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Dealing with husband being v grumpy... depression

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Angels1111 · 23/10/2025 10:12

My husband goes through these horrendous mood swings where he's just ...flat...grumpy in his responses to stuff I say..and I don't know how to deal with it anymore.

It's not all the time. But I never know when it's going to come up, it's just random. I find myself communicating with him less and less to protect my peace.

I get he has an illness, but how do you continue to connect to a partner like this? Aibu to want to abandon ship? I would say that I'm quite sensitive and I do wish I had thicker skin.

Eg "hey, I got a pay rise!"
"Okay people get pay rises"
Felt like a gut punch not to be celebrating with him...

"How was your morning?"
"Busy, but good" (this the morning before we were about to go on a holiday leaving at 2pm, I'd had a cold so hadn't prepped, so I expected to be busy)
Proceeds to give me a lecture on how I shouldn't be busy on a holy day
Felt like it made it much worse than it was.

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Erorgreys · 23/10/2025 10:14

Sounds dire

any children enduring this home life as well?