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For not paying nearly £20 for a second hand coat?

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Sbrown32 · 25/10/2025 16:09

So, today I went charity shopping for the first time in a while as I needed a winter coat for the last few months of my pregnancy. I found a really lovely one that I wanted, it was a nice colour and the quality wasn't to bad, a few imperfections but overall I was happy, until I went to go look at the price 🙃 £18.50!! I don't know if I am just being cheap but that seemed expensive for anything second hand!

Most of my clothes are second hand and I rarely buy brand new, I am used to paying a few £ for any item of clothing and have gotten many coats in the past for £5 - £10 depending on type of coat. I just can't get over it and may have embarrassed the OH with my rant inside the store 🤣

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Fairydustand · 28/10/2025 16:29

I am afraid I can't agree.The more well off are pushing the prices in charity shops up, looking for on trend items.The less well off are now finding it harder to get decent, fashionable clothes at reduced prices as a result.Its a fact, I am not trying to drag this discussion out.Like I said before, thankfully there are still a few low cost charity shops in my area.
If people are willing to pay more than the price of new clothing,in a charity shop,well more fool them.. that's me done on the subject.👍

ObelixtheGaul · 28/10/2025 16:10

Fairydustand · 28/10/2025 15:09

Wake me up...sorry but it went on a bit...why don't charity shops just change their names to clothes shops and be done with it then?.

As I understand it, charity shops get tax relief because they are charity shops. That's why so many high streets are full of them. They don't have to pay high business rates. If they became just clothes shops, they'd have to charge more to cover the tax increase and most would just disappear.

It's hard for charity shops to be seen as bargain places now, on many item, because you can buy new online so cheaply. I would say £20 is not bad for a decent coat that might have cost £80 new, but it's going to seem dear when you can buy something new online for £30-40.

ParmaVioletTea · 28/10/2025 16:07

As previously mentioned, most people who take donations to charity shops do so on the understanding that they are forgoing alternatives (eg whatever they could earn by selling on Vinted, or landfill, or leaving to gather dust or get moth eaten in their cupboard) because there is moral value to them in supporting hospices and cancer research. They do not donate because they want to personally enrich individuals or businesses who have nothing to do with the charity. If it became obvious that this was happening, donations would quickly dry up, charity shops would close down faster, and overall market prices would go up due to less inventory.

This 100%

Excellent summary @Postcardsender I was in a local charity shop which runs exclusively as 'bric a brac' and picks out the higher quality things (books, china, beautiful paintings, silver cutlery etc) from the donations & house clearances they do.

A woman was trying to bargain down a lovely 1950s powder compact (oh, remember those? they were lovely) and the manager was having none of it. "we're not here for eBay dealers to profit from us" was his view.

And I agree. No-one needs a 1950s powder compact. The woman was taking the mick.

It's one of those lovely rummagey sort of shops, and supports a local network of hospices. And I thank all the families of the little old ladies (I'm almost one myself) who have donated to it.

TheGoddessAthena · 28/10/2025 15:57

Fairydustand · 28/10/2025 15:09

Wake me up...sorry but it went on a bit...why don't charity shops just change their names to clothes shops and be done with it then?.

I'm a volunteer in a charity shop. We make as much on bric a brac as we do on clothes.

Digdongdoo · 28/10/2025 15:43

Fairydustand · 28/10/2025 15:36

Ok, thanks but most of them have still become too expensive for buyers on a tight budget .

But they are still charity shops. The charitable bit is the raising of funds, not the provision of cheap clothing.

Fairydustand · 28/10/2025 15:40

Also the OP has been made to look like she's being mean for expecting to find a bargain in a charity shop, she's not.

Fairydustand · 28/10/2025 15:36

Ok, thanks but most of them have still become too expensive for buyers on a tight budget .

Postcardsender · 28/10/2025 15:32

Fairydustand · 28/10/2025 15:09

Wake me up...sorry but it went on a bit...why don't charity shops just change their names to clothes shops and be done with it then?.

Two answers to your unnecessarily rude question.

  1. Charity shops don’t just sell clothes.

  2. Markets function in an orderly and efficient way by transparency. Ie expectations - prices, specifications - are communicated clearly.

Charity shops are called charity shops to clearly signal to donors that they need stock for free and to signal to buyers that their expectations of stock and pricing should differ from what they might find in a non-charity shop.

