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How much do you drink? Honestly!

556 replies

Starlight1984 · 23/10/2025 10:31

And yes, yes I know there is an "alcohol support" section of MN but this isn't for help or advice or anything other than curiosity!

Just been reading on another thread about what people do and don't do which others would find unusual and a LOT of the posts include people saying they don't drink alcohol which I find insane as pretty much everyone I know drinks to some degree!

Anyway I'll start, I don't (or try not to!) drink from Mon - Thurs but on average will have a bottle of wine on Friday, Saturday and Sunday evenings. So 3 x bottles of wine a week. I know it's above the guidelines of "normal" drinking and know I need to cut down but it's something I genuinely enjoy. DH is the same. We never get drunk. We just slowly drink 3-4 glasses over the course of the evening (from about 6pm to 11ish) whilst making dinner, sitting down to eat, watching a film / reading a book... It's just something that helps us to unwind after a busy week!

So for AIBU

YABU - No thanks, would rather have a cup of tea.
YANBU - Pour me a large one!

OP posts:
DarkPassenger1 · 23/10/2025 10:52

On average, probably a couple glasses of wine once or twice per year, sometimes a little more, sometimes a little less.

Whatisthecapickaloffrance · 23/10/2025 10:52

Same as you op, but my wine guzzling days are Friday, Saturday and Wednesday. Love a Wine Wednesday to break up my week. I’ve always been honest with health professionals about how much I drink and none of them have ever expressed any concern over 3 bottles a week. You’re fine.

CharSiu · 23/10/2025 10:52

I hardly ever drink, I’m of Chinese ancestry though born in England and it’s not a big alcohol culture. I get tipsy on literally a single drink. The last time I had alcohol was at a friends house in the summer so beginning of July and I had 2 small measures of gin.

I got drunk 3 years ago when I went out for my birthday and friends bought me drinks. I had 3 cocktails and I was sick later. I felt so awful the next day I really have no idea why people do it to themselves.

EsmeWeatherwaxHatpin · 23/10/2025 10:51

I don’t know. I did dry January and it stuck. But I used to be alcohol free Mon - Thurs and then we’d have a couple of bottles of wine over the weekend between us.

SJM1988 · 23/10/2025 10:51

Sun to Thurs I never drink.
Fri or Sat - maybe a glass of prosecco or a gin a tonic.

Holidays and birthdays a couple of glasses.
Term time I tend to not really drink - its mainly school holidays (I'm not a teacher but have kids in school)

noramoo · 23/10/2025 10:50

Maybe a glass of prosecco at a celebration or a cocktail or two at a nice bar/restaurant a few times a year. Really not interested in alcohol tbh, never have been!

Luckyingame · 23/10/2025 10:50

Honestly?
Zero.
Since I hit certain age, even a little glass of white wine would mean I couldn't function properly and have the "illusion" of being in total control of my life.
It sucks, but there are worse things than not drinking alcohol.

StokePotteries · 23/10/2025 10:50

I go through phases. I do Dry Jan, then often drink just one small 125 ml glass of wine a night, maybe two at weekends for several months. As summer kicks in that creeps up to two glasses a night as standard (1/3 bottle) and that stays until Christmas, when I drink a bit more on special occasions like parties or Christmas Day. I would love to do Sober October and plan to every year but we often go on holiday in October and I completely forget. So, over an entire year it probably averages out at 1.5 bottles of wine per week. I love enjoying wine and a few other drinks. I hate feeling drunk though. So my body automatically stops after 3 glasses.

Lju · 23/10/2025 10:49

I've never been a big drinker. I was ill at the point most teens were testing their livers, so I learned to go out and have fun without the booze. As a result I realised I could save money and have a clear head the following day, but still go out and have a great time. Then I realised my step-dad was an alcoholic and saw him pretty much lose everything and that was the nail in the coffin for me. I sometimes enjoy a mulled wine or cider or baileys or two in the festive season, same for Pimm's or a cold shandy in the summer and the occasional espresso martini, but can equally go without and not be bothered. Would always opt for a soft option when others are drinking wine/fizz. I'm quite interested to monitor it and see how much I actually drink over a year....I'd guess it's about 25 units as an absolute maximum.

My husband on the other hand used to easily finish a bottle or three of wine a week and not think anything of it. He's realising as we're getting older that his waistline can't handle this anymore so has cut back considerably.

All different really!

SprintBack · 23/10/2025 10:48

Maybe a small glass of wine with a home cooked meal on a Friday or Saturday night.

A couple of glasses if we are out, about once a month.

A couple of glasses of an alcoholic drink, most evenings, on holiday and time over Christmas/NY.

