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How much do you drink? Honestly!

556 replies

Starlight1984 · 23/10/2025 10:31

And yes, yes I know there is an "alcohol support" section of MN but this isn't for help or advice or anything other than curiosity!

Just been reading on another thread about what people do and don't do which others would find unusual and a LOT of the posts include people saying they don't drink alcohol which I find insane as pretty much everyone I know drinks to some degree!

Anyway I'll start, I don't (or try not to!) drink from Mon - Thurs but on average will have a bottle of wine on Friday, Saturday and Sunday evenings. So 3 x bottles of wine a week. I know it's above the guidelines of "normal" drinking and know I need to cut down but it's something I genuinely enjoy. DH is the same. We never get drunk. We just slowly drink 3-4 glasses over the course of the evening (from about 6pm to 11ish) whilst making dinner, sitting down to eat, watching a film / reading a book... It's just something that helps us to unwind after a busy week!

So for AIBU

YABU - No thanks, would rather have a cup of tea.
YANBU - Pour me a large one!

OP posts:
ComfortFoodCafe · 23/10/2025 17:42

I got drunk about 6 weeks ago on rum and had to crawl to bed, that was it for me. havent drank since, dont plan to again.

GreyChicken · 23/10/2025 17:40

Zero.

It's the bad sleep I get, the calories, the snacking cravings, it's just not worth it for me.

applecharlotte · 23/10/2025 17:37

I stopped drinking 2 years ago. Was just feeling crap the day after even after just one of two glasses of wine. I loved wine but now have more energy, better skin and lower anxiety levels so think it was worth it for me.

DorothyCrowfootHodgkin · 23/10/2025 17:35

I don't drink much (usually only when with friends - very, very rarely when home with DP, although he'll have a beer or a glass of wine Friday - Sunday evenings) but that's because I don't particularly enjoy it. So I probably don't count in your poll because my low drinking is not due to restraint!

missmollygreen · 23/10/2025 17:29

Holluschickie · 23/10/2025 10:36

Maybe 1 glass of wine or one small gin a month. DH doesn't drink and I dislike drinking alone. Don't need the calories either.

Do you just throw the rest of the bottle of wine away?

SusanChurchouse · 23/10/2025 17:26

I stopped drinking in 2021 when I realised I had a problematic relationship with alcohol. I’m the only one in my social circle who doesn’t though. My friends tell me they have half to a bottle of wine a week normally, a bit more on holiday or during festive season,

ColinVsCuthbert · 23/10/2025 17:22

I'm early 40s, definitely slowing down (have been for a while though). I don't drink Sun-Thur as a general rule, but do have 2-3 glasses of wine on average on a thur-fri night with DH or a friend. I've started cutting out alcohol on Saturdays so that is TBD on my no booze days list as I enjoy feeling fresh and more energetic Sundays to give me a day to handle the kids. Saturdays they are in activities all day, so Friday affects me less if I have a glass or two and watch some bake off. My younger days were a free for all. No judgement to anyone here.

Didimum · 23/10/2025 17:15

So you're not drinking 3 bottles of wine a week, you are sharing a bottle of wine with DH x3 days a week. so you're drinking 1.5 bottles, so about 15 units, when the recommendation is 14.

It's not that problematic if that's the case.

I don't know why everyone gets so defensive over how much they drink versus the recommendation – it's not a moral judgement, it's the statistical point at which someone is at higher risk. If someone wants to drink more than that, then go for it, but it is what it is.

I also see no value in judging alcohol use by 'getting drunk' or not. That's not a measurable factor.

ETA: And I like a drink as much as the next person, but it's a bit sporadic. Some weeks I'll exceed, then I won't have anything for a week or two.

squeakybanana · 23/10/2025 17:13

Starlight1984 · 23/10/2025 14:25

Oh for gods sake.

I was reading a thread in which many, many commentors said they don't drink and I thought how weird it was how on MN, that's usually the case but it's the complete opposite in my "real life" where pretty much everyone I know drinks. That is all!

If you managed to get any judgment from my OP then that says more about you than about me.

Oh come on- if people said that they found your alcohol consumption per week to be "insane" - I am sure you would find that somewhat judgy so dont pretend your comments were not judgy.

So what if your friends drink?- is it really incomprehensible to you that there are people out there who dont drink? I'd say this thread is pretty well balanced between those who dont drink and those who do. So all this finding people who make different life choices to be "insane" is a little bit silly.

pinkbackground · 23/10/2025 17:10

None. I stopped drinking around 3 years ago.

ThePoshUns · 23/10/2025 17:00

Pretty much the same as you OP, a bottle of Chardonnay over the course of the evening on a Friday and Saturday and maybe half a bottle of red with Sunday lunch. I don’t drink spirits and am healthy and fit in my diet and exercise so I don’t worry about it. Most of my social circle is the same. We are mid to late fifties.

Zippedydodah · 23/10/2025 16:56

NimbleDreamer · 23/10/2025 16:26

Pretty boring but I don't drink at all. It has never agreed with me even when I was younger and drinking at parties etc. Sometimes I would have 1 or 2 drinks and would start to feel sick. Maybe I am alcohol intolerant, who knows? But I haven't drank at all for many years now since my early 20s and I don't miss it.

