave labour, data harvesting from the sites, the cost of disposing of all this stuff people are buying, loss of UK retailing jobs etc etc etc.

Genuine question. If Temu & Shein close down, what are you going to do with the 100,000 people they employ?

soupyspoon · 26/10/2025 11:18

Lots of false logic on here

Firstly the idea that because someone buys things from Amazon/Shein/Temu whatever, that they are more likely to chuck stuff than if they buy from Sainsburys or Smiths and Smyths. Not so. I buy my clothes almost exclusively from Sainsburys and the charity shop. The stuff from the charity shop is a mixture of supermarket brands and Primark and Zara, those are the things in the wardrobe at the moment. And as I peruse around the charity shops tons of things dont even have a label on them so theres no way of telling if they come from Shien or whatever so the idea that charity shops have a blanket policy of not selling Shein items is nonsense

Secondly, although I buy from Amazon as I already have the account and my OH has prime for the postage etc, Im well aware these items are the exact same items as those on Temu and Shein even though Ive never bought from them, I probably have bought from them as has everyone else

In particular that children who have items provided by their school, perhaps within a tendering process by a supplier. Who do you think that supplier buys those pencils, pads, pens, stationary from? Down the chain somewhere will be the exact same factories that the poor struggling teacher is now buying stuff from. Same counts for any Local Authority or care home or any big organisation, they'll tender out contracts for suppliers and way down the line these will be the same items just relabelled and re packaged.

ConnectingPoint · 26/10/2025 11:10

Happyhappymeee · 25/10/2025 22:19

I was given 23 pencils for a class of 31 so yes there are schools that don’t have enough resources for all their pupils and god forbid if some get lost - there aren’t any to replace them! You clearly haven’t worked in a school if you think we’d get away with saying children can’t write becuase we don’t have the resources. If a parent would ever like to donate an ethically sourced box of pencils to a class so I wouldn’t have to use my own salary I would be delighted. Somehow I don’t think that’s likely to happen though.

37 years in education, latter years at a senior level. You are filling gaps that leaders should not be leaving. How on earth would children write without a pencil - if the gap is left, leaders would soon fill it, believe me.
No/poor SATS results because of ‘no pencils’….🤯

I also recognise the risks and impact of children accessing unsafe/untested products on my watch. Parents, leaders, Trust, LA, H&S.

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 26/10/2025 11:09

Tbf there are sweatshops and plenty of trafficked labour in the UK and no-one gives a shit

DoNoTakeNo · 26/10/2025 11:03

@ObelixtheGaul you just totally nailed it. Thank you.

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Anonyone1 · 26/10/2025 10:55

DoNoTakeNo · 26/10/2025 10:24

Wow, you’re raising an absolute star here Star Please pass my admiration on to her.
Its so reassuring that schools are taking fast fashion & the damage it causes seriously. Thank you for letting us know about this.

They’re learning about fast fashion and sweat shops as part of Geography. She came home saying they’re all shocked at the truth about Shein and Temu at school - of course lots of her friends are saying they’ll still shop there because it’s so cheap 😔

ObelixtheGaul · 26/10/2025 10:31

Here's the thing. For all those banging on about 'I'll shop where I like, I'm free to do whatever', nobody in this country would be willing to get out of bed for the money the people who make these things get paid.

We are exploiting a political and social regime we wouldn't countenance in this country. Everyone's anti-communism until it comes to getting stuff cheaper. Child slavery is a terrible thing we wouldn't accept on these shores, but we'll happily prop up the industry elsewhere.

We won't work in a sweat shop, but we happily pay somebody else to.

You know what I think we should do? Bring it all back here. The rag trade sweat shops of the 1970's, the piss poor worker's rights, your 13 year old stitching clothes instead of in school.

You think it's acceptable, campaign so we can do it here. If your dirt cheap clothes and crafts etc are so important to have, let's give up all the hard fought for rights and regulations here.

I bet absolutely none of you would willing walk into a Primark or H&M if the factory that made the produce was down the road and you saw your friend's kids going to work there, or your mother was ill because of the crap she was inhaling every day.

