Sensitive - Do people believe that male rape is worse than if a woman is raped?

Yes, would be interesting to know stats to compare. How often men who rape men are convicted vs those who rape women. I bet it is a higher percentage.

I'm not but I suspect that you have very poorly chosen the words you used in your post to actually articulate your question.

By asking if something is worse, it implies something can be better. That's categorisation.

If your question is actually "do you think that society normalises sexualise abuse against women?" that's a fair and reasonable question but that's not what you asked.

You attempted to categorise rape but your choice of words and that implies that their is a better type of rape. Words matter and you've just them poorly and insultingly.

I think it’s a violation no matter who is the victim. Support systems differ, but in most situations, I would assume a straight man is far more likely to be believed, albeit might be harder for them to go to the police about it.

Because they can victim blame and say he must have been asking for it, like they do with a woman, consciously or subconsciously.

We’re talking about rape victims , not people walking home alone who haven’t been raped.

She did- read the title!

Perhaps it is but it isn’t really in the common sort of view or parlance, is it?

If a man is wearing cycling shorts or swimming trunks people don’t make remarks about him asking for it. If a schoolboy wears shorts we don’t call him jailbait. If a man walks home alone we don’t comment about what an unwise move it was, or if he’s been drinking heavily we don’t make well what did you expect type comments.

I don't think it's true that male victims aren't shamed and blamed. Even more so if they are gay.

As it is for men, of which I’ve been informed by professionals working in the field of the crime going to court.

No, you didn’t, I’m glad you brought it up. It’s certainly made me pause and think.

I think the thing about anal rape, victim being male or female, is that it would be incredibly painful. Well to hat is my perception but I've never been raped. So if a rape is reported on and it is anal penetration or is also anal then it has an added sense of horror for me.

Having said that many years ago I worked for the vice squad in my city and talking to prostitutes who were being processed I realised we all have different views eg I'd be told kissing on the lips was more personal than sex and oral sex was less personal than sex. It didn't seem logical to me but then I wasn't the one doing it.

I agree with this and think it is well put. I guess the anal aspect of it makes it ‘worse’ as well; of course this happens to women too

@Spookyseason13 i think it’s a really interesting topic. I remember when a character on Hollyoaks had this storyline in the 1990s, I think, and it being shocking and controversial. It’s been repeated a few times and feels like for shock value every time.

Rape is rape no matter what the sex of a person. I speak from experience. to hear of a raped man is 'unusual', hence the shock factor.
it should make no matter if the victim is gay or not, that is like saying a sex worker cannot be raped.

I guess it's seen as worse if the victim was the 'wrong' sexuality. Like I reckon if a gay guy was raped they'd get less sympathy than if it was a straight guy? I could be wrong. I don't agree with that btw as it's homophobic.

But any rape is vile.

Actually I want to delete playing any part in this conversation.

No. She asked whether people think it’s worse. That isn’t the same at all.

I guess, if you look at it objectively, anal rape is probably more painful overall.

But women can be raped like that too. They're both equally horrendous crimes.

You set it up as "which is worse" competition with this thread!

Quantifying which is "worse" is pointless and distasteful. And whether the victim is male or female is only one factor among many that might determine the nature of their trauma.

Not it isn’t.

What a horrible, vicious and outright wrong statement. Hopefully your son doesn’t grow up to be as nasty as you.

Both horrific.