Fairydustand · 28/10/2025 15:09

Wake me up...sorry but it went on a bit...why don't charity shops just change their names to clothes shops and be done with it then?.

Postcardsender · 28/10/2025 14:40

MeekAndModest · 28/10/2025 12:41

@NecklessMumster ,That was a bargain.

@Thistlewoman , the charity shops are there to raise money for the charity.
So what if someone re-sells it. They aren't there to dress the poor or sell vintage clothes. if they do, great.

Let me explain it again for you, as a lot of people don’t seem to understand business or economics.

First of all, “market price” is where what a buyer is prepared to pay matches what a seller is prepared to sell for. The market for used clothing has expanded in recent years - it is no longer just charity shops, jumble sales and dress agencies but has expanded to include Vinted, eBay and other online market places.

The issue raised in this thread is whether charity shops should reduce their prices below market price (what an item could be sold for in this wider market) because some people (like OP) don’t want to pay that market price or believe that it is somehow morally wrong for a charity to charge the market price.

But if we work through what would happen if all charity shops did what OP wants and reduced their prices below market, we see that it doesn’t achieve OP’s objective (to pay less than she is currently being asked to pay), or satisfy those who think charities have a moral responsibility above and beyond profit-maximising market participants.

Firstly, it would create a very attractive arbitrage opportunity where individuals or businesses buy items at a lower than market price from charity shops and resell on Vinted or eBay at market price, keeping the profit for themselves.

In the short term, it might drive down the market price a little because the arbitrageurs have much lower total costs than charity shops and could potentially price at a lower level than current market prices while still making themselves an acceptable profit margin (price minus costs). Inventory on Vinted at al would also increase dramatically, helping drive down prices. So seemingly good news for OP wanting to spend as little as possible.

However, the long term picture is less good for OP. As most charity shops have a high fixed cost base (rent/rates/utilities/insurance /staff costs/POS fees), most would very quickly find they could no longer cover these costs, let alone generate profit to fund their causes. The number of charity shops would decrease sharply. Arbitrageurs’ access to under-priced stock to resell would therefore reduce, and prices would rise again. OP would ultimately find that she had to pay prices at least as high as she was paying before, and probably higher (as market cost of goods sold would overall increase due to donors no longer giving items to charity shops for free).

As to the moral question, charity shops exist to fund hospices, cancer research, animal rescue and overseas aid programmes by maximising their profits. Their legal and moral responsibility is NOT to keep every potential buyer on the market happy, including those who don’t want to pay market price. (If OP thinks people like her deserve a special charity that exists to sell her cheap clothing then she should apply to the Charities Commission and see what they say.)

As previously mentioned, most people who take donations to charity shops do so on the understanding that they are forgoing alternatives (eg whatever they could earn by selling on Vinted, or landfill, or leaving to gather dust or get moth eaten in their cupboard) because there is moral value to them in supporting hospices and cancer research. They do not donate because they want to personally enrich individuals or businesses who have nothing to do with the charity. If it became obvious that this was happening, donations would quickly dry up, charity shops would close down faster, and overall market prices would go up due to less inventory.

HTH.

ParmaVioletTea · 28/10/2025 13:31

YABU.

£20 for a nice winter coat & the money goes to charity? YABU & mean.

Fairydustand · 28/10/2025 13:14

Hmmn,well , thankfully my area has a few low priced charity shops left. The thing is ,a lot of what you pay for something in many charity shops, goes on admin,wages etc..Not that much goes to the actual charity. I would agree that when you are looking for designer labels in charity shops, you will have to expect to pay a bit more, than say, from a supermarket store .OP I hope you have found a low cost coat 🙂

mamagogo1 · 28/10/2025 13:13

Depends on brand, how worn it is etc. my coat was £20 but had tags attached

Thistlewoman · 28/10/2025 12:59

MeekAndModest · 28/10/2025 12:41

@NecklessMumster ,That was a bargain.

@Thistlewoman , the charity shops are there to raise money for the charity.
So what if someone re-sells it. They aren't there to dress the poor or sell vintage clothes. if they do, great.

Exactly.. so they are under no obligation to sell their stuff for peanuts.. They are there to make money for the Charity, not to provide cheap stock for Vinted sellers. Charity shops have overheads (rent/electricity etc) to cover too-long gone are the days when Charity shops sat on the High Street for free.

