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To leave because of this

29 replies

Krampers · 25/10/2025 13:52

He has a bad habit of never being awake in the mornings.
prefers to be awake overnight so doesn't help out with new baby in the mornings.
He says it is because he works nights so is more awake at night naturally.
we never go to bed together.
His day always starts after 3-4pm and previous I would just do my own thing but now we have a baby I am feeling trapped and almost like a single parent at times.

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Meadowfinch · 25/10/2025 13:58

You've got to the point of sharing a child, and now you want to split because he works nights !!

Perhaps your child might prefer their dad around. Perhaps you could look for a compromise. Perhaps you could look for some daytime help, and stay together.

Presumably this problem will only exist during maternity leave, then you'll go back to work and care will be split between you, dp and childminder.

Raising a child is hard work. Raising a child on your own is harder (I've done it). How will leaving help?

Ivy888 · 25/10/2025 13:53

Did you not talk about how his work /lifestyle would affect his parenting abilities BEFORE making the baby?

ToKittyornottoKitty · 25/10/2025 13:53

Does he not do stuff with the baby at night while you sleep?

monkeysox · 25/10/2025 13:53

Get rid