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Do people really think their friends don’t notice re-gifted toiletries?

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MoustachaNatasha · 24/10/2025 13:32

I know this will sound ungrateful, and I know the obvious answers are “just stop doing gifts,” “be glad you got anything at all,” or “maybe that’s all they can afford.” I get all of that, but that’s not really my question.
I always put thought into gifts I think my friends will genuinely like, but every year I seem to receive a random mix of toiletries or odds and ends that I can’t use, and feel too embarrassed to re-gift. Some of them are literally the free gifts you get when buying full sizes. They go straight into a cupboard and today I’m bagging them up to donate to my DD’s Christmas fair. It even crossed my mind that I’ll probably end up receiving something back from there in the next round of gifts.
So my actual question is: if you re-gift toiletries, do you honestly believe the recipient won’t notice, or do you just not care if they do?
Genuinely curious how others see this.

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JillMW · 24/10/2025 14:53

My offspring arrive with beautiful expensive gifts that I could never afford. I take great joy in regifting to friends who I know would love the item. Usually I say but sometimes if I am expectedly going somewhere with a friend I might take them a bottle of Boli or a nicely packaged scent/ candle that I know they like and then I would not say as I usually leave it on their hall table as I leave.
i have friends who leave random gifts, sometimes with a raffle ticket attached. Lovely friends whom I love because of their personalities..

Zippedydodah · 24/10/2025 14:52

I have very rarely regifted anything. Last Christmas a ‘friend’ (who was very snobby about what toiletries she used and hated Bayliss & Harding) gave me a clearly regifted present of not only B&H but the donor had written greetings on the cardboard box!
It was very badly wrapped too, and clearly a last minute effort after I’d had a lovely Christmas bouquet delivered to her the previous day.
Since then she’s totally blanked me, hence the invert commas! Until that point we’d been what I thought good friends, even holidaying together 🤷🏼‍♀️

abbynabby23 · 24/10/2025 14:51

MoustachaNatasha · 24/10/2025 13:32

I know this will sound ungrateful, and I know the obvious answers are “just stop doing gifts,” “be glad you got anything at all,” or “maybe that’s all they can afford.” I get all of that, but that’s not really my question.
I always put thought into gifts I think my friends will genuinely like, but every year I seem to receive a random mix of toiletries or odds and ends that I can’t use, and feel too embarrassed to re-gift. Some of them are literally the free gifts you get when buying full sizes. They go straight into a cupboard and today I’m bagging them up to donate to my DD’s Christmas fair. It even crossed my mind that I’ll probably end up receiving something back from there in the next round of gifts.
So my actual question is: if you re-gift toiletries, do you honestly believe the recipient won’t notice, or do you just not care if they do?
Genuinely curious how others see this.

I guess they don’t care as long as they offer something. We have stopped buying presents for friends for years now as you always end up with random things. Usually on birthdays our group of friends organises a surprise experience followed by a dinner for the birthday person (lots of thinking goes there to make sure fits the person’s interests) and for new years that we usually spend together people bring in expensive wines or cheeses etc to contribute to the meal. We all of us have kids and some years we even agreed before meeting for the new years party not to buy presents for the kids cause all of them have lots. We are super comfortable to discuss all that with each other. If you regularly get random things maybe discuss with your friends to start new transitions!

NomoneyNoprospects · 24/10/2025 14:51

I think it's usually quite obvious when anything at all has been regifted, unless its a very nice brand like L'Occitane that the original person for some reason doesn't want. I hate being given any toiletries really because i think skincare is very personal, especially the really crummy stuff like Baylis & Harding (can anyone actually get it to fucking lather?) I wouldn't dream of regifting anyone this stuff and usually these items go straight to the charity shop or in the bin.

Someone came to DD's birthday party and gave her one of the most crappy art sets I've ever seen, this person had similar aged kids and was certainly not short of money, it was very obviously an unwanted gift. I was quite pissed off at that because you really don't have to spend more than a few quid on a nice gift for a toddler.

Rozes64 · 24/10/2025 14:46

I try to buy gifts I think will mean something to the recipient, I've only once re gifted and it was something nice, it just wasn't a scent I liked. I think it's a bit insulting tbh, because it's hardly giving when you offload free samples

Skyflyinghigh · 24/10/2025 14:42

I will regift if good quality products that I just won’t use. Anything high street I’d give to charity etc (though I tend to use most things I’m gifted)

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Jiski · 24/10/2025 14:39

If it’s a packaged gift I would, but never something opened or a free gift.

My MIL has a Christmas sack of random £1ish presents that she lets people do a lucky dip from and it has random things in like toiletries, chocolate, gloves, socks, reusable shopping bags etc. It’s funny when people get a ‘booby prize.’ If you put them in something like this then free samples are ok I think.

Bonbon249 · 24/10/2025 14:39

One of my friends is a notorious regifter - one year she gave me soap (I don't use soap - sensitive skin) so, to see if she noticed, I gifted it back to her. Nothing was said but I got it back the following year! 😊 So, I think people just don't think others will notice!

Dacatspjs · 24/10/2025 13:51

No idea. My mum always gives me makeup at Christmas and it's always the free samples that you get when you buy from one of the higher end brands that she uses.