It's not OK because it's happening somewhere else. It's not OK because it suits you. It's not OK because you haven't got a lot of money. Can you imagine saying, 'but I'm poor and it's so much cheaper' in defence of keeping the sweatshop down the road open,? Would it be OK if it wasn't your daughter, your mother, your Dad having to do it, but another British person, who isn't paid enough to buy the items you, in your declared poverty, think are 'cheap'.

It wouldn't. There'd be an outcry. Nobody would be here talking about their freedom to buy what they like.

DoNoTakeNo · 26/10/2025 10:24

Anonyone1 · 26/10/2025 08:45

I try really hard to shop ethically. I buy mostly second hand from Vinted, and am happy to admit that without preaching. What’s really important to me is that my children have their eyes opened to this consumer madness, and I’m pleased to see that the issue is being addressed at secondary school. DD13 is absolutely against fast fashion and buy now brands and is constantly asking me which brands we can trust. I’ve never been prouder. It’s this generation that will be screwed in the future and it terrifies me.

Wow, you’re raising an absolute star here Star Please pass my admiration on to her.
Its so reassuring that schools are taking fast fashion & the damage it causes seriously. Thank you for letting us know about this.

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DoNoTakeNo · 26/10/2025 10:20

notthisagain2025 · 26/10/2025 08:35

Ooh, and now I'm trying to decide between which plastic measuring cups I want. Was thinking of getting them from the shops, but instead I will deffo go Temu.

Thanks :)

If this buying-&-blaming blitz is true, you’re seriously messed up.

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Bagsintheboot · 26/10/2025 10:16

feelingalittlehorse · 26/10/2025 10:08

Somebody actually made an interesting comment above, but was drowned out with total nonsense.
The average spend on Temu is $100 per month. That’s average, across the board. That’s a lot of money- £75 per month for the UK. I certainly don’t regularly spend that amount on non Temu/ Shein stuff, and certainly not monthly. So is it possible that people are actually buying more and therefore spending more, because each individual item is cheaper? I suspect so, which kind of knocks the “I’m doing it because I’m hard up” argument. A £2.50 here and there, on multiple items, soon adds up.

Pretty much. I'm highly sceptical of the "it's the only place in existence I can possibly buy things I desperately need to live" argument.

Because "things they need to live" usually turn out to be, taking examples from this thread: manicure sets, advent calendars and stocking fillers for adult children, and beauty bits.

When I was hard up I wasn't thinking about buying any kind of manicure set from anywhere, no matter how cheap. Every penny had to go towards food and the gas meter. There was nothing spare for beauty bits, even if they were rock bottom prices.

I suspect I have a very different idea of hard up to some posters on here.

LadySuzanne · 26/10/2025 10:14

fortyfourpercentage · 26/10/2025 08:42

Many of the same products are sold on Amazon (just a lot cheaper) so not sure why Amazon sellers would be allowed to flog stuff that didn’t meet safety standards.

For me, I’m currently losing weight and need new clothes that I likely won’t keep due to weight loss. It’s not ideal but I’ve had some really nice stuff from Temu and when I drop the next stone, I pass the clothes on to a charity shop. I’m not going to pay normal prices for things I’ll only wear for a couple of months.

"...so not sure why Amazon sellers would be allowed to flog stuff that didn’t meet safety"

There are fake supplements being sold via Amazon.

DoNoTakeNo · 26/10/2025 10:13

OlivePeer · 26/10/2025 07:36

The argument that unless you do everything perfectly, you can't have an opinion on what other people do makes absolutely no sense. It's not 0 or 1. Trying to do better is still better than not trying at all. Not caring about slavery and the impacts on endangered animals and smugly hoping that people buy "more and more" or should do whatever they want for "temporary joy" is plainly much, much worse than buying fewer things, secondhand, and trying to get them from more ethical supply chains, even if the results of that aren't perfect. It's basically impossible to live totally ethically in the world we have now, but there's still a huge difference between trying and caring, and glorying in contributing to the bad in the world.

Eloquently put. Thank you.

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