WithChips · 23/10/2025 10:47

One or two glasses of white wine Friday night, Saturday night or both. I will make one glass last a long time.
If I go out I will order wine or a white wine spritzer. Never really drink any other type of alcohol.

Starlight1984 · 23/10/2025 10:47

Oh Jesus I'm glad I started this thread now 😂

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sunnydisposition2 · 23/10/2025 10:47

I have at least 2-3 sober nights per week. Then I’ll probably have about two bottles of wine and maybe a couple of gins over the rest of the week. It’s definitely over the 14 recommended units and I know I need to cut down but like you, I enjoy it and I find it hard to give up the things I enjoy. It’s very easy to enjoy a couple of glasses of wine over Sunday lunch or a couple watching a film in the evening.

When I was younger I never drank during the week but was a massive binge drinker at the weekends. I’m not sure which is worse really.

BatchCookBabe · 23/10/2025 10:46

None. Have been teetotal for a year and a half. DH is too. 3 years for him.

Don't miss it, and we have saved loads of money!

GreyCloudsLooming · 23/10/2025 10:45

I don’t drink at all, not even Christmas and birthdays. This was since I was diagnosed with cancer five years ago. But I was only a very moderate drinker before then - a glass of wine at the weekends perhaps. I’ve never been drunk in my life.

ByLemonFish · 23/10/2025 10:45

I was drinking a bottle of wine every night!!!! Started during covid when we were both working in care sector and very stressed
Started using mounjaro end of June, hate the taste of red wine now. Have an occasionally G&T. Have lost 22lbs and I'm sure my liver is pleased

Meadowfinch · 23/10/2025 10:45

One glass of wine at a birthday supper out but seldom anything else.

I have some blackberry liqueur that I'll have one or two over Christmas.

I've already had one brush with cancer, am clear now and intend to do everything I can to stay clear. Alcohol is just another poison the body has to process, that I can easily avoid.

And I'm usually driving so it's easy to say no.

Definitelynotme2022 · 23/10/2025 10:44

When I'm at my bf's house, then I tend to drink, but rarely when I'm at home with my dc's.

Last night we went to the pub and I had to large vodka and tonics. I like it, but I can take it or leave it. I've given up alcohol many times before, once for 2 years, so it's not an issue, it's a social choice.

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 23/10/2025 10:44

I don't drink in the week but probably have one bottle of wine over the weekend. You are on at least 30 units a week, that's a lot!

DeQuin · 23/10/2025 10:44

For me it depends on how old I am when you ask the question. In my 30s I was drinking half a bottle of wine whenever I felt like it (=Mon, Tues, Sun) and at least one or two cocktails on other days (=Wed, Thurs, Fri, Sat). And then more if there were a social occasion. Fast forward to post menopause and a single glass of wine devastates my sleep (night sweats, hot flushes, pounding heart, anxiety the next day) and is just not worth it. I don't think I ever had a problem with alcohol, but in retrospect I was definitely drinking too much. I stopped completely when I was pregnant, and the reality of needing to get up in the night several times a night for five years, and then looking after small demanding people all day definitely changed my behaviour.

worrisomeasset · 23/10/2025 10:43

I don’t drink from Monday to Thursday (unless I’m on holiday or it’s Christmas). I’ll exceed government guidelines on Friday and Saturday and will have a couple of drinks on Sunday (but not too much as I’m usually at work on Monday).

FastFood · 23/10/2025 10:42

I generally don't drink from Sunday to Thursday, unless I'm meeting some friends.
Thursday Friday Saturday, if I stay at home, I'll have a bottle of wine over 3 days, sometimes a little aperitivo on top of that.
If I go out with friends, it can be way more.

Lottapianos · 23/10/2025 10:42

A couple of drinks, a couple of times a week. Maybe a cocktail on Friday, and a half bottle of wine or a couple of pints of ale on a Saturday

I used to be a massive boozer - think 4-5 bottles of wine every weekend. That scares me a bit now. Life is definitely better with less alcohol

Bellabomb · 23/10/2025 10:40

When I was working full time I often used to pour myself a glass of wine and soon as I got home, then have another with dinner. That was 15-20 years ago and since then I've gradually cut down.

Nowadays, I very rarely drink alcohol. I think in the whole of this year I've had maybe two or three glasses of wine, when out for a meal or at a friend's house. I'll probably have a glass with my Christmas dinner, so that'll be four.

On an everyday basis, I just don't crave it any more like I used to. I'd rather have a nice mug of tea, favourites being Rooibos, camomile, green, white, Earl Grey and oolong.

FuzzyPuffling · 23/10/2025 10:39

A glass of Prosecco with Christmas lunch.

And a thimbleful at communion.

Truly, I don't drink.