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Need a virtual hand hold , husband vomiting blood

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Justmeeeindie · 23/10/2025 14:21

Still frazzled so sorry if this is all over the place husband has been constipated for around 10 days doing usual things laxative tons of water lots of fibre , he went to a&e at my insistence on Tuesday early hours as he was awake all night crying in pain, I’ve never seen him in as much pain and vomiting profusely
he went to a&e waited 4 hours to be basically fobbed off , they felt his stomach said it was just constipation told him to continue laxatives at home .

today he woke up around 11 in agony he vomited it was dark like coffee which in retrospect should have been warning sign anyways he tried to get back to sleep then shouted me not much later from bathroom , he was vomiting loads of bright red blood (no exaggeration there was a lot) and passing in and out of consciousness eyes rolling the lot , he passed out atleast 8 times whilst I was on phone to the ambulance , he peed himself at one point .

I was terrified I’m still shaking ambulance came pretty fast(20mins ) but he’s been waiting in ambulances at a&e for over 2 hours now .

I'm stuck at home with the kids , there off school (hand foot and mouth ) thanks to the two year old .
I don’t know what to do right now , I genuinely though he was dying , he kept saying he was and I had to calm him down telling him he will be fine all the while thinking he was actually dying .

no idea yet what’s actually wrong but I’m thinking bowel blockage (which I suspected on Tuesday hence making him go to a&e) or ulcer .

don’t know purpose of this post just need to let it out , the waiting on update is torture .

OP posts:
domlolreu · 23/10/2025 23:00

HNRTFT apart from OP comments. Your partner should not be discharged without an urgent endoscopy! They need to rule out varices and any other medical issues that can be fixed asap.

Getagrip22 · 23/10/2025 22:58

How scary, I hope he gets well soon

BinNightTonight · 23/10/2025 22:53

Hope he is okay and A&E give him a more thorough check up!

ByeByeThyroid · 23/10/2025 22:35

Hope he’s ok

VaccineSticker · 23/10/2025 22:26

PrawnofthePatriarchy · 23/10/2025 21:44

I spent more than three weeks in hospital this year with pneumonia and pleurisy. Pleurisy is, I'm told, one of the most painful conditions you can have.

I cannot praise the kindness and medical care I received too highly. I left feeling so grateful.

People are always running the NHS down but it can be wonderful.

Pleased you had excellent care, that’s how it should be, but it’s a postcode lottery and down to sheer luck to what you get. Sadly not everyone is receiving the care you got. You are extremely lucky.

TheBeaTgoeson1 · 23/10/2025 21:49

@ThatMerryFatballAI nonsense.

OP, hope he’s okay, what a nightmare for you all.

PrawnofthePatriarchy · 23/10/2025 21:44

VaccineSticker · 23/10/2025 20:23

Wake up and smell the coffee. This is not an isolated incident.
I tell you what? Carry on sticking your head in the sand.

I spent more than three weeks in hospital this year with pneumonia and pleurisy. Pleurisy is, I'm told, one of the most painful conditions you can have.

I cannot praise the kindness and medical care I received too highly. I left feeling so grateful.

People are always running the NHS down but it can be wonderful.

Lilacblu · 23/10/2025 21:27

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 23/10/2025 21:06

ApiratesaysYarrr · 23/10/2025 20:37

Please don't quote this in your complaint, as it looks like generic tripe that a medical student might say, is clearly American practice (from the spelling and use of Ringer's), and there are some glaring errors (no point in doing faecal occult blood if the patient is actually vomiting/crapping blood - it's not occult blood, it's visible) and some glaring admissions (no coagulation profile, no mention of actual risk stratification scores that will help to predict who can and can't be discharged, transfusion targets (there is evidence of harm when over- transfusing, it's clinical judgement).

Looks like ChatGPT. So very likely incorrect. Chat can be useful for some things but should not be trusted for medical

ApiratesaysYarrr · 23/10/2025 20:37

ThatMerryFatball · 23/10/2025 17:23

Here is a guidline of treatments/Investigations. Do you have anyone who can advocate for him
⚠️ 1. Initial Assessment

  • A → Airway, B → Breathing, C → Circulation
  • Vital signs: Check for hypotension, tachycardia, fever
  • Assess for complications:
  • Bleeding: Hematemesis, melena, hematochezia, low Hb
  • Perforation: Sudden severe pain, rigid abdomen, free air on X-ray
  • Obstruction: Vomiting, distension, inability to tolerate oral intake
🩸 2. Investigations
  • Blood tests:
  • Full blood count (Hb, WBC)
  • Urea, electrolytes, creatinine
  • Liver function tests
  • Group and cross-match (if bleeding suspected)
  • Amylase/lipase (if perforation or pancreatitis suspected)
  • Stool test: For occult blood or H. pylori antigen (if stable)
  • Imaging:
  • Erect chest X-ray (for free air → perforation)
  • Abdominal ultrasound or CT (if diagnosis uncertain)
  • Endoscopy: Usually done after stabilization, for diagnosis and possible therapy (bleeding control, biopsy).
💊 3. Acute Treatment (in the ED) If unstable or bleeding:
  • IV access ×2, large bore
  • Fluid resuscitation: Normal saline or Ringer’s lactate
  • Blood transfusion if Hb <7 g/dL (or <9 if cardiac disease)
  • IV proton pump inhibitor (PPI):
  • Omeprazole 80 mg IV bolus, then 8 mg/hour infusion
  • NPO (nil per os) – no oral intake
  • NG tube if vomiting or upper GI bleeding
  • Call gastroenterology or surgery urgently for possible endoscopy or intervention
If stable, no bleeding or perforation:
  • Oral or IV PPI: Omeprazole, pantoprazole, or esomeprazole
  • Pain control: Avoid NSAIDs and opioids if possible
  • Test for Helicobacter pylori
  • If positive → Triple therapy:
  • PPI (e.g. omeprazole 20 mg BID)
  • Clarithromycin 500 mg BID
  • Amoxicillin 1 g BID (or metronidazole if penicillin allergy)
  • For 14 days
  • Avoid irritants: NSAIDs, alcohol, smoking, spicy foods
🏥 4. Admission vs. Discharge
  • Admit if:
  • Active bleeding
  • Hemodynamic instability
  • Perforation or obstruction
  • Severe pain or vomiting
  • Elderly or comorbid patients
  • Discharge with outpatient follow-up if:
  • Stable
  • No red flags
  • Can tolerate oral meds and fluids
  • Given H. pylori test and PPI prescription
🧠 5. Follow-up
  • Review in 2–4 weeks
  • Repeat endoscopy if:
  • Ulcer was gastric (to rule out malignancy)
  • Symptoms persist
  • Ensure eradication of H. pylori confirmed by breath or stool test (after 4 weeks off PPI)

