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Partner just sits there !

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motmilk7 · 25/10/2025 14:25

AIBU ?
my little boy aged 2 can be quite naughty, he hasn’t been diagnosed but health visitor is sure he has autism and ADHD ( not excusing him ) but don’t want to drip feed !
i was breastfeeding his baby sister ( 4 months ) and he’s pretended he’s going to kiss her and then bit her hard, so I’m trying to calm baby down whilst trying to stop him getting to her again and partner ( dad of both of them ) sits there eating his lunch, doing nothing to help ! Then when I said thanks for the help he’s gone all offended and basically whinging it’s taken him 4 attempts to make his lunch - I said yes that is how it is for me most days to which he said “ good “

he doesn’t think ds has these concerns he just thinks he’s naughty and we should MAKE him behave, ds shows signs of not understanding things a 2 year old should is is behind at the moment.

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Namechangetheyarewatching · 25/10/2025 14:54

motmilk7 · 25/10/2025 14:40

Thank you for your reply, he’s happy to step in and tell ds off because after I said to him just sit there he then told ds off ( not what was needed he’d already been told off ) partner is very self important he needs to eat he needs to shower he needs to go to his hobby whilst I’m practically drowning ! Then he acts all victim like if I say anything xx

Well there's your problem

You have a self important partner, and it's all about him....

Most parents would put aside their needs to tend to the needs of their children first.

You have two choices, put up with it, cause let's face it you have two children and he hasn't changed yet, or leave.

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motmilk7 · 25/10/2025 14:53

@NoUserNameNeeded tried all of that, I’ve also told him how to help it goes in one ear out the other x

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ShenandoahRiver · 25/10/2025 14:52

Another useless fucking man..

NoUserNameNeeded · 25/10/2025 14:49

Instead of being sarcastic why not offer advice on what he can do to help in these situations. Perhaps your son is jeaslous of the baby and the attention, perhaps you partner and son and eat together or do something just the two of them when your occupied with the baby.

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motmilk7 · 25/10/2025 14:40

Thank you for your reply, he’s happy to step in and tell ds off because after I said to him just sit there he then told ds off ( not what was needed he’d already been told off ) partner is very self important he needs to eat he needs to shower he needs to go to his hobby whilst I’m practically drowning ! Then he acts all victim like if I say anything xx

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ComfortFoodCafe · 25/10/2025 14:32

To be honest part of the behaviour could stem from lack of discipline if your partner just sits there & allows it. I guess hes also not modelling good behaviour to him neither.