Do people really think their friends don’t notice re-gifted toiletries?

You need better friends or start a) not giving gifts b) give crap gifts back.

i regift but nothing like what you’ve spoken about, unless it’s new and presented in undamaged packaging then it not given as a gift. I will pass it on but only to someone who wants it e.g I will offer it and say I was given this, it’s not my thing do you want it? But most things these days I donate to a community food bank. I know one of the organisers and will always check they want it. I also give open things but again I tell them what’s been opened.

I think regifting is fine if you get something that’s not you but you know someone who would love it, but regifting crappy bits because you don’t like them without thinking about the recipients is crappy.

I have managed to whittle it down to exchanging gifts with just one friend. I put a lot of thought (and money) into her gifts. She buys me what she would like herself. I have never seen her wearing or using my gifts. I use hers once so she can see them and they are put on eBay. Problem is last birthday she bought an experience for me and knows the person who will carry it out, this experience is my worst nightmare. She doesn’t want to stop exchanging gifts and it’s too awkward for me not to give her one.

Nonsense. The whole point, in this scenario, is that you are not valued and that the donor does not care, but wants a bit of social credit for giving a gift (and is probably hoping to get a reciprocal gift that isn't your unwanted tat).

I try to put thought in gifts, but to assume that people don't is unfair. I don't live near family members who I buy for, and I don't know the contents of their bathroom/wardrobe/jewellery boxes/larder/drinks cabinet and it is hard to buy for them. I usually end up asking them what they want for Christmas instead.

As we get older most of us don't need any more "stuff" so it makes them even more difficult to buy for.

My husband's nan regifed a bath set to me we gave her one year...

"I was given this deodorant as part of a set...you smell badly, so I thought you could use it"

Exactly! feeling like someone is offloading an unwanted item makes you feel like they are giving you any old rubbish.

I would rather they didnt bother at all than pretend (lie) they bought you something just for you.

Edited as a pp had already asked you

Got a regifted toiletry set in work once in a secret Santa. We knew who we had to buy for. The set was dusty and the date was so old I put it straight in the bin. The woman was on my team of 10 so we all earn the same n I was very offended

I very rarely regift but I do end up getting loads of toiletries that I can't use. I end up just donating them to school/scout raffles the next year.

If you are worried about the environmental impact then don't pour perfume down the sink. It's expensive and can easily be sold on if you don't want it.

When the DC were small and were attending constant birthday parties I regularly regifted unwanted gifts (usually doubles of things we already had). Seems perfectly reasonable to me and ten to fifteen years ago that was considered completely normal on here. Far better to regift than to throw away.

As far as gifts from friends go, I don't exchange gifts with friends, beyond small food or drink gifts when invited over. My family exchange books from our Amazon wish lists so no problem there. DH's family are the biggest issue because they are believers in choosing a perfect meaningful gift for the other person. Except, nobody does that, their own taste always intervenes. So, e.g. my family all have Amazon wishlists but I can predict what each person will buy me from my list based on their own tastes. My Mum is particularly bad for this (last year she complained my Amazon list was 'boring') and so my tennagersà now generate a 'suitable for Grandma' wishlist of things they know she'll be happy to buy.

I always get stuff like that, and I take it to the women’s shelter along with anything like PJs I don’t like.

Agree, its like you don't matter enough to give it thought, oh it'll do it's only x. Unwanted gifts should just go to charity shops or raffle prize collections. Bayliss and Harding exists purely for the passive aggressive to buy for people they don't really like.

I don’t know, she used to be in and out of my house all the time, it wasn’t unusual for her to come for coffee nearly every day then she stopped. I did ask if I’d said something, she said no. Then in January she crossed the road to avoid speaking, i know she’d seen me, she was only a few feet away!
I was very hurt but 🤷🏼‍♀️

Laughing at this thread because my husband received an, obviously re-gifted, Lynx deodorant and body spray last Christmas 🎄 He is 49 and was not impressed... 🤣

A friend once moaned to me about a wellness box she had ordered for herself when ill (bit like a beauty box) saying there was a hideous cheap pair of ugly grey nylon socks included. Guess what I unwrapped a couple if weeks later at Christmas.

Why not buy something they would actually like?

If I don't like it then I won't regift as I think the other person won't like it as well. I'm a primary school teacher and in the past I used to get loads of hand creams , candles, toiletries etc (amazingly the last few years the parents have done a collection and have given me vouchers - so brilliant). I really appreciated the gesture but every year I ended up with lots of unused stuff and it's such a waste. I just gave the stuff away to friends and family asking them first if they wanted them and not as a gift.

Someone cares enough to give you something. That really should be enough for you. Regifting means not wasting things too. If youre not a xhild then be thankful you are valued enough to be given a gift.

We’ll find out this Christmas…

I could fill a thread about their behaviour- Christmas regifting is just the tip of a really shit iceberg

Gifting is such a con ( not to kids / family members etc )
We buy a gift for a friend , they buy one back . Nothing is gained . Just get yourself something you like .

" Its the thought that counts " is often quoted . I don't need a thought . I know my friends like me so that's enough.

I'd rather spend my money in December on buying a few extra items for the foodbank .

Have they commented on the presents having stopped? Do they still persist?

I am wondering why you have continued to remain close friends with these people op?

Why is this good enough?