This sums me up too!

Zippedydodah · 23/10/2025 16:55

I doubt I have the equivalent of a bottle of wine a year, I can’t remember the last time I drank alcohol.
I I have no need to drink, I am an incredibly lightweight drinker anyway, I hate the feeling that I get from drinking alcohol. I have never been drunk in my life.

PrissyGalore · 23/10/2025 16:45

A couple of drinks a week doesn’t mean you’re dependant on alcohol! Just like a round of toast with butter a couple of times a week mean you!re a dairy fiend or a pudding a couple of times a week mean you’re a sugar addict. I look forward to my homemade apple crumble in exactly the same way as I look forward to my glass of wine. Yet one is judged, the other isn’t.

Strawberryorangejuice · 23/10/2025 16:42

It crept up to most days in the summer and about four bottles total a week. I cut right back. It's usually two bottles a week now, which I still think is too much. I try to have at least two days without any

PrivatePrivacy · 23/10/2025 16:40

In the last 2 years I had few gin and tonics on a work night out, one of those small bottles of white wine, most of a bottle of Baileys (over about 4 months) and one very weak cocktail last week.

I remember because

  • going on a work night out is rare.
  • I felt like I'd died the morning after the wine.
  • I've realised I dont really like Baileys.
  • the cocktail was weak but I felt a bit loud after it and had that thing where you cant sleep if you are drunk.

So Id say I dont drink really. Im never drinking wine again!

BunnyLake · 23/10/2025 16:40

NimbleDreamer · 23/10/2025 16:26

Pretty boring but I don't drink at all. It has never agreed with me even when I was younger and drinking at parties etc. Sometimes I would have 1 or 2 drinks and would start to feel sick. Maybe I am alcohol intolerant, who knows? But I haven't drank at all for many years now since my early 20s and I don't miss it.

Same with me. I literally start feeling woozy after just one mouthful of wine. A glass would have me snoring, even when I was younger. I’ve always said it acts like an anaesthetic on me, one glass and I’m out cold before I can count to three. And just a small amount gives me a headache.

KookyRoseCrab · 23/10/2025 16:40

NimbleDreamer · 23/10/2025 16:26

Pretty boring but I don't drink at all. It has never agreed with me even when I was younger and drinking at parties etc. Sometimes I would have 1 or 2 drinks and would start to feel sick. Maybe I am alcohol intolerant, who knows? But I haven't drank at all for many years now since my early 20s and I don't miss it.

Your not boring at all

KookyRoseCrab · 23/10/2025 16:39

cbr333 · 23/10/2025 16:29

I drink a glass or two of wine every night and probably 2-3 bottles (total) over the duration of Friday, Saturday and Sunday. I know it’s too much but I have a stressful job, young kids and am active social life. I have just done dry September so I know I can stop but at the moment I enjoy a nice glass of wine and I enjoy my life!

See i don’t like wine of any kind Red ,white or Rose , a few people have said your not buying the right kind off wine but it all tastes like vinegar to me and husband someone else said your not buying need to buy a bottle of the dear stuff

BunnyLake · 23/10/2025 16:34

Starlight1984 · 23/10/2025 11:03

I doubt it - I'm in my 40s!

Having said that, reading a lot of comments, people say that they can't drink for reasons such as having bad hangovers. I am lucky in that I've never really had hangovers (even when I used to drink massively in my 20s!) but if I did then yes, I probably wouldn't drink anywhere near as much.

That’s not luck. The worst thing your body can do when drinking is not give you a hangover. It gives you a very false sense of security.

cbr333 · 23/10/2025 16:29

I drink a glass or two of wine every night and probably 2-3 bottles (total) over the duration of Friday, Saturday and Sunday. I know it’s too much but I have a stressful job, young kids and am active social life. I have just done dry September so I know I can stop but at the moment I enjoy a nice glass of wine and I enjoy my life!

NimbleDreamer · 23/10/2025 16:26

Pretty boring but I don't drink at all. It has never agreed with me even when I was younger and drinking at parties etc. Sometimes I would have 1 or 2 drinks and would start to feel sick. Maybe I am alcohol intolerant, who knows? But I haven't drank at all for many years now since my early 20s and I don't miss it.

Tagliateriroa · 23/10/2025 16:24

Nothing Monday - Thursday. Friday usually half a bottle of wine and a nice big G&t, Couple of glasses of wine on a Saturday and occasionally I glass of wine on a Sunday. I am very disciplined and never go over that. I never ever touch anything in the daytime even at a wedding etc.

Reasontoreason · 23/10/2025 16:23

1-2 glasses of wine per week and if I go out for dinner I will have a glass of wine or a cider. I actually enjoy a drink more now I’m in my 40s .

Totally846 · 23/10/2025 16:20

Thepeopleversuswork · 23/10/2025 15:04

@Starlight1984

And as a drinker I feel like a MASSIVE outlier on MN (although maybe not so much in real life

How old (roughly) are you though? Age is a massive swing factor. If you were asking this question of a group of 20 somethings and most people didn’t drink it would be slightly surprising. Bear in mind a lot of people are over 50 and its a completely different set of rules around alcohol if you’re older.

Actually, I think stats show that younger people nowadays don't drink as much as older generations used to?