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Visitors turning up to stay has ruined my weekend

238 replies

Teizzz · 25/10/2025 16:20

Relatives have turned up to stay unannounced from 60 miles away. I was looking forward to having a very chilled weekend watching what I wanted on tv and snacking with some lovely walks.

AIBU to think its rude to turn up unannounced?

OP posts:
Justcallmedaffodil · 25/10/2025 16:26

60 miles isn’t that far at all, I’d have made them a meal/offered tea and biscuits (time-depending) if I was feeling generous and made it clear that my own plans for the weekend don’t involve them staying. Don’t become a doormat.

Original poster
Teizzz · 25/10/2025 16:25

I just want to be on my own.

OP posts:
fuxsticks · 25/10/2025 16:24

YANBU at all. I think that it's incredibly rude to drop by unannounced, let alone assume that you can stay with someone without asking or checking first. Can you tell them that you have plans this weekend and send them back?

ThroughTheRedDoor · 25/10/2025 16:24

How does that go down?

Knock knock: hiya, SURPRISE! We thought we'd come and stay 2 nights at your house! What's for tea?

MagicLoop · 25/10/2025 16:24

YANBU! I never understand people who do this.

Dunnocantthinkofone · 25/10/2025 16:23

Unspeakably rude.
But then they can only take advantage if you let them. Tell them you have plans and send them packing or you will be stuck with this appalling behaviour for years

Mewling · 25/10/2025 16:23

I’d be annoyed by that. Impromptu lunch, fine. Actual overnight stay? GTFO.

FortnumsWeddingBreakfastTeaPlease · 25/10/2025 16:23

At 60 miles, they live around an hour away?

Why on earth do they need to stay over?

Peridot1 · 25/10/2025 16:23

Very rude. Parents/in-laws? Siblings?

Smileybutwily · 25/10/2025 16:23

Wtf.

Just no. Who could possibly think this is acceptable??!!

Sending wine OP x

newhousenewhouse · 25/10/2025 16:22

YANBU that would make me mad. Tell them you are busy!

TheTecknician · 25/10/2025 16:22

It is beyond rude. Is it too late to send them packing?

blueluce85 · 25/10/2025 16:21

YANBU