Please don't quote this in your complaint, as it looks like generic tripe that a medical student might say, is clearly American practice (from the spelling and use of Ringer's), and there are some glaring errors (no point in doing faecal occult blood if the patient is actually vomiting/crapping blood - it's not occult blood, it's visible) and some glaring admissions (no coagulation profile, no mention of actual risk stratification scores that will help to predict who can and can't be discharged, transfusion targets (there is evidence of harm when over- transfusing, it's clinical judgement).

TY78910 · 23/10/2025 20:34

VaccineSticker · 23/10/2025 20:23

Wake up and smell the coffee. This is not an isolated incident.
I tell you what? Carry on sticking your head in the sand.

wtf

VaccineSticker · 23/10/2025 20:23

Lanzarotelady · 23/10/2025 19:40

What a leap from someone being constipated to the country taking a nose dive

Wake up and smell the coffee. This is not an isolated incident.
I tell you what? Carry on sticking your head in the sand.

Barney16 · 23/10/2025 20:05

I don't know anything medical but it sounds very scary and I hope he feels better soon.

dottycat123 · 23/10/2025 19:57

There are lots of possible diagnoses based on the symptoms described. They must exclude an obstruction which is not always due to constipation. I would be surprised if they discharge him without excluding his bowel is obstructed, ask the medics if they think he is at risk of perforating and get them to document you have raised this as a concern.

EBearhug · 23/10/2025 19:55

My mother needed a transfusion and then they did an endoscopy. I think she had a burst variocele, which is like in internal varicose vein. I may have forgotten details. And she was an alcoholic.

I'd be worried about the constipation along with the vomiting- if he's been taking laxatives and then vomiting, they won't be able to take effect, unless he's using pessaries, I'd have thought.

I hope you are with him and he's not getting discharged yet.

Idontknowhatnametochoose · 23/10/2025 19:50

He does need to be tested for a perforated ulcer. A friend had this and needed emergency surgery or she would have died.

I'm shocked and horrified that a+e aren't taking this seriously. What the hell has the NHS come to?

WearyCat · 23/10/2025 19:45

Push for scans. He may have a perforation and that will lead to peritonitis and potentially sepsis. I have some experience of watching this happen; fortunately the medics here knew it was serious from the pain and vomiting.

Here for you.

janamo · 23/10/2025 19:43

Lanzarotelady · 23/10/2025 18:52

I can assure you, they will have done bloods which will have checked if they needed to transfuse him!

OK, OK doc. I take it that you are medically qualified and can tell me off. I submit to your superior knowledge, and Cross Match please!.

Lanzarotelady · 23/10/2025 19:40

VaccineSticker · 23/10/2025 19:30

This country has taking a nose dive.

When a country stops investing in its own people, everything stops there and then.

What a leap from someone being constipated to the country taking a nose dive

VaccineSticker · 23/10/2025 19:30

Justmeeeindie · 23/10/2025 17:56

Yes very he hasn’t had any movements at all in days

This country has taking a nose dive.

When a country stops investing in its own people, everything stops there and then.

gigglygrace · 23/10/2025 19:07

You poor thing ( and your husband! ). Retired surgical nurse here, do not let them discharge him without ruling out a bowel obstruction. The symptoms present as constipation, followed by vomiting, pain etc. It happened to my dad, as well as experiencing it as a nurse

AllTheChatsAboutTea · 23/10/2025 19:01

Sending you a handhold OP. That sounds very scary.

MissMoneyFairy · 23/10/2025 18:57

Lanzarotelady · 23/10/2025 18:52

I can assure you, they will have done bloods which will have checked if they needed to transfuse him!

Yes, he would have had bloods taken to check various things and hopefully iv drugs to help stop the bleeding, sickness and acid.

Lanzarotelady · 23/10/2025 18:52

janamo · 23/10/2025 18:28

But then again he MAY need them, how would anyone know if he's kicked out with no diagnostics to speak of?

I can assure you, they will have done bloods which will have checked if they needed to transfuse him!

janamo · 23/10/2025 18:28

Lanzarotelady · 23/10/2025 18:18

You had the same - a number of years ago - probably when beds weren't at a premium as they are now -

You may have needed a blood transfusion - the OP husband may not
You may have needed iron transfusion - the OP husband may not

But then again he MAY need them, how would anyone know if he's kicked out with no diagnostics to speak of?