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How much do you drink? Honestly!

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Starlight1984 · 23/10/2025 10:31

And yes, yes I know there is an "alcohol support" section of MN but this isn't for help or advice or anything other than curiosity!

Just been reading on another thread about what people do and don't do which others would find unusual and a LOT of the posts include people saying they don't drink alcohol which I find insane as pretty much everyone I know drinks to some degree!

Anyway I'll start, I don't (or try not to!) drink from Mon - Thurs but on average will have a bottle of wine on Friday, Saturday and Sunday evenings. So 3 x bottles of wine a week. I know it's above the guidelines of "normal" drinking and know I need to cut down but it's something I genuinely enjoy. DH is the same. We never get drunk. We just slowly drink 3-4 glasses over the course of the evening (from about 6pm to 11ish) whilst making dinner, sitting down to eat, watching a film / reading a book... It's just something that helps us to unwind after a busy week!

So for AIBU

YABU - No thanks, would rather have a cup of tea.
YANBU - Pour me a large one!

OP posts:
changedwoman123 · 23/10/2025 11:06

Honestly! Nearly a bottle a night - so probs 5 a week. Lots of people I know the same but you won’t hear that on here .

tuvamoodyson · 23/10/2025 11:06

I drink very seldom….I know several people who are teetotal.

preparingforthepileon · 23/10/2025 11:05

Starlight1984 · 23/10/2025 10:58

Well, because as I said in my post, I was truly surprised to see the amount of people on the other thread who don't drink alcohol and thought "That can't possibly be true! I will start my own thread and be the Pied Piper of the wine drinkers!" And then everyone proceeds to say how they have one glass of prosecco at Christmas and I feel terrible😂

As I said, pretty much ALL of my friends, family, colleagues drink. So I find it genuinely surprising that so many on here say they don't.

But at I'm being honest and maybe this will be what makes me cut down!

I think most of the drinking is done by a relatively small section of society. So it can be true that everyone you know drinks a fair bit (if you are a drinker then you are more likely to have friends who are drinkers, for obvious reasons) but also that most people don't think much.

I've just asked Chat GPT -

Around 20% of the adult population drinks almost 70% of all the alcohol sold in the UK.
The heaviest-drinking 4% of adults account for over 30% of all the alcohol consumed.
Conversely, around 30% of adults either don’t drink at all or drink very little, meaning the “average” per-capita figure can be misleading.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 23/10/2025 11:05

I was going to ask how old you are OP? Just because in my 20s and 30s I was drinking regularly- prob only 2 nights out of 7 were alcohol free and I was easily drinking 3 bottles of wine a week
Now in my 40s I rarely bother. We went on holiday a couple of weeks ago and we both defo drank a LOT more than normal and did not feel good afterwards, it really bought home the reasons we rarely (outside of celebrations) drink, we were saying that the last time we had a drink before October was a bottle of prosecco on my birthday in July, its funny but we hadnt really thought of it or wanted it

BadgernTheGarden · 23/10/2025 11:05

I think you are getting very selective answers, most people who know they drink too much are not prepared to admit it. If you think of a bottle of wine as 6 units even the ones admitting to three bottles of a wine a week are only just over guidelines.

Belladog1 · 23/10/2025 11:04

HappiestSleeping · 23/10/2025 10:58

I was beginning to think it was just me. I have a G&T pretty much every night, and then a beer or two.

I like the taste. I've yet to find a soft drink I like as much.

I don't like soft drinks either. I usually drink tea up until 9pm, then at 9pm I like a glass of wine in front of the TV. I might have a 2nd if I feel like it.

On a Friday I definitely have 2 glasses, occasionally 3.

lifeonthelane · 23/10/2025 11:04

I used to have a bottle of wine every Friday and Saturday night. Now I have maybe 1 or two bottles a month - but when I have a drink, I have the whole bottle. I also drink for social occasions. I don't get hungover as such, but I got fed up of feeling tired/groggy and not having enough energy for the kids at the weekend. Still get that when I do drink - but I really enjoy a prosecco so haven't gone completely teetotal!

Starlight1984 · 23/10/2025 11:03

Holluschickie · 23/10/2025 11:00

You are maybe younger than many of us who don't drink?

I doubt it - I'm in my 40s!

Having said that, reading a lot of comments, people say that they can't drink for reasons such as having bad hangovers. I am lucky in that I've never really had hangovers (even when I used to drink massively in my 20s!) but if I did then yes, I probably wouldn't drink anywhere near as much.

