Visitors turning up to stay has ruined my weekend

This is just breathtakingly entitled. I can’t actually believe anyone would do this…

My parents are dead but I'm not one of those annoying posters who will try and guilt trip an OP by saying that I'd give anything to have my parents back and them turning up to stay unannounced.

I would be so pissed off!!

“Would you like a cup of tea before you set off home” is a very useful weapon in your arsenal. Otherwise this explains the meme I saw this week and saved for just this occasion

Even if you're the sort of person who were happy to put them up with no notice - if you're that hospitable, you might already have people staying. Or you might have plans to go out. Or be staying in with a new boyfriend. Or just taking time alone to recover from a busy week.

At 60 miles, they can easily go home again. And if they don't want to, in my town, I know where the hotels are.

Did they think you would love the surprise? Awks

Why didn't you say no?

Mine are dead.

I still think that it is completely bizarre for anyone to turn up on someone else's doorstep expecting to be hosted overnight, without so much as asking them first.
(Aside from someone fleeing domestic violence or something which I'm sure the OP would have mentioned).

OP must be quite busy entertaining them tonight.
I would hate that. And I would never just turn up unannounced. So rude , especially to want to be put up for the weekend too.

Red Herring argument. OP knows they won’t be able to turn up unannounced when they’re dead - the point is she wants them to stop turning up unannounced now.

Oh my days, I need more info!!! 😨
Is anyone else sweating on an update and needing more details and context?!!!
😫 🙏 😩
As my hubby would say, I'm sweating like a nun with a cucumber here, luv! 😆 🥒 🤣
Come on OP! Tell us what happened next in this saga!
Did you kick them to the kerb? 🤔
Or did you start being as disgusting as possible to make them awkward and uncomfortable? 🙏
Great tricks like: Dry shaving legs in the lounge, clipping toe nails, picking nose and eating it, belching and farting, scratching your arse and sniffing.
You know, all the sexy tricks? 😆 🤣 😂

Sounds like it doesn’t it ? Presumably they’ve been accommodated in the past so think they can do it any time. I would be putting on my coat and telling them i have plans, so off they pop !!

Very inappropriate.

I only found out after my husband died that his ex used to do this to their son and DIL all the time. It drove the DIL demented, but mummy could do no wrong, so the DIL didn't want to rock the boat.

I had this surprise visit crap once with relatives (thankfully, they had booked somewhere else to stay). Unfortunately for them, they turned up in the middle of the week, and because I had no notice, I hadn’t booked the time off work, so the idiots had to entertain themselves during the day. They never did it again.

I'd be horrified. We're pretty tidy but I like to prep for guests. We also don't really dress up if we're not expecting anyone so I'd also be a bit mortified - and in something bleach stained. It's just so rude.

If I were you I'd say it would be nice to see you but because I didn't know you were coming, I have imminent prior plans so you can't stay. Then wave them off.

I have a lovely day to myself today as DH is on a stag do. I've tidied out a room in our flat that seriously needed doing. It's definitely an easier-by-yourself-job. It's needed doing for ages and I'd have been really cross actually, if anyone had tried to either join me or do anything to combat my "loneliness". It has been perfect.

YANBU AT ALL but give us more information FGS! All the deets, please.

Yes. It's fucking mental to show up like that.

What is their contingency plan if you'd gone away for the weekend or booked a babysitter to go to a friend's house for a party?

Do they know you’re on your own? And do they think they are doing something nice FOR YOU by coming to see you?
Doesn’t happen very often but occasionally DH and the DC have gone away for something, just a night or two, and I think wonderful, a night alone whereas my mum and sis think oh no, you’re all on your own, however will you cope, I’ll come to stay with you… expecting that I will be able to look after them as they will have made the effort to get to me 😳🙄
Needless to say I always say thank you but No Thank you very firmly but I think that they are obviously not so happy in their own skin as they always want to be with others whereas I’ve always been happy with my own company… And they are always surprised as they would love to have someone come to visit them - probably means I should go and visit them more whereas I love to have a nice weekend at home.

Which is a long way of saying do you think that they think they are helping you by visiting - could your DH have asked them to look after you as he is away?

Just tell them its not convenient, 60 miles isnt much they can be home in a hour or so.

Very unreasonable regardless of how closely or remotely you’re related. Send them packing back to where they came from.

People actually have the gall to do this?! No op I'd just be telling them sorry no it doesn't suit right now. Especially if they're expecting to be "hosted"by you ie fed watered and entertained.

It was rude of them but what was their reason for turning up unannounced? Most people don't do that unless they've had an emergency, cr broken down on route somewhere for example.

just checking…

They’re only 60 miles from home - off they pop back in their car and back home! YANBU, obvs.

One is.

The knowledge that a relative may not outlive you doesn’t mean you should happily accept being treated badly during their life