MeekAndModest · 28/10/2025 12:41

@NecklessMumster ,That was a bargain.

@Thistlewoman , the charity shops are there to raise money for the charity.
So what if someone re-sells it. They aren't there to dress the poor or sell vintage clothes. if they do, great.

Postcardsender · 28/10/2025 12:34

Thistlewoman · 28/10/2025 12:13

That used to be the case-Charity shoos were a good source of clothing for those who couldn't afford shop prices (or who preferred to wear vintage).
Then people started buying clothes in Charity shops and re-selling them on eBay, Vinted etc. Some even boasted about the profits the made on the back of a Charity🤮. Those are the people who have caused Charity shops to raise prices; people looking for something for nothing, so they can turn a profit. It applies to antique dealers too-they regularly trawl Charity shops to see if they can cream off the best stuff and sell for their own profit. I wouldn't object if the resellers then donated some of their profits to the original Charity, but greedy people are gonna be greedy I guess, so most don't.

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This.👇
People who argue everything in charity shops should be 50p are in cloud cuckoo land.

They have costs that Vinted sellers do not, and much smaller customer bases. They are doing their best to play to their strengths, specifically showing clothes off to their best effect, allowing people to try before they buy, pricing fairly, and curating so customers don’t have to sift through junk (damaged, tatty stuff).

Thistlewoman · 28/10/2025 12:13

Starlight7080 · 25/10/2025 16:54

But it isnt cheap . A charity shop used to be for people who could not afford much at all. So best part of 20 to most may be nothing . But to someone who may only have 40 for food for the week then 20 is a hell of a lot.
Not to mention charity shops get all of the stock for free. And having spoken to people who volunteer they often have full stock rooms with bags and bags of clothing . And turn lots away.
Maybe they would shift more stock and not be closing so many if they reduced the prices and sold more . Like they used to.

That used to be the case-Charity shoos were a good source of clothing for those who couldn't afford shop prices (or who preferred to wear vintage).
Then people started buying clothes in Charity shops and re-selling them on eBay, Vinted etc. Some even boasted about the profits the made on the back of a Charity🤮. Those are the people who have caused Charity shops to raise prices; people looking for something for nothing, so they can turn a profit. It applies to antique dealers too-they regularly trawl Charity shops to see if they can cream off the best stuff and sell for their own profit. I wouldn't object if the resellers then donated some of their profits to the original Charity, but greedy people are gonna be greedy I guess, so most don't.

Fairydustand · 28/10/2025 09:00

I think it is really about what you can afford.I don't have a lot of spare cash and always buy in sales and charity shops.Have done for years and years.I think £8 max is acceptable for a 2nd hand coat. Sally army shops, in my area still sell at lower prices.

Mademetoxic · 28/10/2025 08:51

The OP hasn't come back to this thread has she 😅😂

Nanof8 · 27/10/2025 19:45

Wear it for the few months you will need and then sell it for £15.

Iwantamarshmallowman · 27/10/2025 14:13

I paid £35 for a brand new zara duvet coat in the charity shop last year. I'd been looking for one eveywhere. It would have been £120 new.l and wear it all the time. Today I saw a new zara mini dress originally £65 for £35 in the charity shop which wasn't anywhere near as good value as the coat and I'd probably only wear it once if that.

berightorbehappy · 27/10/2025 14:06

I paid £40 for a wool coat with lovely lining in a charity shop and it lasted years . As everyone says, depends on the quality and how much you like it . AND it’s for charity too ..

Thistlewoman · 27/10/2025 13:29

Sbrown32 · 25/10/2025 16:39

I think, because I know its only going to be used for a few months it just seemed expensive.

The price of a garment isn't based upon how many times YOU will wear it!!
Personally I think £18.50 is pretty reasonable for a coat that you have yourself described as really nice.

YourWinter · 27/10/2025 12:25

Some of the national chain charity shops are extortionate prices now, Age Concern and Oxfam are particularly expensive. Shops supporting local hospices and animal rescue are best.

GasPanic · 27/10/2025 11:59

Oscar Wilde had a great quote about this.

Knowing the price of everything and the value of nothing.

There are some coats out there that are great value for £20 and others that aren't.

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