OP posts:
Craftysue · 23/10/2025 11:03

I had to stop drinking about 10 years ago due to long term medication. I wasn't a heavy drinker but I did like a glass of wine occasionally.
I don't really miss it but I do occasionally fancy a glass of wine - I haven't found any alcohol free options that are really good but I will keep trying

preparingforthepileon · 23/10/2025 11:03

Lottapianos · 23/10/2025 10:42

A couple of drinks, a couple of times a week. Maybe a cocktail on Friday, and a half bottle of wine or a couple of pints of ale on a Saturday

I used to be a massive boozer - think 4-5 bottles of wine every weekend. That scares me a bit now. Life is definitely better with less alcohol

Did you purposely cut down or just grow out of it, out of interest?

mumonthehill · 23/10/2025 11:02

we drink on a Friday, Saturday and Sunday so maybe 3 bottles between 2 of us. I could easily drink a glass of wine a night but do not drink in the week now at all. I occasionally have a gin.

Holluschickie · 23/10/2025 11:00

Starlight1984 · 23/10/2025 10:58

Well, because as I said in my post, I was truly surprised to see the amount of people on the other thread who don't drink alcohol and thought "That can't possibly be true! I will start my own thread and be the Pied Piper of the wine drinkers!" And then everyone proceeds to say how they have one glass of prosecco at Christmas and I feel terrible😂

As I said, pretty much ALL of my friends, family, colleagues drink. So I find it genuinely surprising that so many on here say they don't.

But at I'm being honest and maybe this will be what makes me cut down!

You are maybe younger than many of us who don't drink?

grapesstrawberriespleass · 23/10/2025 11:00

I don’t drink at all anymore really and I don’t even miss it. I drank enough at university - I was the poster child for binge drinker. A bottle of cava as pre drinks, then copious double vodka cokes once at the club x3 nights a week for 3 years. I never even particularly enjoyed the taste of alcohol, at that stage of my life I just wanted to get drunk.

Now at 31 I might have an espresso martini or cocktail on NYE or if I’m out for a special occasion, but it’s not a necessity. I’ve never enjoyed the taste of wine and I can’t imagine craving it as a drink to ‘relax’ to, but I totally understand why those who love wine would!

I think growing up with a parent who drank a lot and wasn’t particularly a nice drunk has likely influenced me to avoid alcohol though.

Seeingadistance · 23/10/2025 10:59

Maybe 6 alcoholic drinks a year, max.

I was a heavy drinker in my youth, stopped drinking when I was pregnant 24 years ago and never really started again. Don’t miss it.

Zodiacrobat · 23/10/2025 10:59

Only very occasionally when out with friends and don’t have to drive home. On average about once every 3 months I would say.

Never drink at home, DH not bothered or interested. Usually drive home after events for convenience and cost (live semi rurally, a taxi can double the price of a night out).

Also find hangovers much more difficult now than when younger. I think I drank my life time allowance in my 20’s and just can’t cope now in my mid 50’s. 2 glasses of wine and I have a headache now.

surprisebaby12 · 23/10/2025 10:59

I don’t drink at all. Once I hit 28 the hangovers suddenly got really bad so it’s just not worth it

Starlight1984 · 23/10/2025 10:58

BatchCookBabe · 23/10/2025 10:54

Why?

Well, because as I said in my post, I was truly surprised to see the amount of people on the other thread who don't drink alcohol and thought "That can't possibly be true! I will start my own thread and be the Pied Piper of the wine drinkers!" And then everyone proceeds to say how they have one glass of prosecco at Christmas and I feel terrible😂

As I said, pretty much ALL of my friends, family, colleagues drink. So I find it genuinely surprising that so many on here say they don't.

But at I'm being honest and maybe this will be what makes me cut down!

OP posts:
HappiestSleeping · 23/10/2025 10:58

Belladog1 · 23/10/2025 10:55

I drink every night. I have 1-2 glasses of wine.

I was beginning to think it was just me. I have a G&T pretty much every night, and then a beer or two.

I like the taste. I've yet to find a soft drink I like as much.

GentleSheep · 23/10/2025 10:55

Nothing at all, honestly! I developed histamine intolerance and any alcohol sets off reactions so I just avoid it.

Garamousalata · 23/10/2025 10:55

Zero.

Belladog1 · 23/10/2025 10:55

I drink every night. I have 1-2 glasses of wine.

MasculineProviderEnergy · 23/10/2025 10:54

This entire year, just one bottle of home brewed cider that was made by a friend. These days alcohol just makes my bladder anxious. I enjoy the taste though, so wouldn't give it up completely.

BatchCookBabe · 23/10/2025 10:54

Starlight1984 · 23/10/2025 10:47

Oh Jesus I'm glad I started this thread now 😂

Why?

HansHolbein · 23/10/2025 10:54

I would rather have a cup of tea. Never been a big drinker. Not a massive fan of the taste. Might have a glass of Prosecco with my MIL every couple of months. I do like red wine, but as I’ve got older I seem to get a raging headache the next day.

At Christmas I’ll have some Bailey’s 😋

Octavia64 · 23/10/2025 10:53

Zero.

been on meds for the last 11 years that are zero alcohol,

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